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People looking round our hotel room?

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Randomchat · 15/07/2026 09:05

Staying in a lovely 5* hotel for 2 nights. Total treat, it's lovely.

Yesterday we went out for the day. Came back around 3pm and there were hotel staff in our room showing people around. They wanted to book the place for a wedding. They were right in the room, the woman was in the bathroom looking around. The man had opened the wardrobe.

I asked them immediately to leave and they did but they took their time about it, actually standing by the door commenting on how the room was a bit small. I nearly had to push them out and close the door.

We spoke to the reception staff later and they said it's common to let people look around occupied hotel rooms.

Really? Is this common? Right in the room opening wardrobes, not just putting their heads round the door for a quick look?

We got offered a free drink to compensate.

It's still bugging me this morning. I want to go to reception and make clear to them that no-one is to go in our room. Dh says I'm making a fuss. Cleaners go in there every day so this is no different.

I'm interested to hear if this is indeed normal and I'm over-reacting by being bothered by it?

I'll be wondering all day if someone is looking round our bedroom.

OP posts:
Obanotters · 15/07/2026 10:27

Sunseaandtea · 15/07/2026 10:24

Refund one night due to the hotel being responsible for the stress involved on discovering strangers in the room you have paid for.

It has spoilt the whole stay so the whole stay should be refunded.

Cyclebabble · 15/07/2026 10:27

No I would react very badly to someone being shown around my room when I was not there. Many personal things- underwear, business papers or anything else could have been on display. I would complain in writing.

LilyBunch25 · 15/07/2026 10:26

I would be fuming! Yes cleaners do go in but they are employed by the hotel to do a specific job, thats totally different. When we go away (as we are next week for 10 nights) we expect, other than the staff, for that room to be our private space while we're there- thats what you pay for! I would feel really disrespected by the hotel if this was me and then also to be told its common practice...!No thankyou!

Bonkers1966 · 15/07/2026 10:26

I would make sure to put in a written complaint. Also ask for the name and contact details of the regional manager so that you can let them know what happened and make a formal complaint. The cheek of them. At the very least they should offer you a voucher for another stay. BTW, keep using the term 'Formal Complaint' as that freaks folks out for some reason. Hope the manager has spoken to you by now.

Stompythedinosaur · 15/07/2026 10:25

Well done for finding another manager to talk to about it op!

I would have hated this too!

Sunseaandtea · 15/07/2026 10:24

Refund one night due to the hotel being responsible for the stress involved on discovering strangers in the room you have paid for.

Lifepoint · 15/07/2026 10:23

I am seething on your behalf OP!

It doesn’t matter whether it’s a five star hotel or a premier inn - you’ve paid for a private room and didn’t get it. At the very least I’d want every penny of my stay refunded, and compensation for the shock, worry and stress you have endured…on top of which you’d have had no recourse if something had been stolen. The hotel have shown a lack of duty of care and indeed basic common sense.

I once had a disturbed night in a four star (not that the rating matters). Like you OP, I then endured an attempted fob off the following morning. I took it to the general manager who immediately withdrew any charge for both my room and my friend’s separate room. My friend was delighted as she’d been in a separate part of the hotel which was disturbance free!

Clearinguptheclutter · 15/07/2026 10:22

Absolutely not acceptable

I worked in a hotel and no way would this ever be allowed
also just a bit weird, if you wanted to show off a room surely you’d show off a clean and tidy and empty one not one with the risk of someone else’s stuff everywhere (OP might well have nice taste, but it’s not the point)

letshavetea · 15/07/2026 10:15

I’d be furious. It’s a major breach of security and privacy. I can’t understand why you’re protecting the hotel by not naming them though. Especially as breaches of hotel security have been in the press recently.

AgnesMcDoo · 15/07/2026 10:12

Thats appalling and it remotely standard practice

Obanotters · 15/07/2026 10:12

I would be furious and wouldn’t settle for less than a refund. I would be also be furious if it happened in a Premier Inn, but you would think 5* establishments would seek to attract people for whom privacy might be a particular consideration like minor (or not) celebs or business people where information gathered from entering a room could be pretty valuable.

Another76543 · 15/07/2026 10:10

Absolutely not acceptable. I’d be making a proper complaint and also flagging it on a Trip Advisor review.

Anonyanonay · 15/07/2026 10:09

Security risk. Leave a pissy online review. They'll be falling over themselves to compensate you for it if they have any sense.

Gardenisablooming · 15/07/2026 10:08

When you get home make sure you leave a very factual review....

BeKhakiReader · 15/07/2026 10:06

Glad you’ve spoken to someone with more sense. I’d have absolutely hit the roof. What if you’d left personal things lying around. Absolutely shocking.

BMW58 · 15/07/2026 10:05

I think the manager who allowed this is going to be looking for another job shortly.......

Wishimaywishimight · 15/07/2026 10:03

didntlikeanyofthesuggestions · 15/07/2026 09:16

Seems reasonable enough to me. No way I'd get married somewhere without checking what's in the wardrobe. What if it leads to Narnia and half your guests disappear?

You make an excellent point 😂

MyDeftDuck · 15/07/2026 10:02

Oh, so DH says you’re making a fuss! would he feel the same if he was having a nap, you were having sex, ??? Who the fuck allows potential clients to view an occupied hotel room?? Complain to management and keep complaining until you get adequate compensation!

ThriveAT · 15/07/2026 10:02

This is a gross breach of your privacy and security. I would be fuming.

purplecorkheart · 15/07/2026 10:01

I would be furious and this is certainly not standard practice. I would demand on seeing the manager of the hotel and ideally the owner. If the hotel is part of a chain I would be going to head office.

MajorProcrastination · 15/07/2026 10:00

This is gross, it's an invasion of privacy and a huge security no no.

For a 5* that's outrageous too. Not normal.

Namechangefordaughterevasion · 15/07/2026 09:59

This is shocking. I'm glad you have complained again.

We were away last week and when we weren't in the room we'd leave our iPads in there charging. We felt secure doing that because no staff member would be likely to risk their job by nicking something with a low resale value. OTOH, it would only take a second for an opportunistic stranger to unplug one and slip it in their bag.

Clara27 · 15/07/2026 09:58

They said it’s standard practice? No no no! What if you were in your room, would you have received a call or would they have knocked on your door with the couple in tow, or worse, just let themselves in while you were there enjoying the supposed privacy of your room. If it’s standard practice, you would have been informed of the possibility in advance, and then consulted before it actually happened. I’ll bet they thought you’d never know. Definitely escalate it

ILoveLeopard245 · 15/07/2026 09:56

Wow - I would feel really cross about this. Not OK at all in my view.

Laurmolonlabe · 15/07/2026 09:56

Wenttoaweddingonamonday · 15/07/2026 09:42

😂 this is so MN. What exactly do you think the OPs “insurer” is going to do, that’s if she is actually covered for a UK break.

They would talk to the hotel- they don't like being open to unknown risks, showing people around occupied rooms is not normal, whatever the hotel says. Anyone with any sense who goes on breaks has annual travel insurance.

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