Old lady keeps approaching my toddler, making me feel uncomfortable

This lady may have dementia or have no family and be lonely.. where has caring and emohany for others gone. Just smile politely and walk on if she bothers you that much.

Well you've made up your mind then! Why post when you are so sure you are right? Maybe a volunteer day in a nursing home might help with your strange attitude.

Oh dear 🤦‍♂️🤣

Old lady in their 60's what a cheek

I don't think that's the issue. It's that OP hasn't prevented the touching but wants to moan about it ..and compare the lady to murderers and say ...so far she is "weird" "crazy" and more ...
Gathering an unpleasant community around her opinions rather than avoid or stop the behaviours she finds problematic..
Anyhow OP has indicated the police will be involved so it will play out

That’s her striking up a conversation. Her behaviour is normal. It’s human interaction.

People can post regardless of how many friends or family members they have to discuss things with.
That's literally the whole point of this forum.

Have you read the OPs follow up comments? If you had, you will know this is a wind up and some of us are taking the piss. ( It's hot as hell. I need distraction).

I gather from the comments that quite a lot of people may disagree with me, but I think you are right OP. My stepson, who is in his thirties had wonderful curly hair when he was younger. He still remembers how uncomfortable he was with old ladies coming up and touching or trying to touch his 'lovely hair' Your job as a Mum is to protect his bodily autonomy until he can express it himself, and definitely not to teach him that it is okay for strangers to touch him and demand hugs! I despair of some of the opinions on here, I really do. Why does the fact that it's an older lady make it okay to expect to touch a stranger's child?

I think you are going to have to change your name and leave the country. She knows where you live.

This made me cry 😢

Elderly people are my toddlers people! For some odd reason she is always waving, smiling and blowing kisses to older people. She is 16 months old.

I think it’s ok to set boundaries and state how you feel but honestly you sound a bit OTT. Did you really have to post on here? No friends or family to discuss with?

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You strange human

OP. I never comment but please ignore posters who say you are OTT. You are absolutely not over the top. People justifying 'oh but she's just an old lady' so where do you draw the line, would you say the same if it was an old man touching a little girl? why does that give her a free pass to ignore OPS boundaries and do as she pleases? She may well be just an old lady but it doesn't mean shes a good person. People just assume old and lonely are good people or can do as they want because they are lonely and they might not get any other interaction 🙄 If old people are lonely they should find groups and interact with other people in the same situation. It's really not OPS problem and she shouldn't feel guilted or uncomfortable. I would never feel entitled when I am old to inflict myself upon others just because I am feeling lonely, especially not if someone had specifically asked me not to touch THEIR child.

Apes pick things out of each other's fur too. Would you be happy for someone to come up and start picking through your hair?

i’ve never understood this either OP.

We bring our kids up telling them being touched without their permission is not ok yet if their are between the ages of what newborn and 3/4 it’s ok to have random people come up, touch them and say they’re adorable?!?

How about you just don’t touch people you don’t know full fucking stop regardless of their age??

An elderly neighbour on our road used to like a chat when DD was a baby. During one conversation, she was horrified to discover I was returning to work. 'Your mummy's leaving you and going back to work. She doesn't want to look after you. No, she doesn't.' she said directly to DD. I politely explained my childcare arrangements. After that, if she was on the pavement when we emerged, I used to push the pram across the road and wave cheerily because I didn't want to a repeat performance. Quite simple really.

It's obvious it's a wind up. We are now ancient 😂😂

My thoughts exactly! Cross the road, and honestly it sounds more like an annoyance than a threat that needs a whole MN thread about.

Let's not forget op said this woman stares out or her window and waits, then comes out of her house. I doubt she would get across the road with a walking stick fast enough, let a lone see that far considering this is apparently an "elderly little old lady" at the grand age of 60 odd. Although she does sound like a spritely old dear 😂

My last post broke talk guidelines. I will make the same point in a more sober and respectful way.

OP, now that it is established that the woman in her 60s behaves in a way that is problematic to the extent that your neighbourhood is talking about her, I would like to ask why you don't just cross the road when she is out in public at the same time as you. That would be the simplest way to protect your child.

Typo

If you are so convinced you are right, why did you come on here to ask if you were right?
If it was to have your ego boosted by people telling you you are a great mum for protecting your child, you got that.
If it was to ruffle feathers with ancient 60+ posters, you got that too.
Unless you just enjoy drama. You got that too.
Win -win.