To feel that I can’t get married…

I want to get married, me and my partner have only a few people each to invite (probably more than you have said here) but we are happy to have less people and cut the cost tbh. Also an intimate wedding can be so cosy and romantic. I think we have less than 100 people to invite between us because we only want people who truly will share the happiness and I think that's ok. 🤗 go marry the man you love! x

You are overthinking this, small weddings are fine, go for it!

Adding to my previous post - it’s the marriage, not the wedding.
It is the single thing that makes the biggest difference to your life.

Me too!

Apart from mine (!) the best wedding I've been to had 32 people, the maximum the venue allowed. Brilliant day.

I have no friends. Husband does, and his best friend and then partner were invited. Otherwise it was very small with just family.

Who are you worried will judge you? Nobody really sees your photos apart from you, and the staff who attend won't know who anyone is.

Ate you embarrassed you don’t have any friends, or about other people seeing this? I mean, by all means resolve to work on making friends, or figuring out why you don’t have any, but I fail to see why it should stop you getting married! I have lots of friends, as does DH, but we chose to get married with two witnesses.

We had 15 people. Ceremony then a really special meal in a private room in a lovely hotel so it had a weddingy vibe. I wouldn’t have an evening do disco style thing with that number of guests but it didn’t occur to me that it would seem odd that we had so few people.

What about doing a barbecue? We had a big wedding but we had a steel band and a barbecue at about 7 o’clock.
For the evening guests

So many benefits to later afternoon! You don’t need to get up at the crack of dawn and spend in all day in a fancy dress, candles at dinner, it’s not so blisteringly hot, your guests aren’t standing about bored for hours, if they are travelling they don’t need to get up at the crack of dawn/stay over the night before, people don’t get so drunk as there is less drinking time, you only need to feed them once so it’s cheaper.

We recently went to a wedding where there were about 80 people, but the bride and groom clearly had absolutely no budget to host
So they look lovely. They had some nice photographs and their bridesmaids looks adorable.
But everybody had to buy their own drink drinks all night not even a glass to toast a couple was provided
There was no food. It was all just stretched a bit too thinly.
No cake
But they expected presents

The trick is def book to yor guest list. A small venue where you have time to talk to all the guests, where you can perhaps to spend more per person on food and entertainment will be a wonderful wedding. The people who love you will be there.

I wouldn't do an evening do as in buffet and disco, not worth it for 15 extra people. What else can you do? Cocktails and a live band? A later wedding, sit down meal and then a chance to all be together?

We had 40ish, hired out an entire large country house, had a slightly late ceremony and made the meal the main part of the evening, with just drinks afterwards. No band or dancing, just a really nice time with close family and friends.

Easily the best wedding I've been to, regardless of the bias of it being mine.

I haven't got any friends except husband and we are NC with our families. We had a woman I sort of knew and her husband who I had never met. Got married, had a pasta salad from the garage and went on about our day so.you are doing better than me!

I had a smaller wedding, and I wouldn’t have had it any other way. Our total guest list was around the size of your individual one. I wouldn’t pressure yourself to add more people to make up numbers. The key is to find the right venue (or room in a venue) and work with what you have - a small wedding is intimate and can be more bespoke, but if you’ve got an idea in your head of a huge party with DJ into the night that might seem odd with a small number.

Afternoon ceremony, drinks, sit down meal and an evening of music and chatting - more civilised house party than school disco - can work really well.

I am getting married next year and have 12 people on my side, I don’t know anyone else I would want there. As far as I’m aware minimum numbers only apply to catering packages.

My first wedding had 30 people and my second had 2! Just buy a nice dress and elope. 🥰

That sounds like a lot

@weddingembarrassmentif you’re actually worried about what people will think when they come and see the numbers, just get ahead. When you give them the invite, say “we’re planning to keep it quite small and initimate, only the people we really want there” and that you imagine there’s nothing worse than having to be polite to your husbands cousins babysitter etc at your own wedding. That way they feel flattered to be included and know what to expect.

You could have a small ceremony followed by a lunch for the closest people, then a party another day to celebrate. Some friends of ours did that- closest friends and family only for the wedding itself, then a lovely garden party at home for everyone else, a week later (I think, it might have been a few days.)

The bride and groom even wore their wedding attire for the first half of the party, which was an added bonus.

We had 6 close joint friends + immediate family only. It was wonderful. We were able to make our guests each feel special, and we had no problems with other friends and acquaintances feeling left out because everyone knew it was such a tiny wedding, with no his or hers pals, only a handful close to both.
So yes, small can totally work!

We had around 20. Mainly my family, I had 1 friend and dh had 2. Married for 22 years. Got married in a Castle. Less is good.

Same. Married for nearly 40 years now. I hate fuss so it was perfect for us.

I had only my husband's immediate family. We are still together 15 years later. And we ate some cheap dinner in the most awful pub ever. He said if I go or leave him, he is going under a bus. See, beginnings are not important, life after that, is