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To be upset my dd is dating a middle aged man

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Middleaged77 · 13/07/2026 11:48

She dating a 30 year old he’s 30 late July and she’s 22 23 one Tuesday. He’s middle aged and she’s still so young

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Myotherusernamesafunnyone · 13/07/2026 13:37

They are either 22 and 29 or 23 and 30. Either way it’s 7 years and they are both grown adults. She is not a child. He is not a middle aged man.
I was 19 when I met my now husband and he was 26. We have been together over 25 years and married for over 18. Stop making a daft drama and be happy for her; if she has found a nice man who cares about her that’s what matters.

SallyD00lally · 13/07/2026 13:36

BunnyLake · 13/07/2026 13:31

It does sound familiar. I’ve been getting Deja Vu on here a lot lately.

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Yes, and what made it mildly amusing were the serious replies they got, just as they have on this one.

It's like no-one stops to roll their eyes and think 'Really?'

GrimDamnFanjo · 13/07/2026 13:36

Thats ridiculous - why not get to know him to see if he's a good partner - a much better idea than judging him on his "middle age"!

Glowingup · 13/07/2026 13:36

OP if 77 in your username is your year of birth you could be this guys mum, easily. Yet you call yourself middle aged (accurate) but you’re not in the same age bracket as someone born in 1996. Sorry.

Popstarrrrr · 13/07/2026 13:35

Chipshopsiblingwar · 13/07/2026 13:32

I remember a story in a teen mag ( sugar i think) with a 17 yr old who married a 60 old yr old . Now thats a horrible age gap funny enough i remember thinking it seemed ok at the time. Was 14ish i think.

I don't remember Sugar magazine but was it from the 80s? Some proper fucked up age gaps were heavily romanticised in the 80s.

MeganM3 · 13/07/2026 13:34

Thought you were gunna say to say your 20 year old is dating a 45 year old, with an ex wife and 3 kids.
22 and 29 is perfectly normal.

sugarapplelane · 13/07/2026 13:34

How old are you Op? Middle aged? I’m 51 which is middle aged. 29 is still a spring chicken.

I think this is a wind up

AllSlugsAreBastards · 13/07/2026 13:33

YABU because 1. 30 isn't middle aged and 2 that's only a 7 year age gap as she's 23 before he's 30.

VoiceOfCommonSense · 13/07/2026 13:33

Middleaged77 · 13/07/2026 11:48

She dating a 30 year old he’s 30 late July and she’s 22 23 one Tuesday. He’s middle aged and she’s still so young

What a silly post

Chipshopsiblingwar · 13/07/2026 13:32

I remember a story in a teen mag ( sugar i think) with a 17 yr old who married a 60 old yr old . Now thats a horrible age gap funny enough i remember thinking it seemed ok at the time. Was 14ish i think.

JFDIYOLO · 13/07/2026 13:32

Don't be so daft. They're both in their twenties. He's likely be more steady than someone her own age.

JustLetMeHave · 13/07/2026 13:32

I'm 34 and I feel middle aged but that's because I've got a baby and a toddler and my body is knackered!

BMW58 · 13/07/2026 13:31

Completely barking OP.

Go and have a cool drink and a lie-down.

😂

BunnyLake · 13/07/2026 13:31

rollonxmas · 13/07/2026 13:23

This is almost exactly the same as a previous thread

It does sound familiar. I’ve been getting Deja Vu on here a lot lately.

GCAcademic · 13/07/2026 13:31

Sherararara · 13/07/2026 11:50

Cue all the “30 is not middle aged!” comments.

I like how you mention he’s 30 in July like that makes a difference. He’s not a toddler who’s “2, but 3 in July”

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He's 347 and a half months. That half month makes a difference!

Bobajobob · 13/07/2026 13:30

So a 22 year old is dating a 29 year old! What is wrong with that? Sounds perfectly normal to me. And 30 is not middle aged unless you are planning on dying at 60.

SallyD00lally · 13/07/2026 13:30

This thread was mildly funny the first time round.

BunnyLake · 13/07/2026 13:30

My mum was 23 when she married my dad, who was 30. I was a proper grown up at 23 and would have felt capable of dating a 30 year old. Different today I suppose when 20 somethings are looked on as barely adult. As it stands at the minute she is 23 and he is 29 🤷‍♀️

TiggyTomCat · 13/07/2026 13:30

Are you for real - he's only 7 years older ffs.

Magnalux · 13/07/2026 13:29

Get a grip

Harrietsaunt · 13/07/2026 13:29

Don’t be ridiculous. They are both in their twenties. You sound batshit

Horses7 · 13/07/2026 13:28

This can’t be serious!!!

Viviennemary · 13/07/2026 13:28

You are being ridiculous.

Snufkin88 · 13/07/2026 13:28

He’s not middle aged what are you on about . YABU

ThisAutumnTown · 13/07/2026 13:27

A 7 yr age gap is nothing. You’re being insane