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AIBU to be put off after he poured wine on the floor?

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Magnesiun · 14/07/2026 14:04

2nd date, sat in restaurant and we each had a glass of wine. He commented that he wasn’t keen on the wine and said he’d get a soft drink next time. I finished my drink and he had half of his glass left so I said I was going to get another drink and did he want to get a soft drink now or was he going to finish his wine. He picked up the glass, tipped the wine onto the floor (!!!!!!) and said “finished” and laughed. Several people saw him do it. I was mortified and said “did you really just tip that onto the floor??” And he acted like he was a bit embarrassed but laughed and said he didn’t like it. Waitress came across, noticed the puddle on the floor and he laughed and said “sorry about that” whilst looking at me like he was expecting me to laugh.

after the date he messaged me saying he’d had a good time and asked if I had and I replied “I’m still processing the sight of someone purposely spilling half a glass of wine onto a restaurant floor….” And he replied “still on that? Seriously? 😂”

am I over reacting?? It’s really put me off

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BookLovingNorthLondoner · 14/07/2026 14:35

He's a dick. And possibly testing your boundaries to see if you put up with things that make you feel uncomfortable. Ditch him.

notacooldad · 14/07/2026 14:34

I definitely would not see this clown again.
You will spend all your time.e apologising to people on his behalf.

He is a nasty fucker and expected you to join in on humiliating the serving staff.

Screamingabdabz · 14/07/2026 14:33

He makes a deliberate mess so a minimum wage young woman had to clean up after him, and he gets a kick from that. Prick.

He is not a good person.

momtoboys · 14/07/2026 14:33

NEXT. Knob.

MyArtfulGreySloth · 14/07/2026 14:33

What a knob. I wouldn’t see him again.

Hicupping · 14/07/2026 14:33

Oh no, that would be it, he's shown you who he is. Really ugly trait, making people clean up after you for kicks or covering your own inadequacy. Ick.

JHound · 14/07/2026 14:32

I don’t normally approve of ghosting but this man deserves an unexplained block. Juvenile, arrogant and deliberately creating a mess for a low paid worker to deal with.

When somebody shows you who they are….

outerspacepotato · 14/07/2026 14:32

If he does that in a restaurant in front of other people, imagine what he'd do in the house if he didn't like something.

Asshole, block.

Frugalgal · 14/07/2026 14:28

Magnesiun · 14/07/2026 14:04

2nd date, sat in restaurant and we each had a glass of wine. He commented that he wasn’t keen on the wine and said he’d get a soft drink next time. I finished my drink and he had half of his glass left so I said I was going to get another drink and did he want to get a soft drink now or was he going to finish his wine. He picked up the glass, tipped the wine onto the floor (!!!!!!) and said “finished” and laughed. Several people saw him do it. I was mortified and said “did you really just tip that onto the floor??” And he acted like he was a bit embarrassed but laughed and said he didn’t like it. Waitress came across, noticed the puddle on the floor and he laughed and said “sorry about that” whilst looking at me like he was expecting me to laugh.

after the date he messaged me saying he’d had a good time and asked if I had and I replied “I’m still processing the sight of someone purposely spilling half a glass of wine onto a restaurant floor….” And he replied “still on that? Seriously? 😂”

am I over reacting?? It’s really put me off

You'd be insane to carry on with this awful, insufferable, juvenile berk.

fivepastmidnight · 14/07/2026 14:27

What an arsehole - the only positive is he did it on the second date and saved you wasting any more time on the absolute idiot. Even very, very young children know not to do something like that. Who knows what he's capable of doing in private if that's what he's prepared to do in public on a second date.

JHound · 14/07/2026 14:27

Pinkflamingo10 · 14/07/2026 14:05

There wouldn’t be a 3rd date for me

This.

TheSandgroper · 14/07/2026 14:25

Like @BauhausOfEliott said. Find yourself some standards, please.

BauhausOfEliott · 14/07/2026 14:25

Good grief, I'd have got up and walked out the moment that happened.

He sounds like the most insufferable cunt imaginable.

Samiloff · 14/07/2026 14:24

He is a supremely selfish, entitled twat - no thought at all for the poor sod who would have to clear up after him. Run.

Bonkers1966 · 14/07/2026 14:23

Be grateful it happened early on. I wonder if his entire family do this. I bet they were fun on big birthday outings to the local Harvester. What do you think happens at Christmas 🎄? Crazy story.

SallyD00lally · 14/07/2026 14:21

Sorry but I think you both come across as quite strange.

Him for tipping his wine on the floor.

You for asking if you're overreacting to be put off a man who does this.

Backedoffhackedoff · 14/07/2026 14:21

BillieWiper · 14/07/2026 14:15

That sounds like someone in psychosis (unlikely) or a sociopath if he thinks that's normal?

This answer is almost as mental as the guy throwing his wine on the floor 🤣🤣🤣

loobylou10 · 14/07/2026 14:21

Block block block

Shatteredallthetimelately · 14/07/2026 14:19

He didn't finish the drink though did he, he threw it on the floor without a thought for who it was that had to clean up his mess.

YANBU.

Alittlefrustrated · 14/07/2026 14:19

No 3rd date from me. 🏃

CraftyCoralFinch · 14/07/2026 14:18

Block and thank your lucky stars you've seen this behaviour before wasting any more of your time on him! 😳

SquatBetty · 14/07/2026 14:16

What a fuckwit. It's a no from me.

WhatAMarvelousTune · 14/07/2026 14:16

What completely insane behaviour. YANBU at all. I would never see him again.

BillieWiper · 14/07/2026 14:15

That sounds like someone in psychosis (unlikely) or a sociopath if he thinks that's normal?

AgnesX · 14/07/2026 14:15

He sounds like a right twat tbh. I couldn't be doing with someone quite that moronic. I mean, in what world is that a clever or funny thing to do.

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