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AIBU to consider reporting someone I believe is committing benefit fraud?

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Hereforadviceee · 13/07/2026 00:11

Would you report someone for benefit fraud?

Just that. It’s someone I used to know quite well but drifted apart from mainly due to this and from time to time I feel angry that they have made a living out of coning the system and quite often people around them. They claim they can’t walk or leave the house but go to at least 6 countries a year and do a mix of sports regularly they post online.

It hits a nerve as a lot of my family members are genuinely disabled and have struggled to get the right support. This person doesn’t have to pay council tax has every benefit you can think of and will literally use a wheelchair whenever their pip stops then go back to the sports and hiking holidays they do regular whilst claiming they can’t work and they even have been awarded carers to come in and help them. I’ve known this person for nearly 2 decades and they started this in their teens and would often brag about it and how to do it and even helped other friends at the time get awarded benefits so it’s not a case I don’t know them enough to know it’s bullshit. I always thought they would grow out of it as their life progressed.

I don’t think I actually will mainly because I’m so worried they would guess it was me and they are known to be very vindictive such as reporting people to social services or emailing job places to try ‘ ruin people ‘but I guess I’d like to vent as myself and so many people work their socks off to break even each month.

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youvemadeyourpoint · 13/07/2026 00:51

Ofcourse you should. It needs investigating. Our tax shouldn’t be paid to those that can work. It’s definitely not for paying for holidays and hiking trips.

Hereforadviceee · 13/07/2026 00:50

Vaxtable · 13/07/2026 00:48

Yes I would and have done. It can be done on line anonymously

Do you have to leave any of your personal details? What details did you have to leave? Did you have to show evidence?

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Vaxtable · 13/07/2026 00:48

Yes I would and have done. It can be done on line anonymously

Hereforadviceee · 13/07/2026 00:35

We were best friends which ended couple years ago. But they would come in and clean or make her lunch. For her adhd. I worked as a carer for a few years between jobs and I think that hit a nerve too.
Her pip was stopped and then she would fake fall in front of her doorbell and use this stuff as evidence they even sent me a photo of something their kid made smashed on the floor and took a photo of her partner clearing it up. They do regular circus sports, and outdoor sports and holidays but have benefits on the basis they can’t leave the house on their own or work.

I know there is no point. I think it’s cause I’ll see another social media post of how she’s climbed a mountain somewhere and it just rubs me up the wrong way. I went to go pay my council tax and realised I’ve over paid and had this flash back to them laughing that they don’t have to pay that with her Adhd diagnosis.

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Gingerkittykat · 13/07/2026 00:27

What do her carers do for her? It's really hard to get carers even if you are genuinely disabled, so I'm wondering if you know all of the facts.