Leaving house to one child and not the other?

So the parent was living in their fully paid-off house with one of their adult children and has now signed the house over to this child who is charging their parent rent???

This is so many levels of wrong, I wouldn't know where to start.

The sibling who lives further away should keep their distance. The whole set-up is completely unfair and I don't know what the parent was thinking.

I agree. It's clear on this thread that there is no perfect "one size fits all' solution. However, my sister has had thousands of pounds of support from my parents, mostly to offset situations she got herself into. For example, spending all her money on holidays and very expensive hobbies and then pleading poverty when it came to buying a family property, eventually being sold it for approx 30% under market value. While I saved for my deposit. And there were no more family properties for me to buy (sister is older). Yes, my parents get to make their own decisions, but it absolutely does feel like mums message is that she loved my sister more than me. So she got to make her decisions but it's shit. Fortunately for me, mum told me this while she was still alive and I got to tell her what I thought of it and how it felt. Not sure it changed her opinion much but she couldn't pretend I was happy about her plans 1

I agree with you. I'm not that flush but db was really struggling financially due to a bad accident which he originally got pip for but was then told he was fit to work (he wasn't). I would have been fine with him getting the lion share of our parents' estate even though I have 4 dc and he had none. My dc are doing well and they are not my parents' responsibility. Unfortunately db died 2 years ago so it's all pie in the sky now. My parents did their will last month and they have left everything to me and if I predecease them to my dc equally.

No but they shouldn’t prioritise their son over their daughter. I would also expect a mother to put her children before her brother.
I am just so against treating children differently. I know my mother has put my brother before my sister and I. TBH, I really don’t care but my sister does. The funny thing is that it will probably all go on nursing home fees.

Yes I have adult children and they could use money for a deposit. However they really aren’t my parents’ responsibility and I can’t expect them to prioritise them over their own son.

Up to the giver, unless they've been coerced and lied to or they are leaving money to a disabled child for care.

@BabyBump1212 Daisy Goodwin wrote a very good piece on this which she put on Substack and it has a huge reaction showing how people feel about being left out. Very worth a read.
All you can do is leave them to it and get in with your lives . But imo it's very unfair. Different if siblings were still dependents.

IIRC, unless the rent paid is at a market rate then HMRC consider it a Gift With Reservation and they take a very dim view of that. There will be a tax bill incoming to the Golden Child, methinks.

And of course, Golden Child is now in a position to sell the house from under the parent, making the parent homeless. Because it's theirs now, innit?

Your parent needs to be paying the market rate. This is a legal requirement.

Is there a Lasting Power of Attorney in place and are you an attorney? Are you a trustee of the will?

Can I ask if you have children? Your attitude is fine if you are single or you have children and you can already afford to put them through university and give them house deposits but if you can’t then any inheritance would make a difference.

Your partner needs to step away.
You have been drip feeding little bits of information making it difficult to get a true picture of the situation. This has resulted in comments which have no relevance to what I think is your current situation.
Proving coercive control or challenging a will takes time, massive emotional investment and financial cost. It is best to draw a line in the sand now. Cut all contact and let them deal with the consequences.
Concentrate on living the best lives and concentrate on your own family unit.ooʻ

I don’t understand why people say wills pit siblings against eachother. My brother struggles financially and I don’t. When my mother raised it with me I told her to give most of it to my brother. He needs it, I don’t. It doesn’t always have to be nasty.

This is so wrong on many levels. I presume your partner is the other child. How did you find out this had happened?
What level of interaction or support is the other child giving to the parent? Withdraw all support now as Mum is now the responsibility of the homeowner. If the Mjm hasn't signed it over with proper legal advice and protection she could find herself homeless.
Step away as this has the potential to get very messy.

It is really up to the parents and if thd children are happy with it
But if not just do bog go with it it happened with us and now all 8 of my children ignore me and have not talked to md for 2 years

My MIL did this. Left her house to my husband and nothing to his sister. She told us this. I was horrified (even though we stood to inherit) and told her she was wrong. Her reasoning was SIL was married and it was up to her husband to support her. MIL's parents left everything to her 2 brothers and nothing to her using the same reasoning. MIL's brothers were both very high earners and MIL and FIl were not.

When she died, H did a deed of whatever it's called and gave SIL half the value of the house when it was sold.

MIL died at 80 in 2020. This was not some Victorian story.

If you want your children to not speak to each other it sounds like a great idea, otherwise why would you do this? Do you not like one of them? Why are you punishing them?

Personally I could never do that

Well you can't cut a house in half or into portions to get an equall portion unless its where all are under the same roof. And now adays selling a place based on the cost of things might not be a quick sale if they don't have a chance to get the money for it in time.

My DB was given the family home several years ago. I was given a smaller sum of money and told that I would inherit DM's house when she died. In addition there was a field that, due to the expansion of the town where they live, may be sold for development. Initially DM held onto it, as it was to be split between us, but I recently found out that she'd signed it over to DB. Obviously DM hadn't thought of care home costs, but I think she may have now and is worrying about it. I had to make my peace with it all when it initially happened - and I am trying to set her mind at rest that she needs to do what's best for her and that I am not counting on inheriting (much rather have her). DM has always felt that DB needed more support - and hadn't taken into account that he's now a multi-millionaire (which I am not).

Super unfair but I have heard this happening so many times! Usually it’s when the parents feel that one kid will make it in life and they are not worried for him and the other it’s not as good so they want to create a safety net for him.

We have 4 DC. I don't speak to one of them for big reasons and may not ever speak to or see them again. I'm in my early 60s so hope I've got another 20 years. Still DH & I are going to split everything equally amontthe 4 DC.

Sounds very similar to my situation.

Sister moved in with mum when her marriage broke down and she had a 3 year old son. She is still there as is her son who is 27 and has never worked or claimed benefit. They make zero contribution to the household finances. Mum now has dementia and sister is now the martyr carer, getting her name added to savings accounts, changed will which says she can stay 2 years after mum passes, and generally making out that nobody is interested in helping her out. Claims she could end up homeless despite having had the same boyfriend for 17 years who has never bothered to set up home with her due to the cost. Works as a plumber and drives a Porsche.
Feel so sad for my mum.