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To be upset my dd is dating a middle aged man

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Middleaged77 · 13/07/2026 11:48

She dating a 30 year old he’s 30 late July and she’s 22 23 one Tuesday. He’s middle aged and she’s still so young

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Motherofalittledragon · 13/07/2026 16:44

That’s hardly middle-aged is it!

Krevlornswath · 13/07/2026 16:40

Calling it middle aged to make it sound worse is just daft when the man is only 30 OP. She is an adult on the run to her mid twenties, the gap isn't exactly anything to write home about and fortunately we are all free to choose our own partners.

I'd be more interested in whether she was happy and whether or not his treatment of her offered her what she needed and wanted from a partner.

HoppingPavlova · 13/07/2026 16:37

Vaxtable · 13/07/2026 16:27

Middle Ages is 40-65!

hes 7 years older thats it. And you can have old 23 year olds and young 30 year olds

its her life leave her be

It could be argued it’s 45-65. I’m pretty sure that’s what I was taught (medical) many decades ago. Since then, people have stretched out, life expectancy wise, so 45yo would definitely make more sense than 40yo.

Irrespective, the OP is talking about someone 29/30yo, which is only a 6 year difference from her daughter, and nowhere near middle aged - most people have not even started children at this age nowadays! Simply put OP is hysterically batshit.

Gonnagetgoingreturnsagain · 13/07/2026 16:37

When I was younger my nana and mum often thought an older man would suit me better. I ignored them of course.

Ek1234 · 13/07/2026 16:37

Middle aged 🤔

inkgirl · 13/07/2026 16:34

30 is not middle aged. That age gap isn't bad. There's 8 years between me and my boyfriend. Its all about connection and how well they get on. If they are arguing all the time then yea thats an issue, if not then dont really see the problem

Gibstub · 13/07/2026 16:34

Middleaged77 · 13/07/2026 11:48

She dating a 30 year old he’s 30 late July and she’s 22 23 one Tuesday. He’s middle aged and she’s still so young

Middle aged man?????? You need to grow up.

Nautiesdese · 13/07/2026 16:32

No replies from OP.

Vaxtable · 13/07/2026 16:27

Middle Ages is 40-65!

hes 7 years older thats it. And you can have old 23 year olds and young 30 year olds

its her life leave her be

wishingonastar101 · 13/07/2026 16:20

omg he's old enough to be her father... oh no wait he's really not.

ForeverNowWithin · 13/07/2026 16:20

30 isn't middle aged, don't be so ridiculous. In fact 30 is the new 23. And 23 is the new 18.

AprilMizzel · 13/07/2026 16:14

He's 29 and she's 22 - so 7 and a bit years age difference - that's hardly huge only bit more than more usual 1-4 years.

Maturity wise they may well match - honestly though at 22 you don't get a to say who they date - and less emphasis on age and more do they treat each other well.

Plus ealiest most people thing of as middle age is 35 - and my IL when they were hitting fifty were insiting they were only just becoming middle aged and many agreed with them.

LeafyPurple · 13/07/2026 16:12

Middleaged77 · 13/07/2026 11:48

She dating a 30 year old he’s 30 late July and she’s 22 23 one Tuesday. He’s middle aged and she’s still so young

I dated a 30 year old man when I was 19 but he was bossy so I ditched him. No harm done.

ruethewhirl · 13/07/2026 16:11

Middleaged77 · 13/07/2026 11:48

She dating a 30 year old he’s 30 late July and she’s 22 23 one Tuesday. He’s middle aged and she’s still so young

OP, please tell us you are joking. This is just too ridiculous for words.

JulietteHasAGun · 13/07/2026 16:10

So she’s dating someone six years older? So what? When I was her age I was dating someone 14 years older and I married him!

Loub1987 · 13/07/2026 16:01

If 29 is middle aged, I’m 37 what does that make me?! Elderly? I feel it but the label isn’t nice 😂

nam3c4ang3 · 13/07/2026 15:50

Fucking hell - this thread is ridiculous OP 😂 - what is wrong with you?!

Frazzled89 · 13/07/2026 15:50

Is this a joke? You'd be upset my age gap marriage then, met when it as 24 and he was 40. 22 and 29 isn't that far apart at all. Are there other reasons why you dislike the match?

Bamboozledbylife · 13/07/2026 15:48

Yabu

icingonmycupcake · 13/07/2026 15:48

Is this a wind up? If not then get a grip. 🙄

hourglass2 · 13/07/2026 15:47

If he was 39 then yes I would agree with you but 29? Not ideal but I couldn't get too bothered about it

Marieb19 · 13/07/2026 15:45

Yes, you are being unreasonable. He is not even 7 years older than her.

Sassylovesbooks · 13/07/2026 15:44

Ermmm....he's 29 (nearly 30) not 50!! He's 7 years older than her, not 17 or 27 years older!

When I was 24, I was in a relationship with a 31 year old, exactly the same age gap as your daughter and her boyfriend. Mine, turned out to be an arsehole, but his age didn't make him an arsehole, his personality did!

Unless 30, has been mistyped twice, and this man is indeed 49 (nearly 50), then I don't think you have too much to worry about!

Dogstar78 · 13/07/2026 15:42

One poster has made a good point about maturity. My 23 niece has two kids, a partner and a mortgage. That is the sort of life she wanted and it makes her happy. Long haul flights, ridulous quantities of shoes and 3 day party weekends made me happy at 23.

I am now with someone who is 7 years older. It is nothing, but can be a reach if one partner is either very immature or mature when you are both younger. If he is respectful, looks after her and supports her with her ambitions, that would make me happy.

Support the relationship and let her know you are there for her. So, if it is not right she can come to you and not feel she has to lie in the bed she made. I see why you feel uncomfortable but our kids will make their own choices that might be different to choices we would make.

The only thing I would have my eye on is an older partner with kids and my daughter being taken advantage of. This is currently happening to my partner's daughter. Not that it matters, but it is a same sex relationship. I wanted to make a point that this dynamic can occur in other blended family scenarios.

MyOliveCritic · 13/07/2026 15:40

Must be a joke ! Like lots of others I thought he must be at least 50 ! Ridiculous !