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Why can’t I report this horrible woman?

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bs125 · 14/07/2026 18:27

Horrible woman who used to be my very good friend, made a malicious police report several years ago about me and my children. It was instantly confirmed by police it was malicious and no further action was taken. I know it was her, I am 100% on this. I have never confronted her as she would just deny it. She tried to ruin my life through jealousy (not jealous of me directly).

I Need to still see her daily and I am civil but inside I am reeling all these years later. I want to wipe the smug smile off her face. She claims to be living as a single person and receives benefits, whilst living the high life not single and not struggling in any way. I want to report her for benefit fraud, but I simply can’t do it. I don’t have it in me to do it.

why can’t I do it? I physically can’t bring myself to do it, my conscience won’t allow me to. When Everytime I see her I get so angry at how smug and smart she thinks she is. I can’t seem to let go of the anger towards her, if anyone has any tips on how to deal with the anger I feel please let me know. Aibu that I feel like this yet still can’t bring myself to report her?

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ilovemykindle · 14/07/2026 18:45

Why do you need to see her so much

PinkyFlamingo · 14/07/2026 18:44

Well I assume you are no longer friends so not sure why you have to see her at all.

aliasfrog · 14/07/2026 18:42

I would be the bigger person and just ignore her. Focus on yourself and stop ruminating on her. You'll just end up going back and forth forever with reports, and what a waste of time and energy that is.

WildLeader · 14/07/2026 18:41

And you’d NOT be ruining her life, she’s done that by stealing money she’s not entitled to.

WildLeader · 14/07/2026 18:40

Fucking do it! Report her @bs125

you’re not being malicious, you’re righting a wrong (or 2)

LittlestBoho · 14/07/2026 18:38

Look, you could report her and ruin her life. You hold that key in your hand. You are choosing not to do that.

If you are not going to report her then you need to stop treating her like she's your nemesis and let go of the all-consuming anger towards her. Currently you're wasting a lot of energy and stress ruminating on this awful woman, but when you've been handed a loaded gun to point at her, you refuse to shoot it.

Basically, either shit or get off the pot. Report her and be gleefully in the downfall of your enemy, or let go of the anger and accept you're not that kind of person. Right now you have one foot in each camp and that's why you feel so conflicted.

Personally I would report her. She reported you falsely; you can report her truly. I like to make people taste their own medicine though.

bs125 · 14/07/2026 18:38

@Funnytaster no shit storm. We were friends, she became jealous because I met my now husband. She’s the kind of person who thrives on people’s misery. There’s more to it but I can’t post without it being outing. I have remained an adult in this situation so there has been no shit storms from me.

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DaphneDahlia · 14/07/2026 18:34

@Anarchy99reporting this woman is not worse than fraud. This woman is committing fraud. Op if you can find it in yourself then report her anonymously. BUT only if it will make you feel better and make you able to close the door on your shared history. Otherwise it’s not worth doing.

Anarchy99 · 14/07/2026 18:30

How do you know so much about her finances if you aren’t friends any more?

I would report her but on MN, reporting is worse than any actual fraud. See also shoplifting etc.

Funnytaster · 14/07/2026 18:29

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