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People looking round our hotel room?

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Randomchat · 15/07/2026 09:05

Staying in a lovely 5* hotel for 2 nights. Total treat, it's lovely.

Yesterday we went out for the day. Came back around 3pm and there were hotel staff in our room showing people around. They wanted to book the place for a wedding. They were right in the room, the woman was in the bathroom looking around. The man had opened the wardrobe.

I asked them immediately to leave and they did but they took their time about it, actually standing by the door commenting on how the room was a bit small. I nearly had to push them out and close the door.

We spoke to the reception staff later and they said it's common to let people look around occupied hotel rooms.

Really? Is this common? Right in the room opening wardrobes, not just putting their heads round the door for a quick look?

We got offered a free drink to compensate.

It's still bugging me this morning. I want to go to reception and make clear to them that no-one is to go in our room. Dh says I'm making a fuss. Cleaners go in there every day so this is no different.

I'm interested to hear if this is indeed normal and I'm over-reacting by being bothered by it?

I'll be wondering all day if someone is looking round our bedroom.

OP posts:
Obanotters · 15/07/2026 10:57

Puzzledandpissedoff · 15/07/2026 10:55

I've spoken to a different manager on my way up from breakfast who looked horrified that this has happened. Promised me it's not standard and has promised that he'll investigate and speak to us when we get back. Has assured us that no-one will be in our room today

I wonder if he truly was "horrified" or putting a good face on what he knows perfectly well they do in order to avoid you taking this further Confused

A wedding at a 5* place will be very expensive, and the money's probably driving this. To put it bluntly you're spending on a few nights whereas they're paying ££££, so good luck with that

I wouldn’t book a wedding somewhere that allows random people to view occupied rooms either…

BiteSizedLife · 15/07/2026 10:57

Make this clear in your public reviews on google and trip advisor. I know it should not happen, but it did. And worse - rather than apologising, the hotel's fist response was to tell you that you are wrong and to just put up with it.

How on earth any staff member thoughtany of that was in any way acceptable is baffling.

Ncforthis2267 · 15/07/2026 10:56

I'd be tempted to tell reception that your oh so expensive necklace that was on the side in your bathroom is missing.

Puzzledandpissedoff · 15/07/2026 10:55

I've spoken to a different manager on my way up from breakfast who looked horrified that this has happened. Promised me it's not standard and has promised that he'll investigate and speak to us when we get back. Has assured us that no-one will be in our room today

I wonder if he truly was "horrified" or putting a good face on what he knows perfectly well they do in order to avoid you taking this further Confused

A wedding at a 5* place will be very expensive, and the money's probably driving this. To put it bluntly you're spending on a few nights whereas they're paying ££££, so good luck with that

Emilesgran · 15/07/2026 10:53

TigerRag · 15/07/2026 09:23

They could have waited until the OP had checked out

I wouldn't be happy for reasons PPs have mentioned. Totally understand cleaners going in and I had a worker come in to do a random check in relation to the mattress, again that's fine

Need a rolleye emoji here.
Or "joke passing over head" one.

JustJoinedRightNow · 15/07/2026 10:53

When we were on our honeymoon at a nice upmarket ecostyle resort, we came back to our room after the morning out and found about four mugs/water cups left dirty in the empty dishwasher. We hadn't used them, they clearly had been used for coffee/juice which we didn't drink. I rang reception and found out that the staff had had a mini meeting in our room while we were out! God knows why!

I was so cross, I complained and we got dinner comped but were specifically told that we were not to leave a review about it. Left such a bad taste

Obanotters · 15/07/2026 10:52

Morepositivemum · 15/07/2026 10:35

I’d be irritated more than livid/ annoyed, it’s not like your home where you’re likely to have personal effects thrown about, if you’re only there a day or two you’ve minimal stuff. It’s silly they wouldn’t show them an unoccupied, pristine room though!!

‘Minimal stuff’ could include confidential papers for an important business deal that if leaked could have implications costing millions of pounds (all it might take is a mention of a business the ‘visitor’ recognises). Or a bracelet the occupier has left whilst going for a swim getting pocketed. Or medication that not only reveals an illness you don’t want widely known but also has your name on the prescription label…

Though even if you had locked everything up in your suitcase and left the room pristine as you popped out for a walk you have still paid for private use of the room!

LilyBunch25 · 15/07/2026 10:52

Randomchat · 15/07/2026 09:54

Okay, you've all made me feel like I'm not overreacting. Thank you.

I've spoken to a different manager on my way up from breakfast who looked horrified that this has happened. Promised me it's not standard and has promised that he'll investigate and speak to us when we get back. Has assured us that no-one will be in our room today.

So we're going to get ready to go out and enjoy our day.

I know I sound pathetic but we never go to fancy hotels. I have no idea what's normal.

I'm not going to name anything right now. I'll see what happens. I'll report back later.

Thank you for your support. I'm a wimp who usually stays in Premier Inns

It's not pathetic at all, you've obviously planned and paid more than usual for a special treat and its been spoilt by this to an extent. Well done for sticking to your guns; have a lovely day out! Update us later 😊

Poppy61 · 15/07/2026 10:50

If ever I stay in a hotel again, I'll be checking their 'policy'. Nothing is sacred these days.

Nationalaverage · 15/07/2026 10:49

Absurd. I'm intrigued to know how they'll compensate you for this.

Poppy61 · 15/07/2026 10:48

Nomorecoconutboosts · 15/07/2026 09:26

You could leave a factual review advising people that the hotel state it is their standard policy to routinely show prospective guests around booked rooms, and to allow those prospective guests to look in wardrobes and bathroom cupboards where the current guests have stored belongings. If everything else was ok I might (before posting online review) email the management and show them your planned review - give them chance to apologise properly and confirm it isn’t policy!

I think you deserve to have your money refunded. This is disgraceful. I don't think it is their standard practice, they've just quoted this out of thin air. Complain to CEO office; that usually gets best results. You've been very calm. I'd have gone ballistic.

Pinksalamana · 15/07/2026 10:45

Randomchat · 15/07/2026 09:54

Okay, you've all made me feel like I'm not overreacting. Thank you.

I've spoken to a different manager on my way up from breakfast who looked horrified that this has happened. Promised me it's not standard and has promised that he'll investigate and speak to us when we get back. Has assured us that no-one will be in our room today.

So we're going to get ready to go out and enjoy our day.

I know I sound pathetic but we never go to fancy hotels. I have no idea what's normal.

I'm not going to name anything right now. I'll see what happens. I'll report back later.

Thank you for your support. I'm a wimp who usually stays in Premier Inns

Well done for not just accepting it. That's totally beyond what is acceptable, even if it was a Premier Inn.

Most people keep valuables, and often very private items inside their hotel rooms while they are out for the day. Nobody other than a cleaner or essential maintenance should be entering that room. I'm interested to see what the manager responds with.

Francestein · 15/07/2026 10:45

Fuck! That’s a MASSIVE security breach. How dare they? Obviously anything could have been stolen, but also what if they have hidden cameras or trackers? Be very careful about using WiFi or Bluetooth in this room. I wouldn’t do any banking, that’s for sure.

Picklelily99 · 15/07/2026 10:45

Randomchat · 15/07/2026 09:54

Okay, you've all made me feel like I'm not overreacting. Thank you.

I've spoken to a different manager on my way up from breakfast who looked horrified that this has happened. Promised me it's not standard and has promised that he'll investigate and speak to us when we get back. Has assured us that no-one will be in our room today.

So we're going to get ready to go out and enjoy our day.

I know I sound pathetic but we never go to fancy hotels. I have no idea what's normal.

I'm not going to name anything right now. I'll see what happens. I'll report back later.

Thank you for your support. I'm a wimp who usually stays in Premier Inns

If that manager has any sense he'll comp you a free 2x night stay, to ensure good customer service and feedback.

palona · 15/07/2026 10:44

I find it very odd that a person would even contemplate going into an occupied room to see if it met their requirements. Could be accused of all sorts, not to mention the sheer brazenness of doing such a thing. But the bottom line is with the hotel.

I'd look for a refund for that day's stay at the very least.

Jem57 · 15/07/2026 10:43

100% refund,nothing less

Picklelily99 · 15/07/2026 10:39

Randomchat · 15/07/2026 09:21

Oh I'm glad other people would be unhappy. We're having breakfast then I'm going to speak to reception about it again and ask them not to let people in.

It's not the bridal suite, just a normal room. They didn't ask. I might have said ok if they had asked and just looked in the room. But what was the man doing opening the wardrobe?

The hotel AND the visitor taking bloody liberties there!

CoraPirbright · 15/07/2026 10:39

So glad that the other manager was horrified and has said it’s not usual. Bloody outrageous!! Surely this is what photos and floor plans are for?

Sunshineandgrapefruit · 15/07/2026 10:38

Sounds like it was unauthorised and maybe a rogue employee with a side hustle?

Morepositivemum · 15/07/2026 10:35

I’d be irritated more than livid/ annoyed, it’s not like your home where you’re likely to have personal effects thrown about, if you’re only there a day or two you’ve minimal stuff. It’s silly they wouldn’t show them an unoccupied, pristine room though!!

TokyoSushi · 15/07/2026 10:32

Former front desk manager, 5* hotels, 17 years service checking in! Absolutely not normal, they 100% should not be doing this.

Obanotters · 15/07/2026 10:30

BauhausOfEliott · 15/07/2026 10:27

We spoke to the reception staff later and they said it's common to let people look around occupied hotel rooms.

I worked in a hotel when I was younger and believe me, it's really not!

The receptionist was probably involved in allowing it so was seeking to minimise it.

BabySpark · 15/07/2026 10:29

I remember once, I can’t remember why, asking to see the rooms in the hotel. I was told that they were all occupied so we couldn’t go. Completely fair enough.

KojaksLollipop · 15/07/2026 10:28

When I looked around our wedding venue, we couldn’t look at the wedding suite as someone was staying there so they showed me their pre prepared photo album of it. It is not common practice, at all. I’d be furious.

BauhausOfEliott · 15/07/2026 10:27

We spoke to the reception staff later and they said it's common to let people look around occupied hotel rooms.

I worked in a hotel when I was younger and believe me, it's really not!

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