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AIBU to ask for more flexibility before accepting this job offer?

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Aabbaas · 14/07/2026 19:12

Have an offer from a company. Been in my role for years and I have lots of flexibility with my working hours which is key as I have a 5 year old DD and do school runs etc.

Role is hybrid: 2 days at home, 3 days in the office. Office is in a part of London which isn’t convenient for me and would mean commuting for 1 hr 45 min door to door.
Day starts at 8:30 to 5:30 but they have made it clear it’s busy so I think extra hours are expected.

I can only consider this role if they allowed me to work from home 3 days a week and start at 9am most days and theb leave at 4pm when in the office and do the pick up. Then I’d reconnect in the evening to finish work.
Is this an unreasonable request? It is what ai do with my employer but have earnt this flexibility over a long tenure and I appreciate a new company might think IABU.

Keen to hear thoughts

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Aabbaas · 14/07/2026 19:17

Bobbybobbins · 14/07/2026 19:16

Well you can definitely ask. However they might say no, in which case I assume you would stay in your current role?
Are you a single parent or do you have a partner who could do any school runs?

Yeah if they said no I wouldn’t take it.
DH’s job isn’t flexible as he needs to be onsite and longer hours. He does 2-3 school runs a week but it depends on his rota and he definitely can’t do pick up

OP posts:
ToffeeCrabApple · 14/07/2026 19:17

Office is in a part of London which isn’t convenient for me and would mean commuting for 1 hr 45 min door to door

So why did you apply for it if you know it doesnt work for you? You've wasted their time.

Notsurenotsurenotsure · 14/07/2026 19:16

You can ask, but I wouldn't expect them to give you the job. You're not suitable.

Bobbybobbins · 14/07/2026 19:16

Well you can definitely ask. However they might say no, in which case I assume you would stay in your current role?
Are you a single parent or do you have a partner who could do any school runs?

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