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People looking round our hotel room?

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Randomchat · 15/07/2026 09:05

Staying in a lovely 5* hotel for 2 nights. Total treat, it's lovely.

Yesterday we went out for the day. Came back around 3pm and there were hotel staff in our room showing people around. They wanted to book the place for a wedding. They were right in the room, the woman was in the bathroom looking around. The man had opened the wardrobe.

I asked them immediately to leave and they did but they took their time about it, actually standing by the door commenting on how the room was a bit small. I nearly had to push them out and close the door.

We spoke to the reception staff later and they said it's common to let people look around occupied hotel rooms.

Really? Is this common? Right in the room opening wardrobes, not just putting their heads round the door for a quick look?

We got offered a free drink to compensate.

It's still bugging me this morning. I want to go to reception and make clear to them that no-one is to go in our room. Dh says I'm making a fuss. Cleaners go in there every day so this is no different.

I'm interested to hear if this is indeed normal and I'm over-reacting by being bothered by it?

I'll be wondering all day if someone is looking round our bedroom.

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Gwenhwyfar · 15/07/2026 20:20

outerspacepotato · 15/07/2026 20:14

There were 2 of them and 1 staff. Also, it's possible staff is complicit.

It's really a good thing OP came back when she did and took this higher than the first employee. I would let corporate know, they have a big security problem there.

There's no point worrying about staff stealing from you because many staff members will be able to access your room anyway. You have to have a certain amount of trust just to function in life.

JMSA · 15/07/2026 20:15

Wow, that is really not ok.

outerspacepotato · 15/07/2026 20:14

Gwenhwyfar · 15/07/2026 20:08

I wouldn't worry about theft because the hotel staff was with them. It's more a question of my privacy. I'd be furious if, for example, I had some underwear on the floor or on a chair or they walked in to the room and could hear me in the toilet.

There were 2 of them and 1 staff. Also, it's possible staff is complicit.

It's really a good thing OP came back when she did and took this higher than the first employee. I would let corporate know, they have a big security problem there.

Gwenhwyfar · 15/07/2026 20:08

aloris · 15/07/2026 19:49

Wow, I would find that so upsetting. I would worry about my things being stolen, with random people being allowed into the room like that. And even if nothing was stolen, I would see it as a massive breach of my privacy.

I wouldn't worry about theft because the hotel staff was with them. It's more a question of my privacy. I'd be furious if, for example, I had some underwear on the floor or on a chair or they walked in to the room and could hear me in the toilet.

Gwenhwyfar · 15/07/2026 20:01

I always put do not disturb so no cleaners go into my hotel rooms when I'm staying there, so, no you don't have to accept people going in.

This is different anyway. Usually, they'd show an unoccupied room. If that's not possible, I think a photo should have been enough. They shouldn't invade your space like that.

Allseeingallknowing · 15/07/2026 19:49

Fiendishandfiery · 15/07/2026 19:26

Cmon. Nothing was nicked and a member of staff was there, howver young.

blimey people have imaginations on here. Sometimes it really is just what it says on the tin.

Gross invasion of privacy! No one in their right mind would say this was ok!

aloris · 15/07/2026 19:49

Wow, I would find that so upsetting. I would worry about my things being stolen, with random people being allowed into the room like that. And even if nothing was stolen, I would see it as a massive breach of my privacy.

dippy567 · 15/07/2026 19:32

If the matter was dealt with to your satisfaction and in my view it was i would either not leave a review or leave a review and not mention issue or if i feel i have to say there was an issue but it was dealt with.

It was obviously a cock up that has been rectified and you've done well out of it. I'd be pretty chuffed tbh.

If they'd continued to maintain standard practice etc fair enough. I imagine staff have all been given a good talking too. So dealt with. We all make mistakes...

bittertwisted · 15/07/2026 19:29

AlwaysExtraHot · 15/07/2026 09:46

Also a good point. What if they showed round a potential wedding client and the room they went into had underwear strewn around/sex toys out/old takeaway cartons with flies buzzing around them?

Exactly my thoughts, obviously I’ve never left the fallout from a wild evening scattered around my hotel room 🫠

PussyGaylore · 15/07/2026 19:28

id be livid. Get it on trip advisor to warn others

Fiendishandfiery · 15/07/2026 19:26

SomethingFun · 15/07/2026 19:24

If it’s an expensive 5* hotel I might imagine designer clothes and bags in the wardrobe, expensive toiletries and make up in the bathroom, perhaps if I’m lucky some jewellery or money or a purse that the resident forgot to lock up. I can’t imagine a legitimate couple wanting to look at wedding venues rocking up without an appointment and then shoving their way around where they aren’t invited. I’m sure they were rude and entitled but confidence criminals will be. I am not saying the hotel are in on it at all but I wouldn’t be surprised if this isn’t a common scam that the hotels hush up because it’s terrible for business.

Cmon. Nothing was nicked and a member of staff was there, howver young.

blimey people have imaginations on here. Sometimes it really is just what it says on the tin.

SomethingFun · 15/07/2026 19:24

If it’s an expensive 5* hotel I might imagine designer clothes and bags in the wardrobe, expensive toiletries and make up in the bathroom, perhaps if I’m lucky some jewellery or money or a purse that the resident forgot to lock up. I can’t imagine a legitimate couple wanting to look at wedding venues rocking up without an appointment and then shoving their way around where they aren’t invited. I’m sure they were rude and entitled but confidence criminals will be. I am not saying the hotel are in on it at all but I wouldn’t be surprised if this isn’t a common scam that the hotels hush up because it’s terrible for business.

BiteSizedLife · 15/07/2026 19:23

AlwaysExtraHot · 15/07/2026 18:47

Well, she was busy noseying around the bathroom too.

Yeah fair point

madaboutpurple · 15/07/2026 19:16

You could call their bluff and tell them an expensive camera is missing They will then stop that situation in the future.

NoCommentingFromNowOn · 15/07/2026 19:09

@Ihsk yes but people don’t put their posh hand cream in the safe, or their really expensive cardy…..things can get nicked because they’re nice, doesn’t have to have a black market resale value.

Ihsk · 15/07/2026 19:04

For those who mention about things getting nicked. Not heard of room safes? Or in a couple of hotels where was no safe, locked it it my suitcase

Cooshawn · 15/07/2026 19:02

Absolutely not standard practice at all, no!

When I was younger I worked as an events manager for a hotel and would have always told a couple on a showaround that the bridal suite wasn't available to see if occupied, but I had a 3D walk through to show them.

Nobody should be going in your room. It is your private space that you have paid for exclusive hire of.

ToastSafeFromMothsAndDogs · 15/07/2026 18:59

Sounds like it was all sorted out satisfactorily. I don’t think you now need to leave a negative review.

Also, I actually don’t think the 5* is relevant. This would be super cheeky in any grade of hotel.

AlwaysExtraHot · 15/07/2026 18:47

BiteSizedLife · 15/07/2026 18:36

Anyone sparing a thought for the poor woman about to marry the arrogant arse who barged past the staff and waltzed into someone elses room, looked in all their cupboards before declaring the room is shit and leaving...

Charming

Edited

Well, she was busy noseying around the bathroom too.

mindymoo11 · 15/07/2026 18:44

Randomchat · 15/07/2026 16:03

I'm back. A senior manager was there to speak to us, someone above this morning's guy. Very apologetic.

Their story is that a couple came in without an appointment to see about a wedding. One of the reception staff agreed to show them round the public areas. As they were walking along our corridor the cleaner was just finishing up in our room and they asked if they could have a quick look. They then walked right past the staff member showing them around and walked right into the room. She was shocked and wasn't very forceful in asking them to leave. Then just at that minute we came back.

All of that makes sense to us. The cleaner was indeed in the corridor. Our corridor was on the way to the wedding function space. The girl did look very young and totally our of her depth, the couple were entitled knobs.

The manager wasn't able to explain why we were told it was standard. He said it's absolutely not standard.

He said he has spoken to all the staff involved.

He has offered us one free night and no charge for breakfasts and has left a bottle of champagne and a box of chocolates in our room.

All of the staff here seem very young. We actually commented on it when we checked in that the reception staff looked like they should still be in school and we must be getting old. This morning's manager looked about 25. This afternoon's one looked like a proper grown up.

Anyway, we're happy enough I guess. I don't think they're a crime syndicate or anything, just surprisingly young and inexperienced staff for such a nice hotel.

We're going to drink our champagne now. We've got an early dinner booked then a table in a pub to watch the football. Free breakfast in the morning then heading home.

Dh is now worried that the staff will all be sacked. But I'm not going to worry about that. I'm just going to enjoy my champagne.

We'll chew over what kind of public review we might leave. We'll certainly put something in writing to the hotel I think.

The thing that upset me the most actually was that we thought our room was great. Nicer than anything we've ever stayed in before. And that horrible man strolled out of it saying it felt a bit small and were all the rooms that size?

Hey ho. He might be rich but he's also horrible.

25 is a grown up

Ellebelle01 · 15/07/2026 18:44

It’s not common, I have to view many hotels as part of my job in events, and on many occasions I’m told I cannot see said room type because they are all occupied.

Allthegoodhorses · 15/07/2026 18:43

KeepPumping · 15/07/2026 16:23

Cleaner shouldn"t have been in your room though if you were not checking out and did not request a room clean? Put the Do Not Disturb sign up next time, maybe the cleaner thought you had vacated?

Edited

Cleaners clean the rooms everyday when occupied.

Randomchat · 15/07/2026 18:42

SomethingFun · 15/07/2026 17:59

Ok so a random couple without an appointment managed to wangle a look around and then shoved their way into an occupied hotel room that just happened to be open and went straight for the bathroom and the wardrobe to look round and the hotel management don’t think this is a scam to nick stuff? I’d be fucking furious. Do you have all your things?

We have all our things. We've both checked. I had my bag with me, dh had his wallet, we don't have expensive toiletries or jewellery. So if they were hoping to steal they picked the wrong room.

I honestly don't think the hotel staff were involved. They were just naive. And so am I really. It didn't occur to me that it would be conmen randomly trying to steal from people's rooms by pretending they wanted to book a wedding.

I think the senior manager realises how serious it could have been. I got the feeling he was pretty pissed off with his staff but trying to stay professional and not say as much to me which is fair enough. I don't need to be involved in his staff business.

Anyway, the champagne was lovely and we've eaten all the chocolates even though we're just about to head out for dinner.

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Aslana · 15/07/2026 18:41

I agree with everyone who says this is unacceptable. Never come across it before. Even a quick peake is unacceptable but entering room and bathroom and opening wardrobes is a clear violation of privacy. A strong letter to the hotel management plus critical review has to be sent to whatever social media you use. Apology and some compensation necessary.

AgnesMcDoo · 15/07/2026 18:38

Randomchat · 15/07/2026 16:03

I'm back. A senior manager was there to speak to us, someone above this morning's guy. Very apologetic.

Their story is that a couple came in without an appointment to see about a wedding. One of the reception staff agreed to show them round the public areas. As they were walking along our corridor the cleaner was just finishing up in our room and they asked if they could have a quick look. They then walked right past the staff member showing them around and walked right into the room. She was shocked and wasn't very forceful in asking them to leave. Then just at that minute we came back.

All of that makes sense to us. The cleaner was indeed in the corridor. Our corridor was on the way to the wedding function space. The girl did look very young and totally our of her depth, the couple were entitled knobs.

The manager wasn't able to explain why we were told it was standard. He said it's absolutely not standard.

He said he has spoken to all the staff involved.

He has offered us one free night and no charge for breakfasts and has left a bottle of champagne and a box of chocolates in our room.

All of the staff here seem very young. We actually commented on it when we checked in that the reception staff looked like they should still be in school and we must be getting old. This morning's manager looked about 25. This afternoon's one looked like a proper grown up.

Anyway, we're happy enough I guess. I don't think they're a crime syndicate or anything, just surprisingly young and inexperienced staff for such a nice hotel.

We're going to drink our champagne now. We've got an early dinner booked then a table in a pub to watch the football. Free breakfast in the morning then heading home.

Dh is now worried that the staff will all be sacked. But I'm not going to worry about that. I'm just going to enjoy my champagne.

We'll chew over what kind of public review we might leave. We'll certainly put something in writing to the hotel I think.

The thing that upset me the most actually was that we thought our room was great. Nicer than anything we've ever stayed in before. And that horrible man strolled out of it saying it felt a bit small and were all the rooms that size?

Hey ho. He might be rich but he's also horrible.

Don’t leave a shitty review. The senior manager has apologised and offered you a pretty good deal.

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