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To think 30 is middle

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Middleaged77 · 14/07/2026 14:50

And the denial within society isn’t helpful

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Nursemumma92 · 14/07/2026 17:11

No of course it isn't.

I met my husband at 18 and he was 25. We met at work in a bar and are still together 15 years later, married for 10 with 2 children.

You need to unclench, your daughter is an adult and he is not middle aged.

ExplodingSmittens · 14/07/2026 17:11

Is the OP referring to their IQ?

Watchoutfortheslowaraf · 14/07/2026 17:09

Jk987 · 14/07/2026 17:08

There was another stupid thread about 30 being middle aged the other day 🙄

Yeah it was the same OP. Clearly a bit of weird obsession- best not to fuel it. Let her think 30 is practically an OAP if she wants to

Wishimaywishimight · 14/07/2026 17:09

Nonsense.

Jk987 · 14/07/2026 17:08

There was another stupid thread about 30 being middle aged the other day 🙄

MirrorMirror1247 · 14/07/2026 17:08

I'm 6 months away from 40 and don't consider myself anywhere near middle aged!

Cantthinkofanewusernameffs · 14/07/2026 17:07

According to Google, middle aged is 40 - 64 years.

So come back in 10 years time and moan about your 33 year old daughter dating a Middle aged man.

Coralsunset · 14/07/2026 17:07

Another ridiculous thread from this poster….

YellowLollipop · 14/07/2026 17:06

Middle what? The Middle East? The Middle Ages? Middle of the road?

ForeverDelayedEpiphany · 14/07/2026 17:04

My DD once told my DH years ago that he'd be dead soon, after he'd just turned 45. 😳😂

So, I reckon he must be positively mummified now, aged 56. I'm definitely about to go then too, while his grandparents must be fossilised aged early 80s.

Yep. 30 is the new 75. Enjoy your youth while you can.🤣👀

BettyJoanPerske · 14/07/2026 17:04

ChocolateSqueezyyogurts · 14/07/2026 16:59

Middle age is about 50-55 its half way through your adult life, not whole life

Exactly. To put it in terms of celebrities, think of the actresses Lily James and Keira Knightley. Do you really think they are 'middle aged'?

To think 30 is middle
BettyJoanPerske · 14/07/2026 16:59

I presume you mean middle aged? No, 30 isn't. I don't think anything below about 45 is these days. I am 43 and I think of myself as young, not as middle aged (although to be fair I look a lot younger than most 43 year olds)

ChocolateSqueezyyogurts · 14/07/2026 16:59

Middle age is about 50-55 its half way through your adult life, not whole life

socialdilemmawhattodo · 14/07/2026 16:56

FruAashild · 14/07/2026 15:03

So assuming age I think you are a child for the first 20 years of your life, then a young adult for your 20s and 30s, middle aged in your 40s and 50s, old in your 60s and 70s and elderly once 80+. Although I know people in their 60s who still think they are middle aged. Life expectancy in this country is 82.2 years, slightly lower for men and slightly higher for women.

If you are talking about the age to have children then yes, 30 is about average in this country for a first pregnancy. It has gone up since the 70s but that's because in the 70s people had children very young, whereas 100 years ago the pattern was more similar to now.

If you are talking about salary the median salary (including PT workers) is £32,890. For FT workers it's £39,039.

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Yup. People like me. Until I look in a mirror!

Myotherusernamesafunnyone · 14/07/2026 16:55

These threads have to stop!!! YABVVVVVU as you have been told by 100s of other posters on aaaaaalllllll your other threads about this.
Your 23 year old daughter dating a (just) 30 year old man is perfectly normal. GET OVER IT.
He is not middle aged at 30 (and even if he was so what!) I can’t fathom what you are hoping to achieve by posting the same thing over and over but again, a 7 year gap between two adults is absolutely ok. You really need to move on.

LeticiaMorales · 14/07/2026 16:52

stargirl27 · 14/07/2026 16:50

Aren't you the person who described your 23 year old daughter's 29 year old boyfriend as 'middle aged'?

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Yes. She's done more than one thread on this supposed age gap relationship.

sugarapplelane · 14/07/2026 16:52

Oh no - it’s op again

chocoluv · 14/07/2026 16:52

Your DD is an adult.

Leave her alone and get your own life.

stargirl27 · 14/07/2026 16:50

Middleaged77 · 14/07/2026 14:50

And the denial within society isn’t helpful

Aren't you the person who described your 23 year old daughter's 29 year old boyfriend as 'middle aged'?

amber763 · 14/07/2026 16:50

60 is very young to plan on dying

Boreded · 14/07/2026 16:49

Watchoutfortheslowaraf · 14/07/2026 15:15

Why are you so obsessed with 30 being middle aged? You posted similar the other day. It’s a bit odd you’re so concerned about it.

you can think of it as middle aged if you like. You don’t seem to be able to take reasonable viewpoints on board so I’m not sure there’s much point trying to convince you otherwise

Because her 23 year old (birthday was today) is dating a 29 year old, and she isn’t happy about it. She will be back soon with a post about her daughter going non-contact ORRRRRRR saying the boyfriend is abusing her by isolating her from her mum (when she clearly is pushing her daughter away)

HappiestSleeping · 14/07/2026 16:49

30 is definitely in the middle of the amount of cups of tea I have per day ☕️

Tableforjoan · 14/07/2026 16:48

I’d say Middle Aged is 35-45.

Giving a life expectancy of 70-90.

But you’ll get 50-60 year olds telling you they are middle aged like they are going to live to 100-120 🤣

BauhausOfEliott · 14/07/2026 16:47

This again?

Error404FucksNotFound · 14/07/2026 16:46

Dillydollydingdong · 14/07/2026 16:44

So in my mind I'm middle aged... how old am I?

50s-60s ish?