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AIBU to be put off after he poured wine on the floor?

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Magnesiun · 14/07/2026 14:04

2nd date, sat in restaurant and we each had a glass of wine. He commented that he wasn’t keen on the wine and said he’d get a soft drink next time. I finished my drink and he had half of his glass left so I said I was going to get another drink and did he want to get a soft drink now or was he going to finish his wine. He picked up the glass, tipped the wine onto the floor (!!!!!!) and said “finished” and laughed. Several people saw him do it. I was mortified and said “did you really just tip that onto the floor??” And he acted like he was a bit embarrassed but laughed and said he didn’t like it. Waitress came across, noticed the puddle on the floor and he laughed and said “sorry about that” whilst looking at me like he was expecting me to laugh.

after the date he messaged me saying he’d had a good time and asked if I had and I replied “I’m still processing the sight of someone purposely spilling half a glass of wine onto a restaurant floor….” And he replied “still on that? Seriously? 😂”

am I over reacting?? It’s really put me off

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TheDrswife · 19/08/2026 23:04

Did you dump him OP?

DraigCymraeg · 13/08/2026 14:08

Magnesiun · 14/07/2026 14:04

2nd date, sat in restaurant and we each had a glass of wine. He commented that he wasn’t keen on the wine and said he’d get a soft drink next time. I finished my drink and he had half of his glass left so I said I was going to get another drink and did he want to get a soft drink now or was he going to finish his wine. He picked up the glass, tipped the wine onto the floor (!!!!!!) and said “finished” and laughed. Several people saw him do it. I was mortified and said “did you really just tip that onto the floor??” And he acted like he was a bit embarrassed but laughed and said he didn’t like it. Waitress came across, noticed the puddle on the floor and he laughed and said “sorry about that” whilst looking at me like he was expecting me to laugh.

after the date he messaged me saying he’d had a good time and asked if I had and I replied “I’m still processing the sight of someone purposely spilling half a glass of wine onto a restaurant floor….” And he replied “still on that? Seriously? 😂”

am I over reacting?? It’s really put me off

That is not acceptable behaviour!

Patricia69 · 22/07/2026 14:04

Fuck No. get as far away as possible . Complete Bampot

Gossipisgood · 20/07/2026 14:12

HE wasted wine & you're even considering seeing him again? Seriously though, that's def a red flag & quite passive aggressive. Passing it off as a joke too means he's capable of gaslighting you. Run fast.

CherryVanillaPie · 20/07/2026 12:22

Merc123 · 19/07/2026 18:27

So who's the 1% who said YABU? HIM?? What an obnoxious ahole but at least showed his true colors right off. He prob has numerous 1st/2nd dates but never 3rds...and too dense to understand why

Might be people who'd have chuckled along watching a woman clear up after him.

Skibbgirl · 20/07/2026 10:57

You've had a lucky escape from this abhorrent, boorish, ill-mannered 'man-child'.

Merc123 · 19/07/2026 18:27

So who's the 1% who said YABU? HIM?? What an obnoxious ahole but at least showed his true colors right off. He prob has numerous 1st/2nd dates but never 3rds...and too dense to understand why

Hernameisdeborah · 19/07/2026 13:23

No, definitely not overreacting. What a rude and inconsiderate twat. As if hospitality staff don’t have enough to deal with, without selfish idiots deliberately pouring drinks for them to clean up. Chuck this one back.

TheDrswife · 19/07/2026 13:09

Never heard anything like this! Good grief.

LoyalShaker · 19/07/2026 12:33

There would be no third date if I was in your position. Stupid juvenile behaviour.

Aussiemum87 · 18/07/2026 23:49

Girl that’s a massive red flag. Asserting dominance over the wait staff by making a massive mess on purpose. Also gaslighting you into thinking it shouldn’t be a big deal. No. Run

MarriedTwiceOneGrownUpDaughter · 18/07/2026 20:36

BillieWiper · 14/07/2026 14:15

That sounds like someone in psychosis (unlikely) or a sociopath if he thinks that's normal?

I was just thinking the same thing. I'd give him a wide berth.

Fiendishandfiery · 18/07/2026 20:23

SerendipityCat · 18/07/2026 19:45

Four days and 450+ replies, zilch from OP, I think we can draw our own conclusions.

Probably on her fifth date by now and shagging him as we speak.

SerendipityCat · 18/07/2026 19:45

mivona · 17/07/2026 16:53

Was this just a rage bait post? Or did it really happen?

Four days and 450+ replies, zilch from OP, I think we can draw our own conclusions.

No12worryabout · 18/07/2026 19:10

He sounds abusive, ditch him before it's too late.

Notavailabletryanotherone1 · 18/07/2026 18:52

Would feel the same way. If he’s that juvenile he can’t just leave his wine , why would you want another date .

MrDX · 18/07/2026 18:32

It’s not so much the pouring as the follow up. While the initial act was ridiculous, this would be a different matter if he was equally mortified having maybe done something in the moment, admitting it was a huge misjudgment brought on by eg nerves or trying and failing to impress by being quirky or something. If he was the one now mortified, saying he just really liked you and he lost his sensibilities, and wanted to make up for it etc I’d instead say to accept hos mistake and maybe laugh about it in 20 years with him. But alas no, he sounds unhinged.

Weirdgoldfish · 18/07/2026 18:06

Would he find it so funny if someone had slipped on it? Yes he probably would. Dump him!

Happydays777 · 18/07/2026 12:52

mivona · 17/07/2026 16:53

Was this just a rage bait post? Or did it really happen?

Agree.

mivona · 17/07/2026 16:53

Was this just a rage bait post? Or did it really happen?

Happydays777 · 17/07/2026 13:31

homeiswherethecoffeeis · 15/07/2026 22:37

How much wine has he had before he did this? I mean was he drunk?

This or was he on something? What odd behaviour.. very strange. I'd have excused my self to the bathroom and run out the door. paid my share of the bill if needed but I have had to have left after that.

Happydays777 · 17/07/2026 13:23

What a strange thing to do. Very inappropriate and odd behaviour. Is he just childish or was he on something to laugh about something so rude? I would have made an excuse to go to the bathroom and run out the door and get away from him as far as possible and block him. I wouldn't be able to speak or sit with someone so unpredictable.

MrsJeanLuc · 16/07/2026 16:24

Deboragh · 16/07/2026 09:12

Hard disagree, he needs to be told exactly why he's being dumped, otherwise he'll just blame her for being 'weird' and not reflect. He needs to give his head a wobble.

Tbf, I doubt it makes any difference either way. He isn't the sort of guy to reflect on his actions and learn from the consequences.

OneBoldPlayer · 16/07/2026 14:51

That is vandalism, If I had someone with me, man or woman. they could stuff their friendship. from Lenora

OldScribbler · 16/07/2026 11:36

Arrested development. Maybe even reversed.

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