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AIBU to be put off after he poured wine on the floor?

466 replies

Magnesiun · 14/07/2026 14:04

2nd date, sat in restaurant and we each had a glass of wine. He commented that he wasn’t keen on the wine and said he’d get a soft drink next time. I finished my drink and he had half of his glass left so I said I was going to get another drink and did he want to get a soft drink now or was he going to finish his wine. He picked up the glass, tipped the wine onto the floor (!!!!!!) and said “finished” and laughed. Several people saw him do it. I was mortified and said “did you really just tip that onto the floor??” And he acted like he was a bit embarrassed but laughed and said he didn’t like it. Waitress came across, noticed the puddle on the floor and he laughed and said “sorry about that” whilst looking at me like he was expecting me to laugh.

after the date he messaged me saying he’d had a good time and asked if I had and I replied “I’m still processing the sight of someone purposely spilling half a glass of wine onto a restaurant floor….” And he replied “still on that? Seriously? 😂”

am I over reacting?? It’s really put me off

OP posts:
GrinchPink · 14/07/2026 16:36

Jesus that’s proper weird… why would anyone do that.
Also how disrespectful to the staff that work there…
its a no for me ❌😵

IndigoBrave · 14/07/2026 16:35

I couldn’t see past this. He’s showing you how inconsiderate he is about other people i.e. who cares if someone has to wipe that up

FrustratedApples · 14/07/2026 16:34

Run. Don't look back.

friendlytotheend · 14/07/2026 16:32

Duvetdayneeded · 14/07/2026 14:08

I wouldn’t be talking to him ever again

This. No way would I see him
again.

Frenzi · 14/07/2026 16:32

I'd have got up and walked out as soon as he did it.

What an idiot.

BillieWiper · 14/07/2026 16:32

IdaGlossop · 14/07/2026 16:24

I have. My mother's.

I'm sorry to hear that. It's really scary isn't it? For the sufferer and those around them. I hope she's better now?

SqueakyFromme · 14/07/2026 16:30

Why are you even asking OP ? imagine if it had been carpet, what an awful thing to do. I would NEVER speak to him again.

ColinOfficeTrolley · 14/07/2026 16:27

He doesn't sound right in the head. Dump him.

Lexy2345 · 14/07/2026 16:27

What a child. Bullet dodged, well and truly.

Boreded · 14/07/2026 16:27

I’d have left there and then

hourglass2 · 14/07/2026 16:26

LivelySquid · 14/07/2026 14:11

He's an embarrassment, would put me right off.

Unacceptable behaviour, chucking wine on the floor just because he didn't want to finish it? What a dickhead, he's also just made extra work for the staff...prick. I would not see him again and I'd be telling him exactly why. Who in their right mind would think that's acceptable behaviour? Unless you're under the age of 3 of course.

KatyAnnwillsaveus · 14/07/2026 16:26

Bin off this arsehole, he sounds like a toddler. It's probably a red flag that he'll be horrible in other ways. I always think the way people treat waiting staff is a sign of their character, and he clearly didn't care about deliberately creating mess for someone else to clean up.

IdaGlossop · 14/07/2026 16:24

BillieWiper · 14/07/2026 16:20

I literally think that someone pouring their wine on the floor does sound like someone in psychosis. Though he clearly wasn't as with hindsight he has complete recollection and no remorse.

I don't know why you think Jedi are necessarily involved?

Have you ever been present when someone is suffering acute psychosis before?

I have. My mother's.

tealandteal · 14/07/2026 16:24

Even my 4 year old knows better! Don’t waste any more time on him

Member968405 · 14/07/2026 16:21

This reminds of one of my sister’s boyfriends, from years ago. We went to the bar together and I got out a £10 note, and said ‘Let’s split it’, meaning the round. He said ‘ok then’ and ripped the note in half.

so so annoying and unnecessary. Red flag imo!

BillieWiper · 14/07/2026 16:20

IdaGlossop · 14/07/2026 16:12

Ah yes. If your dinner companion tips half a glass of wine on the restaurant floor, you can be sure that the next thing they will do it seize their table knife and run helter skelter around the restaurant because all their fellow diners are jedi.

I literally think that someone pouring their wine on the floor does sound like someone in psychosis. Though he clearly wasn't as with hindsight he has complete recollection and no remorse.

I don't know why you think Jedi are necessarily involved?

Have you ever been present when someone is suffering acute psychosis before?

RampantIvy · 14/07/2026 16:18

Do you really need to ask?
He sounds arrogant and disrespectful. No more dates with him.

dunroamingfornow · 14/07/2026 16:16

Anyone who treats waiting staff or service staff like this is helpfully showing their true colours. I could not get past that !

RaininSummer · 14/07/2026 16:16

He is a bad mannered oik with a broken sense of humour.

JontyGentooey · 14/07/2026 16:15

He's one of those twats who feels important watching service staff clean up after him. Reading your OP I thought you might be about to say you were in a pub garden and he just tipped it in the flowerbed, but inside?!

I would go nuts if my 3 year old did that, let alone a grown man!

What a fucking knob.

InLoveWithAI · 14/07/2026 16:14

This genuinely really really odd behaviour.

I am trying to come up with reasons and failing.

IdaGlossop · 14/07/2026 16:12

BillieWiper · 14/07/2026 14:15

That sounds like someone in psychosis (unlikely) or a sociopath if he thinks that's normal?

Ah yes. If your dinner companion tips half a glass of wine on the restaurant floor, you can be sure that the next thing they will do it seize their table knife and run helter skelter around the restaurant because all their fellow diners are jedi.

rhodrhi · 14/07/2026 16:12

Were you indoors? That's really odd behaviour.

Dobeebeedah · 14/07/2026 16:12

I was a waitress in a number of high end establishments and Never witnessed such uncouth behaviour. Do not date such a guttersnipe again. My dog had better manners.

CowTown · 14/07/2026 16:11

How one treats service staff is a good barometer to gauge whether someone is a decent human.

He failed the test.