WIBU to withdraw my offer of accommodation after she cancelled dogsitting?

I would let her stay for the other three weeks but charge her what you have paid for the dog sitter.

I'm glad to hear that.

She has really let you down, but I'm shocked at the amount of people on her accusing her of taking the mickey and suggesting just to cut her off. I hope none of you have ever made a mistake.

For me it would depend on how good a friend she is. Does she have form for being flakey? If so then I'm not sure I would have asked her to dogsit in the first place.
I do hope you were able to find someone new to dogsit.
I suppose you could ask her to share the fees as you weren't expecting to have to pay them.

Absolutely a bit but only a teeny bit.
Stuff her.

Yes I think that’s fair enough. I message back saying, I’m really sorry but I can’t have you stay over that week as I’ll now need to house a pet sitter instead. I cancelled the pet sitter so that you could stay. No hard feelings, it was just a mix up and will work itself out.

Genuine question, is this actually a thing?

People rent out their property and bum accommodation from friends and family when they’re at a loose end?

Presumably they supply the obligatory odd meal and bottle of plonk?

If she has tenants she's not that desperate .

She's a user . I'm sure she'll find someone else to use . I wouldn't accommodate her .

Maybe I'm an old cynic, but I simply don't buy this "accidentally double booking" crap that people trot out. When one is a grown adult, there's nothing "accidental" about it because if you know you have another big commitment you check the dates before agreeing to another one. She's spinning you a convenient yarn.

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I wonder if the replacement dog sitter is offering to cover your dates only if you allow her to stay the next week too? So unfortunately you won’t be able to host your friend as you have decided you may as well extend your holiday.
Just a thought! ;)

This. IMO she probably just CBA to look after your dog.

Let her stay with the relative she’s evidently so keen to spend time with!

i would cancel, you will be lucky to find a dog sitter available after cancelling yours because she offered to do the work in exchange of accommodation.

she is not dog sitting, let you down, you may need to cancel the trip due to not finding a sitter so… she doesn’t get any accommodation.

This is not petty, I’m sure you are furious, why would you like to have her around for weeks when she has let you down with this? Do not become a doormat.

Just be frank with her. Say, "You have left me in the lurch, this is creating major difficulties for me and my dog. I'm very angry with you and I don't want you to come and stay." There's no need for all the heavy hinting or snide passive-aggressiveness suggested by some.

If you tell her she can't come and stay, your friendship is over, so if you're fine with that, then do it; she doesn't sound entirely trustworthy anyway.

Absolutely don’t let her stay.

I’d say something like “Okay, it’s far from ideal but I’ll make other arrangements. I assume you’re also making other arrangements for a place to stay. Maybe we can meet up next year instead.”

How good is your relationship? What does it mean to you? I mean I don't think you'd be wrong to cancel the other weeks, but it definately says "I was helping you because I wanted your help, rather than because I value you as a friend." You may not be that fond of the woman and, if so, it's fine to say that, but is that what you want to say?

Did your friend say that she could 100% dog sit for you on the needed dates?

Your OP sounds like she had already agreed to do the other person first and that you asked second.

Can she take your dog to the other place she is dog sitting?

If she promised she could do it then I’d be so annoyed with her.
But I don’t think I could be so heartless to refuse to allow her to stay with me as planned.

Hmm, this is tricky because for me it really depends on the friendship. On one hand, friend is not prioritising you when asking for a big favour and that breeds resentment. OTOH, saying she can't stay is making your relationship entirely transactional, you don't want to see her or help her if you can't get something out of it. I have friends where I let a lot of things go because they are genuine and I always enjoy spending time with them, and others where I've let the friendships drift away because I felt they were too frustrating/one sided etc.

Personally I suspect this is not a friendship you need to save, if it was you wouldn't feel stressed about them coming to stay, you'd be looking forward to it, regardless of how busy work was.

This has already been settled. The OP only cancelled the dog sitter because her friend said she'd be able to do it. OP had a dog sitter booked but since "friend" would be staying with her, OP thought her dog would be more comfortable staying at home. Then "friend" got a better offer and cancelled on OP.

I can, I'm reading the ops post as she agreed to friend staying so cancelled the dog sitter assuming the friend would sit the dog, then got round to mentioning the dog to find out friend already made arrangements

I would rather be some people’s idea of petty rather that becoming a walking door mat. CFs love the idea you can be called ‘petty’ and will fall in to line. No.

Yeah shes taken the piss. Wants to stay for free but doesnt want to dogsit.