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AIBU to let my children use all inclusive on a group holiday?

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AIvSC · 12/07/2026 21:45

Against my better judgement I agreed to a group holiday. Mixture of family and friends all know each other well. All have children ranging from baby-16

My BIL organised it but we all booked separately.

He sent a link to an all inclusive resort and that's what I and half of the group booked.

BIL and the half booked the same hotel but self catering.

It was £600 more for AI- which as we are here for 8 days works out as less than £20 per person per day (four of us)

First night was fine as we all went out for dinner but today has been hell.

We have had a pool day and my kids have been able to get snacks/drinks/etc as they like but to purchase it all is quite expensive.

We've just come back from dinner- which was 'free' for us but not for them and were told it wasn't fair if our kids used the AI.

I asked why they didn't book the AI and they said they didn't like AI- but they were at dinner having the same food as us.

I don't want to be say to our kids that they can't use the AI but equally don't want to fall out. I enquired how much it would cost to upgrade to AI and it was 2200€ per family.

OP posts:
sueelleker · 14/07/2026 09:28

Bloozie · 13/07/2026 15:03

It does indeed suck to be them and their kids, but you have paid for your children to be able to hydrate, snack and cool down without anyone having to think about it. They haven't.

I'd tell my bil that his request is understandable but unreasonable, and he needs to help his children understand that money doesn't grow on trees.

Totally agree. If you'd paid full board and he'd paid for B&B, does that mean you shouldn't eat dinner either?

NinjaCoffee · 14/07/2026 09:22

Wait… am I reading this right? You paid AI for your kids, they didn’t, now they are telling you that your kids can’t use the AI you paid for? WHAT. Simply say ‘we paid for it, they will
be using it’

OwnHappiness · 14/07/2026 09:03

WhitePhantom · 13/07/2026 22:16

Your SIL is on MN and told your BIL last night that he's being a fucknugget😄

Came to say this! Waves at sensible SIL

Eightfor15 · 14/07/2026 08:58

Epidote · 14/07/2026 08:22

They didn't pay for the AI and their solution is for your kids not to use theirs because their kids feel bad.LOL.
No way.

They didn't read the whole thread and their solution is to spout completely irrelevant bollocks because the issue is resolved and they didn't know due to their haste in assuming their comment is relevant and original. LOL.

Danikm151 · 14/07/2026 08:48

Glad he saw the error of his ways. On AI I would have challenged your kids to get more than your money’s worth!

Epidote · 14/07/2026 08:22

They didn't pay for the AI and their solution is for your kids not to use theirs because their kids feel bad.LOL.
No way.

Noshadelamp · 14/07/2026 08:19

AIvSC · 13/07/2026 21:22

Sorry that was longer than I meant.

TLDR Probably a disappointing update.

BIL realised the error of his ways and upgraded.
All is good.

Not disappointing at all, glad he saw the error of his ways!

handsdownthebest · 14/07/2026 08:09

AIvSC · 13/07/2026 21:22

Sorry that was longer than I meant.

TLDR Probably a disappointing update.

BIL realised the error of his ways and upgraded.
All is good.

Nothing more satisfying than having a man see the error of his ways. Great result.
I shall also keep fucknugget in my reserve.
Enjoy the rest of your holiday.

TrainyWainy · 14/07/2026 07:54

Yay!

GOATYOAT · 14/07/2026 02:18

Just read you comments so someone else may have said this, but I bet your SIL is on MN and saw your post.😀

tiptoptoemaytoe · 14/07/2026 00:37

I clicked YABU for even needing to start this thread- tell them to fuck the fuck off to the further side of fuck.

MammaofBree · 13/07/2026 23:47

Lovely outcome op 😊

Namechangefordaughterevasion · 13/07/2026 23:47

Are you kidding @AIvSC ?

That wasn’t disappointing That was a fabulous update.

A man reflects on his behaviour and realises he was wrong and actually owns it. No fuss, no drama, an acknowledgement he’d been unreasonable and a happy holiday for everyone.

novalia89 · 13/07/2026 23:30

Even if he wanted to protect his children from not having the snacks that your children have - that's life.
I used to go on holiday with my cousins (self catered) and their parents would buy ice creams and drinks constantly and eat out. We tended to eat at the caravan and maybe have an ice cream only. My parents wouldn't have told them to not buy food just because they don't.

DuckbilledSplatterPuff · 13/07/2026 23:27

Good to hear that Alls Well that Ends Well @AIvSC
Hope you enjoy the rest of the holiday.

Please don't consider this thread a waste as it has introduced us all to the invaluable term "Fucknugget" which will forever be your BIL's secret nickname and make you laugh when he next forgets to connect his Brain to his Gob before making a pronouncement.

(ps.. I can't remember which pp came up with it, but show yourself and take a bow it was v funny.)

ThistleTits · 13/07/2026 22:25

@AIvSC I'll not be suprised if they try to get the snacks, drinks etc on your account. Don't because they can remove you from the hotel, if caught.
Is this your sister's husband or your husband's brother? If the former, have a word with your sister, the latter, your husband deals with it.

FWC2026 · 13/07/2026 22:25

I'm glad it's all sirte& you've had a great day!

im glad his wife he saw the error of his ways!!! blame it on the Sun!!

hooe you enjoy the rest of your holiday!!

PS. I THINK THAT WAS REALLY DECENT OF THE HOTEL TO LET THEM UPGRADE ONCE THEY REALISED THE ERROR OF THEIR WAYS

WhitePhantom · 13/07/2026 22:16

Your SIL is on MN and told your BIL last night that he's being a fucknugget😄

fashionqueen0123 · 13/07/2026 22:14

AIvSC · 13/07/2026 21:22

Sorry that was longer than I meant.

TLDR Probably a disappointing update.

BIL realised the error of his ways and upgraded.
All is good.

Good news!

There was some kind of server issue this morning from what I could tell. I couldn’t get on either for a bit and it was mentioned on down detector

Livpool · 13/07/2026 21:36

Tell his to fuck off, he is being ridiculous

IDrinkTeaAllTheTime · 13/07/2026 21:33

Great update, OP. I’m glad he finally saw sense, regardless of how he got there 😂. Enjoy the rest of your holiday.

WonderingAndOverthinking · 13/07/2026 21:32

AIvSC · 13/07/2026 21:21

I'm sorry I couldn't update after breakfast, I don't know if it was because I'm away but I couldn't log into MN at all, it kept coming up with server issues.

As it was I didn't need to have posted. This morning BIL announced good naturedly that he hadn't been fair to those that had bought the AI- not just my family. I imagine my sil had words.

As some people had guessed we had a good deal (which is why I thought my BIL had chosen the hotel) and it is much more expensive normally.

The hotel have been great and have offered a deal if everyone in the group upgraded - I don't know the full cost but he said it wasn't as good as ours but much better than what was initially offered (the 2200 extra was for a family of four, so a lot more expensive than what we paid) and everyone is happy.

We have had a lovely day at the beach and have been out for dinner, BIL worked out what he would have spent if he had stayed on resort and not had AI and even with being out most of the day he has still saved money- so I think he is converted 😂

Thanks for making me laugh and listening to me, a nights rest and everything was different.

Sadly he was so reasonable this morning I didn't get to use fucknugget, but I will have it ready for next time.

I bet SIL ripped him a new one when they got back to their room 😆

Glad all is well and maybe he’ll think about how ridiculous an idea sounds before he expresses it next time. Or maybe not, he is a man after all 🙄😆

murasaki · 13/07/2026 21:27

Glad he saw sense, or more likely had it hammered into him.

JellyCatOnAHotTinRoof · 13/07/2026 21:24

YANBU

Not booking the AI is exactly the sort of thing DH and I would do 😭 but I would never expect friends/relatives to curtail their experiences because we were cheap.

Housebashing · 13/07/2026 21:23

Bigreddog25 · 13/07/2026 18:16

Can't you just sneak their kids a few of the AI snacks?

Actually insane to expect you not to use what you paid for

Be careful, they will be building the gallows for you as we speak. You’re done for now.

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