Leaving house to one child and not the other?

Yes of course you love them equally and in an ideal world want to treat them equally.
However if my dd had the most incredible life and my ds was scrimping to buy a grotty 1 bed flat, I would definitely put feelers out to see how my dd felt about it. I am the dd in this situation and I am sympathetic to my mum’s worry for my brother, I know if she leaves it to him that has zero to do with her loving me any less.

Hopefully, then, you both won’t be dragged into the shitshow when it eventually happens.

So they may be a trustee but they’re not an attorney otherwise there would have been paperwork to sign. That’s a bit better.

And what should they say hypothetically to the inheriting sibling?

So, hypothetically, given that we know the OPDP won’t, what should the slighted child say to the parent who did this to them?

It’s malicious or stupid. Maybe a bit of both. Presumably they have signed over the house to avoid inheritance tax or the golden child loosing the house due to care home fees. That’s deprivation of assets and is illegal. It shows they have prioritised protecting golden child inheritance over giving anything to the other sibling. When the die the golden child will inherit, the other left with nothing will resent their sibling and believe their parents never loved them, causing a huge family rift that will last forever but the cowardly parents would not have to witness or endure because they are dead. People who do this happily to their own children really don’t deserve to have any.

It’s an everything dodge. Is your DP a trustee of the will or an attorney on the LPA? If so he will be guilty by association and the Office of the Public Guardian and HMRC will take a very dim view of this when they’re involved in the future.

The house is signed over to the golden child and the parent is paying nominal rent.

So this is a tax dodge?

You can certainly tell the posters whose parents don't have anything for them to inherit - and as for the ones whose parents left their sibling a ton more than they were left, why on earth would you be fine with that? Unless you're already very well off of course......

OP it's shit, and it's shitter still that your husband is still running around after them. Are you sure there isn't a lump sum of cash intended for him though?

I am the carer for DH with dementia. I know lots of carers looking after elderly parents. Often giving up jobs to do so and doing most of the 24/7 work which is hard. under these circumstances, it is appropriate that one daughter (and it usually is a daughter), is properly reflected in the will. There is a sad pattern in dementia of one sibling doing all the work and then at the end of life, the others having a lot to say.

If the rent is only nominal, rather than at market value, it sounds like a gift with reservation of benefit, and HMRC won't be very impressed.
Either way, the house is already in the paws of golden child, so it sounds like that horse has bolted.
Are you absolutely sure they didn't buy the house from the parent to free up some cash for them in old age like an informal equity release? The whole thing sounds a bit messy.

They've been trained. Same in my family.

It's a great way to fuck up at least one of your children and to destroy their relationship into the bargain.

That’s not what the poster is asking though is it? We all know that we ‘’can’ leave whatever we like to whoever we want, but that doesn’t make it fair.

In this case…it’s a house, being left solely to one sibling and excluding the other, with no reasonable justification (according to the OP).

She is asking if this is ‘fair’, which of course it isn’t! I’m not sure how any reasonable parent would be able to justify this…nor how the siblings would navigate their relationship afterwards! It’s deeply unfair!

From my mum or my dad do you mean

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Hmm my dad left all his stuff and money to my sister. ( Not house that passed to his wife as joint tenants)

No dilemma, it is what it is. My mum left 60% of house to one brother and 20% each to other 2 of us.

Our relationships haven't changed since this

Very unfair.

This is telling the left out child that they are not worth as much. Not considered, not liked and not thought about.

If it was me I'd go very low contact and leave them to it.

I would let the sibling living with mum take over all mums care needs. I wouldn't spend my time running around after finding out they wanted to protect my siblings future but not mine if there was no bad blood previously.

My parent had it done to them by their parent (my grandparent) there was no bad blood but it was awful and sad. Lots of animosity between sibling set of 4 now when 2 got £200k each and 2 got nothing.