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AIBU to be put off after he poured wine on the floor?

466 replies

Magnesiun · 14/07/2026 14:04

2nd date, sat in restaurant and we each had a glass of wine. He commented that he wasn’t keen on the wine and said he’d get a soft drink next time. I finished my drink and he had half of his glass left so I said I was going to get another drink and did he want to get a soft drink now or was he going to finish his wine. He picked up the glass, tipped the wine onto the floor (!!!!!!) and said “finished” and laughed. Several people saw him do it. I was mortified and said “did you really just tip that onto the floor??” And he acted like he was a bit embarrassed but laughed and said he didn’t like it. Waitress came across, noticed the puddle on the floor and he laughed and said “sorry about that” whilst looking at me like he was expecting me to laugh.

after the date he messaged me saying he’d had a good time and asked if I had and I replied “I’m still processing the sight of someone purposely spilling half a glass of wine onto a restaurant floor….” And he replied “still on that? Seriously? 😂”

am I over reacting?? It’s really put me off

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Fatandknowit · 14/07/2026 18:21

So sorry - hit YABU by mistake.

YAdeffodeffodeffoNBU!

ReyRey12 · 14/07/2026 18:20

Soubds like he thinks service industry workers don't deserve basic respect as humans. There would not be 3rd date.

TheFormerMrsTruelove · 14/07/2026 18:10

The contempt that he has shown for the member of staff who has had to clean that up, is not something I’d be able to get over. If this is what he’s like in public, when he’s going all out to impress you, I dread to think what he’s like in private when he’s comfortable with you.

I don’t really understand why you didn’t speak up at the time, tell him he was a fucking chimp, and ask the member of staff if she’d be able to bring him some cleaning materials so he could clean it up.

Mamabear8864 · 14/07/2026 18:08

He’s a weirdo, imagine him with children, scary.

giddyaunt19 · 14/07/2026 18:08

Dweetfidilove · 14/07/2026 17:50

We have to normalise ending dates early. Honestly, I'd have blocked him before I got home. What more can you possibly have to say to him?

This

TimeFlysWhenYoureHavingRum · 14/07/2026 18:07

This sounds like some kind of "test" / mindgame. Run.

twohotwaterbottles · 14/07/2026 18:07

How he treats people in a service industry (someone had to clean that up) tells you all you need to know about him. Dump. Tell him why. Move on.

shhblackbag · 14/07/2026 18:05

Dweetfidilove · 14/07/2026 17:50

We have to normalise ending dates early. Honestly, I'd have blocked him before I got home. What more can you possibly have to say to him?

I so agree with this.

newberry · 14/07/2026 18:05

Wtaf

No you are not being unreasonable

Baking07 · 14/07/2026 18:01

I actually cannot fathom continuing an evening in the face of such behaviour.
Much less pondering seeing him again.

Dumbledora8 · 14/07/2026 17:59

He is a fucking weirdo

TheReflectiveQualityofGlass · 14/07/2026 17:59

Is he 2? I’d understand a toddler throwing food or drink they don’t like on the floor but dear god, a grown man?!! So someone now has to clean that up? And that’s him still in the trying to impress stage. Wow.

EmailsaysOOO · 14/07/2026 17:58

He's a child..Find a grown adult

AnaisVB · 14/07/2026 17:55

How could he possibly think that is ok? It’s rude and entitled , not in the least bit funny and just plain odd tbh. Has if ever left his house before?! Definitely massive turn off for me.

Dweetfidilove · 14/07/2026 17:50

We have to normalise ending dates early. Honestly, I'd have blocked him before I got home. What more can you possibly have to say to him?

Yourcousinrachel · 14/07/2026 17:50

Backedoffhackedoff · 14/07/2026 14:21

This answer is almost as mental as the guy throwing his wine on the floor 🤣🤣🤣

Actually it definitely shows entitlement and that very well could be a narcissist or a sociopath. A sociopath breaks rules to get what they want. You can have a narcissistic sociopath. Anyway we cannot know. but certainly a huge red flag to avoid like the plague. No respect for property or the person having to clean up.

sassyclassyandsmartassy · 14/07/2026 17:45

I would never have dated anyone that didn't have a basic level of manners.

Nearly50omg · 14/07/2026 17:45

What an arsehole!!! Throw that one back in the bin where he belongs!

ImImmortalNowBabyDoll · 14/07/2026 17:44

That's bizarre behaviour and I would be concerned about his mental stability. I wouldn't see him again.

Fiendishandfiery · 14/07/2026 17:43

ilikeeggs · 14/07/2026 17:19

Jesus who does that?! So he just expected the staff to clean it up? I definitely wouldn’t go on another date with someone like that

The way she’s writing I think she just sat there and watched the waitress clean it.

Fiendishandfiery · 14/07/2026 17:42

I’m also stunned uou stayed and are even texting him and haven’t told him to fuck off. I’d have apologised to the waitress and left. Did you even sit there and watch her clean it up??

BMW58 · 14/07/2026 17:42

What a complete wanker!!! 😮

AlwaysExtraHot · 14/07/2026 17:41

He either has arrested development, or he's a psycho.

Maybe both.

hypnovic · 14/07/2026 17:38

Good lord.
No 3rd date

shhblackbag · 14/07/2026 17:38

That's beyond weird. Some men are completely baffling. Obviously dump.