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To be upset my dd is dating a middle aged man

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Middleaged77 · 13/07/2026 11:48

She dating a 30 year old he’s 30 late July and she’s 22 23 one Tuesday. He’s middle aged and she’s still so young

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HappilyDivorced89 · 14/07/2026 08:59

Google the definition of "middle aged" OP:

Middle-aged is the period of adult life roughly between the ages of 40 and 65. It is the stage when an individual is no longer considered young but has not yet reached old age. 1, 2]
The exact range varies depending on context:
General Dictionaries: Usually defined as ages 40 to 65 (or 45 to 64).
Psychology/Sociology: Often referred to as "midlife," spanning from age 40 to 65.
UK Perception: A 2012 UK survey indicated that adults often perceive middle age as beginning around age 55, while Britannica Dictionary defines it from age 40 to 60. 1, 2, 3, 4, 5]

middle age

1. the period of your life, usually considered to be from about 45 to 60 years…

https://dictionary.cambridge.org/dictionary/english/middle-age

BunnyLake · 14/07/2026 08:35

Middleaged77 · 13/07/2026 20:12

Middle age has to start at some point and seven years is a big gap depending on where it is. If it was say a 30 year old and 37 year old there would be no worry

It starts at least in your 40s. It’s barmy to think a 29 yr old is on the cusp of middle age. I bet you won’t be thinking your dd is middle aged when she’s 29. You probably see your dd like a child still.

garlictwist · 14/07/2026 04:47

I was 30 when I met my now husband who was 21. We are now 45 and 34 and very happily married. I don’t think it’s an issue.

asdbaybeeee · 14/07/2026 04:36

middle age is the period in the middle of your life usually considered to be between 40-60. Id be unhappy if she was under 20 or he was past early thirties.

Mt563 · 14/07/2026 03:12

She's an adult. Even if she's been to uni, she's likely got a job and living independently at 23 or at least needing to be making her own decisions and mistakes. Let her go already. His age and the gap is not an issue.

SquirrelGG · 14/07/2026 02:23

You are being ridiculous - and no, 30 is far from being "middle aged".

Howmanycatsistoomany · 14/07/2026 01:21

He's only 7 years older than her. Get a grip OP!

Livinthedrama · 14/07/2026 01:15

Get a fucking grip.

Wordsmithery · 14/07/2026 01:05

FFS. You ok, OP?----

DoNoTakeNo · 14/07/2026 00:39

At 25 I was in a relationship with a 50yo man. He was joyful, funny, sexy, intelligent. We moved on elsewhere, such is life; I’ll never forget him. That was an example of a young DD dating a middle aged man, and it was absolutely nothing for my DM to have worried about. Your situation? Nowt at all to raise even the slightest concern over- they’re less than 8 years apart! It is how they treat each other that matters. Please don’t express your anxieties to your DD about her relationship, just build on your relationship & be there for her as she enjoys her own life.

JFDIYOLO · 14/07/2026 00:29

How old are you, op?

SeaAndSangria · 13/07/2026 23:55

FallenNight · 13/07/2026 11:52

She is a grownup a 22 year old woman dating a 29 year old man. This should not be a big news story in your life. I am glad everything else is going so smoothly for you.

This
Bloody hell

JustSawJohnny · 13/07/2026 23:37

Middleaged77 · 13/07/2026 20:12

Middle age has to start at some point and seven years is a big gap depending on where it is. If it was say a 30 year old and 37 year old there would be no worry

What utter rubbish.

Middle aged DOES NOT START AT 30!

You're going on as if DD is a child.

She's not.

EmeraldDreams73 · 13/07/2026 22:40

So a 7 year age gap. I thought you were going to say she was 16 and he was 45.

Dh is 7 years older than me. My dad is 9 years older than my mum. My friend is 13 years younger than her husband. As adults it's about personality and whether they're a good fit for each other.

MajorProcrastination · 13/07/2026 22:36

Middleaged77 · 13/07/2026 20:12

Middle age has to start at some point and seven years is a big gap depending on where it is. If it was say a 30 year old and 37 year old there would be no worry

the Cambridge Dictionary describes middle age as between 45-60.

Gooseling · 13/07/2026 22:35

Middleaged77 · 13/07/2026 20:12

Middle age has to start at some point and seven years is a big gap depending on where it is. If it was say a 30 year old and 37 year old there would be no worry

Yeah, “middle aged” starts roughly 45-55 according to most, not late 20’s you absolute cockwomble.

Dexternight · 13/07/2026 22:20

Middleaged77 · 13/07/2026 11:48

She dating a 30 year old he’s 30 late July and she’s 22 23 one Tuesday. He’s middle aged and she’s still so young

Get a grip

VividPinkTraybake · 13/07/2026 22:12

sugarapplelane · 13/07/2026 13:34

How old are you Op? Middle aged? I’m 51 which is middle aged. 29 is still a spring chicken.

I think this is a wind up

Well it has worked but I'd only give the o.p 3/10 for not really following up in the comments. Should have researched qhat tv programs or music a 29 year old would know and a 22 year old wouldn't

shockmethen · 13/07/2026 21:56

For the love of god. I dated a 30 year old when I was 22. It was not weird

WeNeedaDiagram · 13/07/2026 21:31

TrishM80 · 13/07/2026 21:29

This thread has got to be a wind up.

I saw it because they are taking the piss on Tattle. 😂

TrishM80 · 13/07/2026 21:29

This thread has got to be a wind up.

Housebashing · 13/07/2026 21:26

Well, he’s got 33% more life on her so that is quite a significant percentage
Is he a nice person?

LilyBunch25 · 13/07/2026 21:23

Honestly, this really is one of the most ridiculous threads ever.

LilyBunch25 · 13/07/2026 21:22

Middleaged77 · 13/07/2026 20:12

Middle age has to start at some point and seven years is a big gap depending on where it is. If it was say a 30 year old and 37 year old there would be no worry

"Middle age has to start at some point" What?! What does that even, actually mean??

ZZTopGuitarSolo · 13/07/2026 21:16

I’m 26 years older than the ‘middle-aged’ man and I’m not ready to refer to myself as middle-aged yet…