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AIBU to be put off after he poured wine on the floor?

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Magnesiun · 14/07/2026 14:04

2nd date, sat in restaurant and we each had a glass of wine. He commented that he wasn’t keen on the wine and said he’d get a soft drink next time. I finished my drink and he had half of his glass left so I said I was going to get another drink and did he want to get a soft drink now or was he going to finish his wine. He picked up the glass, tipped the wine onto the floor (!!!!!!) and said “finished” and laughed. Several people saw him do it. I was mortified and said “did you really just tip that onto the floor??” And he acted like he was a bit embarrassed but laughed and said he didn’t like it. Waitress came across, noticed the puddle on the floor and he laughed and said “sorry about that” whilst looking at me like he was expecting me to laugh.

after the date he messaged me saying he’d had a good time and asked if I had and I replied “I’m still processing the sight of someone purposely spilling half a glass of wine onto a restaurant floor….” And he replied “still on that? Seriously? 😂”

am I over reacting?? It’s really put me off

OP posts:
Morepositivemum · 15/07/2026 23:40

Someone had to clean up after his stupid ‘joke’- what an absolute asshole!!!

HumbleHun · 15/07/2026 23:37

MsIceSandwich · 14/07/2026 14:07

You really shouldn't date toddlers!

Dont accuse OP of being a paedophile please. Wether it was tongue or cheek or not, mud sticks so think before you post. Thankyou.

PUGMEISTER21 · 15/07/2026 23:16

Magnesiun · 14/07/2026 14:04

2nd date, sat in restaurant and we each had a glass of wine. He commented that he wasn’t keen on the wine and said he’d get a soft drink next time. I finished my drink and he had half of his glass left so I said I was going to get another drink and did he want to get a soft drink now or was he going to finish his wine. He picked up the glass, tipped the wine onto the floor (!!!!!!) and said “finished” and laughed. Several people saw him do it. I was mortified and said “did you really just tip that onto the floor??” And he acted like he was a bit embarrassed but laughed and said he didn’t like it. Waitress came across, noticed the puddle on the floor and he laughed and said “sorry about that” whilst looking at me like he was expecting me to laugh.

after the date he messaged me saying he’d had a good time and asked if I had and I replied “I’m still processing the sight of someone purposely spilling half a glass of wine onto a restaurant floor….” And he replied “still on that? Seriously? 😂”

am I over reacting?? It’s really put me off

He's a knob and doesnt give a shit that someone now has to sort that out.

oggie679 · 15/07/2026 23:14

Major red flag, leave that hot mess alone!

Missj25 · 15/07/2026 22:52

Magnesiun · 14/07/2026 14:04

2nd date, sat in restaurant and we each had a glass of wine. He commented that he wasn’t keen on the wine and said he’d get a soft drink next time. I finished my drink and he had half of his glass left so I said I was going to get another drink and did he want to get a soft drink now or was he going to finish his wine. He picked up the glass, tipped the wine onto the floor (!!!!!!) and said “finished” and laughed. Several people saw him do it. I was mortified and said “did you really just tip that onto the floor??” And he acted like he was a bit embarrassed but laughed and said he didn’t like it. Waitress came across, noticed the puddle on the floor and he laughed and said “sorry about that” whilst looking at me like he was expecting me to laugh.

after the date he messaged me saying he’d had a good time and asked if I had and I replied “I’m still processing the sight of someone purposely spilling half a glass of wine onto a restaurant floor….” And he replied “still on that? Seriously? 😂”

am I over reacting?? It’s really put me off

He sounds like a tosser , defo wouldn’t be going on a 3rd date .

homeiswherethecoffeeis · 15/07/2026 22:37

How much wine has he had before he did this? I mean was he drunk?

CitizenofMoronia · 15/07/2026 22:24

he's testing your boundaries, show him where they are .. and the door. you can always judge a man by how he treats waiting staff.

LondonLass2026 · 15/07/2026 22:00

changeme4this · 15/07/2026 21:43

Can you imagine a time down the track with this jerk, having cooked a meal that he decides he doesn’t like, he tips it over the floor..

End it and dont communicate with him again.

sadly I wouldn’t be surprised if he makes a further nuisance of himself when you do that..

Literally this. I've seen toddlers behave far better than this at dinner.

RampantIvy · 15/07/2026 21:54

@Magnesiun are you going to update?

changeme4this · 15/07/2026 21:43

Can you imagine a time down the track with this jerk, having cooked a meal that he decides he doesn’t like, he tips it over the floor..

End it and dont communicate with him again.

sadly I wouldn’t be surprised if he makes a further nuisance of himself when you do that..

SleepingStandingUp · 15/07/2026 21:16

There wouldn't have been a 2nd half of the 2nd date!

Pinkyupupup · 15/07/2026 21:13

CRCGran · 15/07/2026 20:38

Seriously ?? WOW !!!!!!!

Jokes 🤣🤣It’s incredibly odd, rude and downright weird!

iowgirl1 · 15/07/2026 20:54

Unbelievable. Block. Run. Don't look back .

Winniepoobear · 15/07/2026 20:53

Run ...

Sheepsmellnice · 15/07/2026 20:47

Thank god its only your 2nd date and you're not married to the bell end

CRCGran · 15/07/2026 20:38

Pinkyupupup · 15/07/2026 19:57

Wouldn’t bother me tbh

Seriously ?? WOW !!!!!!!

CRCGran · 15/07/2026 20:36

He's shown you very clearly what kind of pig he is.... believe him!!! BLOCK !!!!!

Lorrainedrops · 15/07/2026 20:30

What mad impulsive behaviour- No third date for me!

JMSA · 15/07/2026 20:17

Oh my God, that is AWFUL behaviour.

KWaldron · 15/07/2026 20:15

Do you need to ask anyone else? If he was George Clooney and did that, I'd still be blocking him the moment I left the restaurant. You've been lucky to see the real man on the second date. Congratulate yourself on getting out of there.

MyRareScroller · 15/07/2026 20:12

🚩🚩🚩

Myli1 · 15/07/2026 19:57

Bin him off without hesitation. Massive red flag.

Pinkyupupup · 15/07/2026 19:57

Wouldn’t bother me tbh

wherethewildrosesgrow · 15/07/2026 19:52

Come back OP…we need to know what happened next.

Kayakerpaddleboarderwalker · 15/07/2026 19:51

The man is a lowbrow uncultured caveman. Who does that? No 3rd date and block him as his behaviour would reflect on you. Makes me wonder what other uncivilised habits he has if he does that in public and thinks its acceptable. Probably explains why he is on a dating app and single.

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