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AIBU to let my children use all inclusive on a group holiday?

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AIvSC · 12/07/2026 21:45

Against my better judgement I agreed to a group holiday. Mixture of family and friends all know each other well. All have children ranging from baby-16

My BIL organised it but we all booked separately.

He sent a link to an all inclusive resort and that's what I and half of the group booked.

BIL and the half booked the same hotel but self catering.

It was £600 more for AI- which as we are here for 8 days works out as less than £20 per person per day (four of us)

First night was fine as we all went out for dinner but today has been hell.

We have had a pool day and my kids have been able to get snacks/drinks/etc as they like but to purchase it all is quite expensive.

We've just come back from dinner- which was 'free' for us but not for them and were told it wasn't fair if our kids used the AI.

I asked why they didn't book the AI and they said they didn't like AI- but they were at dinner having the same food as us.

I don't want to be say to our kids that they can't use the AI but equally don't want to fall out. I enquired how much it would cost to upgrade to AI and it was 2200€ per family.

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Vaxtable · 12/07/2026 21:54

I would be telling them tough. I would tell bil he sent a link for an AI so that’s what you booked as you assumed everyone was and he didn’t clarify. He chose not to so he can purchase stuff for his kids or tell them no but you are not going to stop your kids getting their moneys worth

OhBettyCalmDown · 12/07/2026 21:53

This is just nuts! Who the hell thinks it’s ok to tell someone not to use the facilities that they’ve paid for?! Please don’t prevent your children from getting drinks and snacks just because they didn’t have the foresight to book AI. If they don’t like it surely they can just eat elsewhere

nutbrownhare15 · 12/07/2026 21:53

Ask them to confirm that they will cover your half of the AI (£300) plus all of your kids expenses for the holiday that would have been covered by AI and that they can transfer £600 to you initially and will cover any extra. Or did they want you to subsidise their holiday?

wendy1288 · 12/07/2026 21:52

Clicked you were being unreasonable by accident. Do NOT stop your children from having AI. That would be madness

PepsiBook · 12/07/2026 21:52

You've paid AI, why would you not let your kids use it? They're being ridiculous

IronEverything · 12/07/2026 21:51

I really need to know how they actually said this to you, because I'm just nosey and can't believe anyone could be so bloody cheeky.

AIvSC · 12/07/2026 21:51

BurnTheWholeThingDown · 12/07/2026 21:49

This is the most batshit insane thing I’ve read all day, and the competition has been stiff.

Tell them to fuck off and stop being such complete fucknuggets. Don’t give them any hint that this is at all an acceptable request. It’s not.

This is the first laugh I have had all day l
Thank you

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OnlyMabelInTheBuilding · 12/07/2026 21:51

This is one of the oddest things I’ve ever read. Of course your kids can use the AI you’ve paid for.

What did they think was going to happen when one half opted not to pay for it?! They need to explain to their own DC why they can’t have it, if they don’t want to pay ad hoc. They’ve no business telling you what you can and can’t do.

CF’s.

BraOffPjsOn · 12/07/2026 21:50

Enjoy your holiday! You’ve paid for AI so of course you’re going to make the most of it. It’s CF to suggest you don’t!
Maybe you’ll need to spend parts of your holiday separately if it’s going to be an issue for them - but it’s their issue not yours!

LizandDerekGoals · 12/07/2026 21:49

It remind him that you paid in advance for all the food and drink. They chose to pag as they go. Nobody is getting anything for free.

BurnTheWholeThingDown · 12/07/2026 21:49

This is the most batshit insane thing I’ve read all day, and the competition has been stiff.

Tell them to fuck off and stop being such complete fucknuggets. Don’t give them any hint that this is at all an acceptable request. It’s not.

LizandDerekGoals · 12/07/2026 21:48

They are being ridiculous. Ignore them.

BlueMum16 · 12/07/2026 21:48

I'm not sure what they are asking of you.

You use the facilities available to you so food and drinks.

They either pay or don't eat/drink there.

Marmite27 · 12/07/2026 21:47

Tell them as you’ve paid for it they will be using it! I can’t believe they’d expect you not to. They booked on the cheap, they can deal with the moving kids!

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