Can cake really be offensive?

I really hope this is a joke post.

It they are on the larger size then surely they are more likely to be happy about cake??

That M&S cake is flipping divine. It's been a staple in our house for a while, though less so recently as DH and I both on Mounjaro 😆

Ah I see. That makes sense. Potential sabotage for a person making important lifestyle changes if the changes are known about. Prior to reading this comment I had no idea how giving cake could be offensive but yup, if it's unsupportive to needed changes, I get it.

This seems like the perfect opportunity for you to go round their house bearing a custard pie, and when they answer the door, whap it in their face in time-honoured sitcom style

The OP linked it upthread. It says serves 16 on the box. While that may be optimistic, there would be at least 8-12 good sized slices so I can see how they had a couple of slices each and there would still plenty left.

What doesn't seemed to have been explained is why the DH bought a large 'party' cake when there was only two of them at home. M&S do a range of smaller nice cakes.

This one is similar and has better reviews.

M&S Lemon & Raspberry Cake - Ocado

And they could have got some meringues to put on top if that was the attraction.

lol, in answering to your question, YES!!! It seems cake can be seen as offensive. Sadly.

If I or anyone gave my Mum a cake it would come flying back overhead followed by a heated argument!

She’s type 2 diabetic and is forever rowing with people who try to gift her sugar in any form.

She still eats plenty of sugar though when no one is looking.

How dare you give cake, lol! Now you know OP.

How big was the cake?
Was half the equivalent of two large pieces, so that the "We couldn't possibly eat it all" seemed very performative with heavy subtext? 🤔

If someone brought me cake I'd be surprised and appreciative as long as it was fresh and not a couple days old having sat out and put in the fridge a few times. IME, people often bring left over slab cakes from parties to work on Monday mornings and no one complains.
It's cake!!!! 😛

No the OP hasn't said they're diabetic. Not that its relevant. Only on MN have I seen that people with diabetes never eat cake or other sugar.

It's fine in moderation, whatever type of diabetes you have and not everyone diagnosed with type 2 diabetes suddenly stop eating a poor diet. Some will but many won't.

Yeah I'm in team: "I don't want your leftover cake" thanks but no thanks...

I wouldn't be rude about it, but I wouldn't be "aw you're so thoughtful, thank you so much, so kind" - you didn't go out of your way to bring a cake - you didn't think oh, I know what, I'm going to MILs and I'll go get her a cake as I know she likes cake

Your husband bought you cake, it was too big, you couldn't eat it all so you gave the leftovers to your in-laws, that's how it looks. Because: that's how it was.

Sounds like you’ve been on MN too long! I sometimes have to stop and think about these things as well. 😄

Unless they’re diabetic (have I missed this?) there’s nothing offensive about cake. And even if they are diabetic, the polite thing to do is to thank you for your thoughtfulness and say we’d love to enjoy this, but we’re sorry we can’t. Thank you anyway. If people are offended by cake, they’ll be offended by everything and nothing. It’s not you, it’s them.

It’s not because it’s scummy hand me downs. It’s because it’s dried out supermarket cake filled with fillers and preservatives and not overly nice when fresh cut. Supermarket cake tastes weird to me.

But obviously I would say thanks and keep that thought to myself. MIL may just have been busy and not really thought about the random Tupperware she’s been handed.

I'd just 'smile', thank profusely and say how much you will look forward to a piece later, than chuck it in the bin when they've left. Or, cut into quarters and freeze it for another occasion. Someone will eat it.

Shop bought cake is always over sweet and full of long life chemicals. If someone made me a homemade low sugar/ diet recipe, knowing I'm trying to lose weight, I'd be very grateful and eat some.i

Gobsmacked that there are people on here who think that taking cake to your in-laws is somehow offensive. And even more that there are people who would 'bin' it. My lovely late mother-in-law would have said 'I'll put the kettle on. Let's have some now.' Which is the only correct response. Just how weird must people be to get offended over a nice piece of cake?

She doesn't have to be excited but basic manners are a, reasonable assumption.

The half eaten, you realise op didn't chew off her side? She cut a large cake in half and gave it to someone. That's not half eaten, it's just half a cake. And at what price point would you muster a polite oh thank you dil for thinking of us?

The people who'd bin perfectly good, fresh food because some perceived "how scummy would I be to take handmedowns" nonsense are bizarre

What a lovely treat 🍰

I wouldn't like getting half a cake without a previous agrement.

If I have my own choice of dessert in the fridge, it means some is extra and either we would eat more sweet stuff than intended or some will get stale.

Calling and offering would be better (and I'd ask for "just a slice each").

Not to be invited for the cake? When did we have to all invite people over anytime we dared to buy a cake?

Very thoughtful of you to do it and if they’ve taken offence that’s their problem not yours

Anorexic people don't want others to eat the way they do. They know it's horribly unhealthy and are often quite ashamed of their illness.

So yes, they might find comfort in feeding others and being around food. To try and seem like they have a normal relationship with it. And also because they're often absolutely obsessed and have very debilitating food noise. And genuinely do love food. They just feel they can't eat much.

It's not because they want you to be fat.

😮😮😮😮 WTAF?
No. Just no. This is the vilest comment on this whole thread. You don't get to be that judgey about people's bodies.

I was joking I obviously wouldn't rub it in their shocked faces or anything. I would bin it once they'd left.

Surely it depends on who? If my mam or mother in law brought me half a quiche round or she’d made too much bolognaise so put some aside for us I’d accept gratefully. I’ve taken things for my mother in law who lives alone and she always seems happy to have cooked food and always seems touched to be thought of. This is her daughter in law who brought cake that wouldn’t get eaten. I don’t see the big deal. This is close family.