WIBU to withdraw my offer of accommodation after she cancelled dogsitting?

Hi op I would give yourself a few days before replying but I am curious why can’t she stay with the other dog owners or elderly relatives?

She has really let you down op. It would be a no from me.

’Let’s catch up next week/month/ year when things are less busy. I have had to rearrange my plans for Rover now, and can’t host guests in August this year. Good luck with the house’

I would just be honest and say it was always a bit of a big ask, but you thought as she was doing you a favour with the dog sitting it was fair. Now it doesn't work for you, especially as you've got a stressful summer. It seems like it didn't occur to her to apologise to her relative and explain that she arranged to dogsit for you first, so I don't think you should feel bad about cancelling.

I second this!

So she has prioritised her own needs over yours and let you down big time, but still expects free accommodation for the remaining weeks.

She’s taking the Michael.

A friend letting you down is something you should just suck up, buttercup, otherwise you're being 'petty' 🙄

Did you ask her to dog sit before agreeing for her to stay, or cancel your existing booking assuming she would dogs it before asking her? I'm not clear from your post how the dog sit was arranged

IF you still let her come Mates rates for staying over for convenience not actually visiting is around £25 a night, she can stay but not as a freebie.

personally, I’d find it difficult to speak to her again, she didn’t just cancel, she cancelled you for a later offer.

It's interesting that some posters are saying that cancelling the free accommodation could end the friendship as though cancelling the dog sitting is a minor thing. I wonder how they'd have responded if it was the friend who'd posted the story "hey I've cancelled on my friend but still want free accommodation"

"Sorry,this arrangement no longer works for me".

Perfect!

Ultimately it’s not her responsibility or her problem if your dog is anxious, but I think most decent friends would honour the original commitment they made to you, unless in exceptional circumstances.

I think cancelling the whole stay will likely be friendship ending however, so I think you have to consider that outcome should you go ahead.

If @30DegreesHighAndRising is right on this it may still be salvageable if you still want her to do the dog sitting. (If you don't, absolutely fair enough, I just know how hard bank hol weekends can be.)

"Ok that potentially messes up my Aug diary a lot. You'll need to find somewhere else to stay for (all dates she's asked for) at least until I figure out what I'm going to do. Can't commit to houseguests until I have reworked the plan."

Give her a way to back down and find herself handily free after all.

It may go nowhere of course, and you may not want to play that game, but IMO don't burn any bridges, you might as well play the hand you are dealt.

Yes I would do this. She was getting a favour from you at a busy time, and decided even the dog sitting ask was too much - she could tell the elderly relative she was unable to do it. You're the cancellable one. Well, so is she.

I'd say she got a better offer, so I'd withdraw your offer too, if I were you.

op I can’t see how she would make a mistake. She knew she was staying with you for a few weeks and was dog sitting. Even if she couldn’t remember the days she was dog sitting she could’ve checked with you before committing to the other people.

I wouldn’t want her to stay now, you were doing her a favour and she’s let you down.

doh, of course. She was going to come for longer, wasn’t she?

On that basis I would still say I couldn’t put her up as my holiday plans are no longer certain - due to having to find a paid sitter - and that I can’t guarantee to be here on the other weeks.

Double booking was a genuine mistake. Not cancelling the other sit is a choice.

I wouldn’t want her to stay either.

You say she’s a good friend, so really consider whether you’re happy to lose the friendship over this.

As you seem to think it was a genuine mistake - what is to be gained by petulantly binning her for the other weeks?

What kind of friend does that?

I dont think you're being unreasonable to be annoyed but I would reinstate the dog sitter and allow her to stay with you.

'Friend' wouldn't be at the house during dogsit week - she's off dogsitting elsewhere.

I think she got a better offer and I would not put her up anymore. Feign stupidity as some other posters suggested, tell her you’ll have to make other arrangements so putting her up will be difficult now - so sorry!

Is your original sitter still available?

If she is a good friend and you want to keep being friends with her I would go with the "this is now costing me more because I have cancelled original dogsitter - would appreciate it if you could make up the difference - maybe in respect of staying the other XX weeks"

@Dogshitter I don't understand : she agreed to dogsit for you BEFORE taking on the other dogsitting job. So why isn't she calling that person up and telling her she has double booked? That would be the logical thing to do surely. Rather than leaving dogshitter in the shit!

It’s not petty when someone goes back on a prior agreement and is a CF taking the piss.