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To think 30 is middle

192 replies

Middleaged77 · 14/07/2026 14:50

And the denial within society isn’t helpful

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LeticiaMorales · 14/07/2026 16:46

Dillydollydingdong · 14/07/2026 16:44

So in my mind I'm middle aged... how old am I?

Unfortunately, I do think you look at least 30! Sorry 😉

Dillydollydingdong · 14/07/2026 16:44

So in my mind I'm middle aged... how old am I?

To think 30 is middle
Error404FucksNotFound · 14/07/2026 16:44

Middle aged?
Mid life = Middle of your life.
Average life expectancy for women in the uk = 83.
83÷2 = 41.5
You hit your 40s as a woman in the uk and you are middle aged.

Globally the average life expectancy generally is 73.8 years.
73.8÷2= 36.9.
Getting closer
But globally for women specifically?
76.4.
76.4÷2= 38.4
Back up a bit again

So yeah, I'm going with Middle aged = 40.
Its a nice round number.

LilyBunch25 · 14/07/2026 16:43

Nopuedeser · 14/07/2026 16:35

Well you can’t mean middle aged, because obviously the average life expectancy isn’t 60. So what do you mean by ‘middle’?

OP doesn't know what they mean. They've got another thread running on pretty much the same non subject, they hardly post, they are merely bored or slightly askew.

LilyBunch25 · 14/07/2026 16:41

You've already got a thread on this pointless non-issue. Find something else to do.

CoffeeCantata · 14/07/2026 16:40

Thebinisrightthere · 14/07/2026 15:04

Not finishing a sentence isn't helpful

I don't think an OP which is so brief and non-explanatory deserves all these replies.

hugasaurus · 14/07/2026 16:39

I don’t think you can be middle-aged and simultaneously a total normal age for giving birth nowadays. Maybe in the 1500s.

LeticiaMorales · 14/07/2026 16:38

Kaidaia · 14/07/2026 16:37

I swear we have this exact thread every few months.

Yes. The one with the age gap relationship as well.

Fifthtimelucky · 14/07/2026 16:38

I definitely didn’t feel middle aged at 40 as I had two pre-school children.

I’m now 65, happy to be middle-aged, and don’t plan to be old until I’m in my 80s.

Kaidaia · 14/07/2026 16:37

I swear we have this exact thread every few months.

Minasama · 14/07/2026 16:36

I think it depends on your lifestyle and demographic. I think the average British woman now lives to either 84 or 87?

I’m 50 and 30 looks young from here - really young. But I have tweens and some people have those at 30, albeit most likely without senior-level international career experience as well. I grew up through both my professional and my marital/family experience. I had some of the professional experience at 30, marriage and family came several years later.

I weighed more than a stone less as well!

Hellohelga · 14/07/2026 16:36

Middle aged is whenever you lose the ability to finish a

Nopuedeser · 14/07/2026 16:35

Well you can’t mean middle aged, because obviously the average life expectancy isn’t 60. So what do you mean by ‘middle’?

wheresmeaircon · 14/07/2026 16:33

then whatever we want to call the other bit when in your sixties and seventies.

Why has old become a dirty word?

wheresmeaircon · 14/07/2026 16:32

TheIdlerReturns · 14/07/2026 16:28

I'm guessing from your user name that you're meaning age. These days 60 is probably middle-aged. The goal posts keep moving. What is society in denial about?

No 60 isn’t middle aged.

FrustratedApples · 14/07/2026 16:32

If you mean middle aged, I'd say that starts in your mid 40s or so. Probably mid 40s to 60ish.

vodkaredbullgirl · 14/07/2026 16:30

🙄again

SummerInSun · 14/07/2026 16:29

I decided I was finally a proper grown up at age 30. Now I look back and think I was still an infant!

SweetnsourNZ · 14/07/2026 16:29

I think menopause is probably a good indication of middle aged for women so late 40s early 50s. I do realise that some women go through it earlier for different reasons without being middle aged.
I wouldn't consider anyone under 70 as elderly these days either.

TheIdlerReturns · 14/07/2026 16:28

I'm guessing from your user name that you're meaning age. These days 60 is probably middle-aged. The goal posts keep moving. What is society in denial about?

LeticiaMorales · 14/07/2026 16:28

Choice4567 · 14/07/2026 16:26

Also place marking to find out what 30 is the middle of! I’m going with 30 is the middle number of cakes eaten in a week

🤣 dunno, but this OP has got a bit of a bee in their bonnet!

Pinkgin00 · 14/07/2026 16:27

Are you the same poster who started a thread, horrified that her 20 something year old daughter was dating a "middle aged man" ( age 29...) Everyone had said you are ridiculous and 29/30 isn't middle ages, so you have started another thread?

HappilyDivorced89 · 14/07/2026 16:27

For goodness sakes op, let your ADULT daughter date whoever she wants. If it turns out to be a big mistake, she'll figure that out for herself.

I repeat what I said on your original thread - Cambridge Dictionary defines middle aged as:
Middle-aged is the period of adult life roughly between the ages of 40 and 65. It is the stage when an individual is no longer considered young but has not yet reached old age.

I'm 37 and I don't consider myself middle aged...yet.

CasperGutman · 14/07/2026 16:27

In my head most people can expect to live to be 80 or thereabouts, and "middle aged" relates to adulthood only, so I ignore everything up to 19. You're a young adult in your 20s and 30s, middle aged in your 40s and 50s, then whatever we want to call the other bit when in your sixties and seventies.

Choice4567 · 14/07/2026 16:26

Also place marking to find out what 30 is the middle of! I’m going with 30 is the middle number of cakes eaten in a week