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To think 30 is middle

192 replies

Middleaged77 · 14/07/2026 14:50

And the denial within society isn’t helpful

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RaininSummer · 14/07/2026 16:25

Thirty is still pretty young I think. Definitely not a middle aged mindset or lifestyle for most people of that age regardless of whether people die at sixty which, on the whole, they done I think after fifty is when people tend to seem middle aged.

LeticiaMorales · 14/07/2026 16:23

XenoBitch · 14/07/2026 16:12

Are you the same OP who posted about her 22 year old DD dating a "middle aged man" who was 29, about to turn 30?

Edited

Yes.

OldrNWisr · 14/07/2026 16:23

Don’t be silly

Doggymummar · 14/07/2026 16:21

FFS you can tell the kids are off

XenoBitch · 14/07/2026 16:12

Are you the same OP who posted about her 22 year old DD dating a "middle aged man" who was 29, about to turn 30?

ApplebyArrows · 14/07/2026 16:10

Well even if it is, your daughter will then also be middle-aged in just a few years, so what's the big deal?

Daffodilsinthespring · 14/07/2026 16:08

Middle aged is ten years older Oder than I am currently. I’m in my prime at 57. Dd is 30 and she’s young. My parents are over 90. They are getting on a bit now.

MyGirlJ · 14/07/2026 16:06

You're still harping on about this?!

wheresmeaircon · 14/07/2026 16:05

I knew MNs is weird & they don’t see 60 as old but 30 isn’t middle aged. Life expectancy is 80

Pistachiocake · 14/07/2026 16:03

In some areas, a lot of people die in their 60s, but it's not the average across the UK.
If you mean between youth and age related aches, maybe, though some people are amazingly fit and healthy in their 80s.
If you're talking about the fact it's when people have married and started to have kids/when life stops being about putting yourself first, depends on the person,
A lot of people say when you have your first kid, whether you're 15 or 50 you become middle-aged, because life is always about putting them first now.

Londonnight · 14/07/2026 15:58

I'm over 60. By your reckoning if 30 is middle aged then I should be dead by now!!

Dragonscaledaisy · 14/07/2026 15:52

Middle age? I consider 0-29 is 'young' age, 30-59 is 'middle' age, 69 upwards 'older' age.

Hotandpointy · 14/07/2026 15:49

Nope, 40s and 50s are middle aged these days, I’m thoroughly middle aged at 45.

chocoluv · 14/07/2026 15:37

HoldingTheDoor · 14/07/2026 15:18

Not you again. You always post the weirdest age related threads and have done for years and I have no idea why.

What’s weird is that OP must be way older than 30 and so if she thinks 30 is middle aged, then what does that make her!

Another2Cats · 14/07/2026 15:36

tartyflette · 14/07/2026 14:57

Well, strictly going by the actual numbers, middle age would be around 35-38. Perhaps almost 40 for women.
A healthy woman aged around 40 today could expect to live to around 80, barring accidents or disease. And averages are always skewed by people dying prematurely.

I agree with your general point but the figures are actually a bit higher than that.

According to the ONS, a 40 year old woman today can expect to live to around 87 on average. So middle age is going to be around 44.

The equivalent for men is 84, so middle age would be 42.

Delphiniumandlupins · 14/07/2026 15:29

OP has a 22/23 year old daughter whom she regards as 'young' but in 7 years time she'll be middle aged?

Monty36 · 14/07/2026 15:20

40 + is middle aged. If most people die around 80 ish.

40 is where you cannot believe you are no longer 30 something. No longer in a younger age bracket. But heading towards the older ones.
40 is when you realise you might have another promotion in you. Possibly. When you still don’t realise how quickly it will feel before you are 50.
And when older parents start to be a worry on the horizon.

40 is where you still have some energy. But start the menopause. And 25 feels a lifetime ago.

plims · 14/07/2026 15:19

OP, you are coming across as a little obsessed with your adult daughter’s partner. It’s a bit weird

HoldingTheDoor · 14/07/2026 15:18

Not you again. You always post the weirdest age related threads and have done for years and I have no idea why.

Couldyounot · 14/07/2026 15:17

I am 50. That's middle aged. 30 is not.

MrsShawnHatosy · 14/07/2026 15:17

Absolutely not. These days it’s barely out of adolescence.

ClarasSisters · 14/07/2026 15:16

YABB*

ONS says for 2022-2024 life expectancy was 79.2 years for males and 83.0 years for females, making middle age around 40.

*You are being batshit

Watchoutfortheslowaraf · 14/07/2026 15:15

Why are you so obsessed with 30 being middle aged? You posted similar the other day. It’s a bit odd you’re so concerned about it.

you can think of it as middle aged if you like. You don’t seem to be able to take reasonable viewpoints on board so I’m not sure there’s much point trying to convince you otherwise

Tablesandchairs23 · 14/07/2026 15:12

Who cares age is just a number. If you want to put a number on it. 40s is middle aged .

Thebinisrightthere · 14/07/2026 15:04

Not finishing a sentence isn't helpful