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AIBU to be put off after he poured wine on the floor?

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Magnesiun · 14/07/2026 14:04

2nd date, sat in restaurant and we each had a glass of wine. He commented that he wasn’t keen on the wine and said he’d get a soft drink next time. I finished my drink and he had half of his glass left so I said I was going to get another drink and did he want to get a soft drink now or was he going to finish his wine. He picked up the glass, tipped the wine onto the floor (!!!!!!) and said “finished” and laughed. Several people saw him do it. I was mortified and said “did you really just tip that onto the floor??” And he acted like he was a bit embarrassed but laughed and said he didn’t like it. Waitress came across, noticed the puddle on the floor and he laughed and said “sorry about that” whilst looking at me like he was expecting me to laugh.

after the date he messaged me saying he’d had a good time and asked if I had and I replied “I’m still processing the sight of someone purposely spilling half a glass of wine onto a restaurant floor….” And he replied “still on that? Seriously? 😂”

am I over reacting?? It’s really put me off

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Laura95167 · 14/07/2026 15:37

My 4 Yr old LO wouldnt be allowed to do that

NotBluebutCerulean · 14/07/2026 15:36

What will he do next?
a) Clap his hands for serfs to come and clear up?
b) Throw wineglass into the fireplace and slap his boot with a whip?

pinkspeakers · 14/07/2026 15:35

Absolutely unacceptable. What a tw*t.

Friendlygingercat · 14/07/2026 15:34

You have to wonder about the 1% of people who presumably thought this was reasonable behaviour. Someone who lives in a cave perhaps?

Gettoachiro · 14/07/2026 15:31

What a complete and utter piece of crap.

TheThirteenthFairy · 14/07/2026 15:28

Kimmers4334 · 14/07/2026 14:45

I don’t really know why but him doing that makes me assume he is really selfish in bed. What an ape

It makes me know for a fact that he'll pee on the seat and the floor and leave it there.

BeautifulViolets · 14/07/2026 15:28

Magnesiun · 14/07/2026 14:04

2nd date, sat in restaurant and we each had a glass of wine. He commented that he wasn’t keen on the wine and said he’d get a soft drink next time. I finished my drink and he had half of his glass left so I said I was going to get another drink and did he want to get a soft drink now or was he going to finish his wine. He picked up the glass, tipped the wine onto the floor (!!!!!!) and said “finished” and laughed. Several people saw him do it. I was mortified and said “did you really just tip that onto the floor??” And he acted like he was a bit embarrassed but laughed and said he didn’t like it. Waitress came across, noticed the puddle on the floor and he laughed and said “sorry about that” whilst looking at me like he was expecting me to laugh.

after the date he messaged me saying he’d had a good time and asked if I had and I replied “I’m still processing the sight of someone purposely spilling half a glass of wine onto a restaurant floor….” And he replied “still on that? Seriously? 😂”

am I over reacting?? It’s really put me off

Good grief you actually have to ask if you’re overreacting? No you’re not! What a pig he is!

MrsShawnHatosy · 14/07/2026 15:28

Minasama · 14/07/2026 15:26

That is extraordinarily strange behaviour.
A floor inside?
Who did he think was going to clean this up?
If it was onto soft ground like a pub garden then maybe understandable.
What sort of person was this - an arrogant toff, a chav, someone “unconventional” ? You need to tell us more!!

It shows he does not respect customer facing staff, which is a total deal breaker for me.

FlapperFlamingo · 14/07/2026 15:28

Omg what a twat. I’d dump and run. No words - especially on his comment when you mentioned it later.

Piglet89 · 14/07/2026 15:27

Jesus. They walk among us.

Beachtastic · 14/07/2026 15:26

Blimey.

Next time he'll take a dump on the floor as a protest about the food.

Make sure there isn't a next time!

Minasama · 14/07/2026 15:26

That is extraordinarily strange behaviour.
A floor inside?
Who did he think was going to clean this up?
If it was onto soft ground like a pub garden then maybe understandable.
What sort of person was this - an arrogant toff, a chav, someone “unconventional” ? You need to tell us more!!

Baking07 · 14/07/2026 15:23

Utter scum.
I would be absolutely mortified to be in such company.
Completely uncouth.

I'm trying to imagine what hole in the ground was he dragged up in?

Tryingtobenormal124 · 14/07/2026 15:22

Na chuck him back, accidents happen but to do what he did is just a huge red flag. It would be you next. Better luck next time

MrsVBS · 14/07/2026 15:21

He sounds like an absolute knob. No consideration for embarrassing you or for the person who would have to clean it up. Run for the hills.

MyCrushWithEyeliner · 14/07/2026 15:20

At first I thought you were outdoors, but you were sat in the restaurant? That’s bonkers behaviour.

MrsShawnHatosy · 14/07/2026 15:19

Bloody hell. Please don’t see him again.

Ihaveneedofwaternear · 14/07/2026 15:17

Rude and immature. I'd not be seeing him again and I'd be telling him very clearly why not

HoldMyWine · 14/07/2026 15:17

Huge red flag for me. So disrespectful to the waitress and staff that had to clean up after him.

AmusedMember · 14/07/2026 15:17

Run. Don't look back!

sugarapplelane · 14/07/2026 15:16

What a prick. It’s a huge no from me. This sort of behaviour is awful. He is inconsiderate, juvenile and thinks he can just do what he likes. Just imagine what your life would be like with this man! I’ve heard it all now.

gotmyselfintoapickle · 14/07/2026 15:14

Nope

purplecorkheart · 14/07/2026 15:14

God what a truly awful person. At least he showed his true colours relatively early on. How disrespectful he treated the staff. Block this moron.

Gengha · 14/07/2026 15:12

Wtf? Who does that? Even my kids as toddlers wouldn’t have poured a drink they didn’t like onto the floor!

Obviously YANBU

Twiglets1 · 14/07/2026 15:12

This is not normal behaviour. Follow your instincts by cutting further contact.

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