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To be upset my dd is dating a middle aged man

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Middleaged77 · 13/07/2026 11:48

She dating a 30 year old he’s 30 late July and she’s 22 23 one Tuesday. He’s middle aged and she’s still so young

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myglowupera · 13/07/2026 14:40

She’s old enough to make valid choices that suit her without having to manage people’s feelings about it. She’s an adult, stop infantilising her.

WonderWeeksArentReal · 13/07/2026 14:40

I met DH when I was 23 and he was 30. We've been together over 15 years and still going strong. When we met he was a much better catch than all the guys my own age (still is in many ways).

Wetblanket78 · 13/07/2026 14:39

Thought you were going to say he’s in his 50’s. Ffs 29 isn’t middle aged. A lot of women have relationships with men a few years older than.

groguismychild · 13/07/2026 14:38

Sherararara · 13/07/2026 11:50

Cue all the “30 is not middle aged!” comments.

I like how you mention he’s 30 in July like that makes a difference. He’s not a toddler who’s “2, but 3 in July”

Edited

This made me chuckle! 😆

Growlybear83 · 13/07/2026 14:38

I think you’re being ridiculous - seven years is not a significant age difference once you’re an adult. I had several relationships with age gaps of between 4 and 10 years before I met my husband and I only ever had one boyfriend who was the same age as me - I always expected an absolute minimum age difference of at least three years, preferably more.

Dollymylove · 13/07/2026 14:37

This has to be a troll post 😅

LeticiaMorales · 13/07/2026 14:35

My husband is 8 years older than me
We've been happily married for over 30 years.
Also, you've posted about this before and got the same answers, so let it go.

Lomonald · 13/07/2026 14:35

Phonicshaskilledmeoff · 13/07/2026 14:33

I’m devastated to learn I’m elderly in my late 30’s

I'm.55 sojust a pile of dusty bones.

Liqorishlaces · 13/07/2026 14:34

She’s 22 a grown adult. He’s 30 so hopefully has matured and ready to settle down . Leave them to it .

Nadilla · 13/07/2026 14:33

I wouldn’t love it. But it is not the worst example of age gap horrors.

Jk987 · 13/07/2026 14:33

So she’s 23 and he’s 29 so a 6 year age gap? By your logic your daughter will be middle aged in 6 years time so all will be fine.

PoliteSquid · 13/07/2026 14:33

At age 45ish my BIL had an affair/dated a 23 year old. That was appalling. He was married and she was 22 years younger than him.

A 7 year gap between two single people in their 20s is not appalling!

Lomonald · 13/07/2026 14:33

Although it's true that he's not middle aged (unless you're in Scotland)

Eh what?

Phonicshaskilledmeoff · 13/07/2026 14:33

I’m devastated to learn I’m elderly in my late 30’s

chocoluv · 13/07/2026 14:32

So when she’s 23 she’ll be dating a 29yo

Stop treating her like a child.

Are you jealous of her?

Parcelpass · 13/07/2026 14:30

Victorius19 · 13/07/2026 13:19

DH was 29 when we met, I was 19 and my Mum was less than impressed I have to say. I was a young 19, he was running his own business and had his own house. She felt that I'd miss out on certain experiences by going out with someone who'd already done what I hadn't.

She was entirely right, I so wish I'd listened.

Are you still together? Assuming you are. I think 19 and 29 is too big of an age gap. I think OP is OTT but on the other hand I think its more than enough of an age gap for her DD too.

Lomonald · 13/07/2026 14:30

Middleaged77 · 13/07/2026 11:48

She dating a 30 year old he’s 30 late July and she’s 22 23 one Tuesday. He’s middle aged and she’s still so young

30 isn't middle aged i expected at least 40 ,Your dd is a grown woman it 7/8 years difference calm yourself!

As an aside what is it with posters trying to convince us 30 is "old"

JJWT · 13/07/2026 14:28

Middleaged77 · 13/07/2026 11:48

She dating a 30 year old he’s 30 late July and she’s 22 23 one Tuesday. He’s middle aged and she’s still so young

You need to correct your typos. I assume you mean 50, or 60? Otherwise you are batshit, I'm afraid!!

adamduritzvocalchords · 13/07/2026 14:28

I was 23 when I met my 29 year old partner. 36 years later we are still together and happy

LooksLikeIPickedTheWrongWeekToQuitDrinking · 13/07/2026 14:27

She’s “so young” but 7 years older is middle aged? 🤪

Absolutely ridiculous.

Jenpen31 · 13/07/2026 14:27

Is this for real? 30 is not middle aged.
Also this is your daughter life not yours!!!

RudePhthaloDalmadoodle · 13/07/2026 14:25

You're not being ridiculous to have concerns, just be realistic and try not to jump to conclusions. Although it's true that he's not middle aged (unless you're in Scotland), 7 years can seem like a large gap at age 22. However, it's her choice who to date and nothing you can (or should) do about it. Have you met him, had a chance to get to know him a little bit and see how they interact? Are they at similar stages of life - just for example both finished with school, working, no children - or is there some other discrepancy besides age that's making you think the relationship might be or feel unequal?

ThisWiseRobin · 13/07/2026 14:25

Are you crazy? Your daughter has found a straight single 30 year old, presumably with a job.....I would be rejoicing. Dont be so silly.

EmmaOfNormandy · 13/07/2026 14:25

Oh ! The humanity !

ByQuaintAzureWasp · 13/07/2026 14:25

My husband is 7/8 years older than me. Met when I was 19 and him 26, married 25 years.