Leaving house to one child and not the other?

Well there will be now.

Very very unfair, clear favouritism.

OP, while no-one can tell anyone else what to do with their money, and an inheritance is a bonus rather than an expectation, I think to leave a house to one DC and not the other is not only a monstrous injustice, but also immensely hurtful to the DC who’s left out. If they have told the DC that this is to happen, don’t be surprised if the left out DC gradually withdraws - whoever has written such an unfair will has made it very plain which DC they favour.

I am one of 3 siblings.
We live at different parts of the country (some closer to my parents than others) We each earn different amounts in income/savings.
My parents have made it clear in their Will that it will be split equally between the 3 of us.
The fairest way that doesn't cause ill feeling to anyone....

So this happened to me. My mum passed years ago and didn’t have a will. Dad was controlled by my older sister, I’m the youngest. My db passed away 3 years before dad. I live 300 miles away due to my ex husband’s job.
I rarely visited due to poor relationship with my mum. However when she died and most recently my db I was in contact and visited. Infrequent by still visited due to being a single parent and self employed. Ie when I don’t work I don’t get paid due to the nature of my job.

my dad left my sister 60%, me 25% and her daughter 15% and sister got the house. Bear in mind I’m in rented and she has a house.

ds didn’t even give me my inheritance for 2 years (no probate) I had to threaten legal
action against her.

our relationship is non existent now thanks to dad. My sister always said she should get the lions share as she did a lot for dad. She was a martyr and boy did she make sure she got it.

sadly she felt it ok to keep everything all his possessions and the house. I wasn’t allowed to go and get any keepsakes. All my childhood stuff and photos are gone. It’s like she has wiped me
from our family history. She didn’t even give my brothers two children anything due to a silly situation and likely grief when he died.

I hope she rots in hell

It’s awful but it’s MNs so you will be told get over it etc.

For you to care so much and be bothered enough to start this thread, it’s either you or your DP.
The answer is it’s entirely down to the parents how they split their will. You can be unhappy about it, but that won’t change it.
Is this your DP/his parents, and you are the partner who they say will inherit from your own parents?
If you are honest with yourself, is there truth in the future scenario they perceive, that you will also inherit but their other child will only get an inheritance from them? Is that likely inheritance sizeable enough for these parents to feel comfortable trying to balance things out?

Are you the partner of one of the siblings?

Based on the limited information provided in the OPs posts, it sounds very unfair.
if for example, one child cut contact with the parent or was abusive to that parent, while the other did everything for them, in that instance I might consider favouring one over the other.

in my famil of siblings we have all done well career wise but one has done particularly well. Our parents have split their will equally between all siblings, which all siblings are in agreement with.

Based on the limited information provided in the OPs posts, it sounds very unfair.
if for example, one child cut contact with the parent or was abusive to that parent, while the other did everything for them, in that instance I might consider favouring one over the other.

in my famil of siblings we have all done well career wise but one has done particularly well. Our parents have split their will equally between all siblings, which all siblings are in agreement with.

Of course no one knows what a will says unless someone tells them, this may not be what the will says at all, just assumptions.

Unfair even where one child is materially better off than the other eg through work or marriage. I'd only ever do something other than a 50/50 split of one child was significantly better or worse off through something outside their control eg disability, lottery win, and even then I'd be cautious about it.

Totally unfair. If you want your adult children to retain a relationship then leave a fair will. Anything else is unfair and unreasonable.

Just because someone has a right to make a decision, it doesn’t mean other people can’t think it’s shitty.

When you say living away is that estranged? Does the one living away have problems? Selling the house and leaving the value 50:50 sounds more fair but it really depends, did the child living away get lots of help previously?

It all depends.

It happens in farming families and royalty / the aristocracy with stately homes.

Generally it’s favouritism or misguided engineering of respective finances, or sexist stuff (leave it to the son) or something

Will the other sibling get savings, other cash and assets?

I think that without very specific circumstances parents should leave their estate in equal shares to their Dc.

It’s a huge mistake and will cause damage for generations. Everything should be split equally between children or it just causes hurt.

Following your update, I would say it’s unfair. You say they have similar finances, but one lives further away, is that the issue?

I would never do this. Mil died last year, two adult dc, her son my dh with 5 dc and a mortgage got nothing, her daughter who lived with her, single, childless, was left the house. While I understand that it's her dds home and she should be entitled to remain living there, its a bit shit that she inherited a house worth 500k, while her brother received nothing.

Children should always be treated equally. Only reasons to diverge from this would be if one child has a major lifelong disability or is in prison for a major crime. Otherwise an equal split is the only fair option.

What is the reason they’ve given for doing this? There must be one and I imagine it’s relevant to whether it’s fair or not.

No. That’s awful. Could never imagine doing that to my kids.