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AIBU to let my children use all inclusive on a group holiday?

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AIvSC · 12/07/2026 21:45

Against my better judgement I agreed to a group holiday. Mixture of family and friends all know each other well. All have children ranging from baby-16

My BIL organised it but we all booked separately.

He sent a link to an all inclusive resort and that's what I and half of the group booked.

BIL and the half booked the same hotel but self catering.

It was £600 more for AI- which as we are here for 8 days works out as less than £20 per person per day (four of us)

First night was fine as we all went out for dinner but today has been hell.

We have had a pool day and my kids have been able to get snacks/drinks/etc as they like but to purchase it all is quite expensive.

We've just come back from dinner- which was 'free' for us but not for them and were told it wasn't fair if our kids used the AI.

I asked why they didn't book the AI and they said they didn't like AI- but they were at dinner having the same food as us.

I don't want to be say to our kids that they can't use the AI but equally don't want to fall out. I enquired how much it would cost to upgrade to AI and it was 2200€ per family.

OP posts:
Wtafdidido · 14/07/2026 21:57

Why would you even consider asking your kids not to use the all inclusive. You are being ridiculous. The others were too tight to pay for it and that is on them. They can bring their own snacks and drinks to the pool. Why should anyone else suffer? Wise up

NoCommentingFromNowOn · 14/07/2026 21:55

🤣😂🤣

AIvSC · 14/07/2026 21:33

Well, I didn't expect to update again but my BIL called ME a fucknugget 😂

Turns out MN shared this on Facebook and he saw it. Thanks MN...

He does want me to be clear that he saw sense before he read this thread, but has been waiting to call me a fucknugget most of the day, and was wondering if I would get there first.

Apparently my face was a picture as I realised, but it was all good fun- although I am very pleased I name changed 😆

OP posts:
LoudSnoringDog · 14/07/2026 21:20

MalcomVexx · 12/07/2026 21:56

On this occasion I’d be seeing if your kids can get some food and the treats available for their kids so they don’t miss out. Perhaps they assumed you’d be going out for meals and things so thought it wasn’t necessary. They should have discussed it but different people do different things on holiday. They will have to deal with the consequences of their actions.

Absolutely not.

ThatWhiteElephant · 14/07/2026 21:10

Of course you and your children should use the all inclusive as that’s what you’ve paid for.
How ridiculous of anyone to doubt/question this!

Glittertwins · 14/07/2026 17:18

Folks, they’re all on AI now!

RainbowMoonbeam · 14/07/2026 17:03

Not unreasonable at all. Poor planning on their side doesn't mean you shouldn't use the services you booked and paid for.

loveawineloveacrisp · 14/07/2026 15:52

What!?? They don't want you to get what you paid for because they didn't pay for the same? They're being ridiculous.

Dryrobe45 · 14/07/2026 15:49

fashionqueen0123 · 13/07/2026 10:45

No he doesn't want her kids going and getting drinks or ice creams. Cos then his will moan as presumably he doesn't want to get them the same amount!

Oh! I understand now. Jesus, that’s as bad! They can definitely bugger right off 😆

NoCommentingFromNowOn · 14/07/2026 15:30

Gonnagetgoingreturnsagain · 14/07/2026 15:22

Absolutely ridiculous. You paid for it you get it. If they’d wanted AI they should’ve paid for it. Tight arses. Ignore what he says and if he does pipe up again say kids are having what I paid extra for. And it’s his own stupid fault not having paid the cheaper price when booking as now it’s a much higher price to pay.

Edited

if he does pipe up again and you can understand what he’s saying while he’s got his AI burger stuffed in his gob yeah OP, sock it to him! You go girl!

You could even take his AI drink that he now has lots of because he already paid for the AI and pour it over his head if he gets shirty!

Gonnagetgoingreturnsagain · 14/07/2026 15:22

Absolutely ridiculous. You paid for it you get it. If they’d wanted AI they should’ve paid for it. Tight arses. Ignore what he says and if he does pipe up again say kids are having what I paid extra for. And it’s his own stupid fault not having paid the cheaper price when booking as now it’s a much higher price to pay.

NoCommentingFromNowOn · 14/07/2026 14:45

Ladygardenerinderby · 14/07/2026 14:43

This is the most bat shit crazy thing ever !!! As if you’re going to tell your kids they can’t use AL why the hell would you and why is he only saying your kids shouldn’t use it and not you all as a family not that that’s right either but why just the kids ? I’m very confused . Anyway tell him to bugger right off he’s crazy

Why would OP tell him to bugger off?

Ladygardenerinderby · 14/07/2026 14:43

This is the most bat shit crazy thing ever !!! As if you’re going to tell your kids they can’t use AL why the hell would you and why is he only saying your kids shouldn’t use it and not you all as a family not that that’s right either but why just the kids ? I’m very confused . Anyway tell him to bugger right off he’s crazy

NotDarkGothicMama · 14/07/2026 14:42

That's a lovely update OP. How boringly reasonable of him!

NoCommentingFromNowOn · 14/07/2026 14:12

READ THE THREAD PEOPLE!

They have now paid for the AI extra!

weusedtobeapropercountry · 14/07/2026 13:16

He wants you to not make full use of the service you wanted and you paid for?

Is he going to reimburse you what the AI cost? Yk, since he's all about "fair".

Knob.

LouLou198 · 14/07/2026 12:46

OhBettyCalmDown · 12/07/2026 21:59

That’s exactly how you get thrown out of an AI hotel.

I was just thinking the same! Please do not get drinks/snacks for their children.
You have paid for it, so use it. AI is a godsend when you have small children that constantly need drinks in the hot weather. Ignore them!

dh280125 · 14/07/2026 12:32

That is bonkers. Woah.

Peachie31 · 14/07/2026 11:43

BurnTheWholeThingDown · 12/07/2026 21:49

This is the most batshit insane thing I’ve read all day, and the competition has been stiff.

Tell them to fuck off and stop being such complete fucknuggets. Don’t give them any hint that this is at all an acceptable request. It’s not.

Came here to say pretty much exactly the same 😅

On what planet do they think they have the right to tell someone they can't use the All Inclusive that they paid for? Absolutely mental behaviour

Octoberfest · 14/07/2026 11:00

Namechangefordaughterevasion · 13/07/2026 23:47

Are you kidding @AIvSC ?

That wasn’t disappointing That was a fabulous update.

A man reflects on his behaviour and realises he was wrong and actually owns it. No fuss, no drama, an acknowledgement he’d been unreasonable and a happy holiday for everyone.

This!!!!

TrainyWainy · 14/07/2026 10:56

That's what we do. I book an AI to cover all bases, then if we want to do things on top the option is there.

WhereYouLeftIt · 14/07/2026 10:55

AIvSC · 13/07/2026 21:22

Sorry that was longer than I meant.

TLDR Probably a disappointing update.

BIL realised the error of his ways and upgraded.
All is good.

The absolute best outcome!

PinkEasterbunny · 14/07/2026 10:53

We go away later this week, on an AI basis - but we'll still have dinner out in the local town some nights, drink in the local bars and have day trips. But the AI deal was such a good offer, that we'll be quid's in even if we're not using it all the time.

sueelleker · 14/07/2026 09:39

PinkEasterbunny · 13/07/2026 19:06

Why don't you suggest they go to shop get a load of drinks and snacks then their dc won't miss out by the pool. Then if we're them I'd be off for a lovely dinner around the resort rather than stuck to the hotel. I'd book a boat trip, go for a walk and grab drinks and ice cream. Just get the benefit of not being AI really.

It amazes me that people still think you’re stuck in the hotel if you book AI

I agree. Eating/drinking in the hotel is an option, not an obligation. Even without AI, just normal board, we usually ate out several times during a holiday.

sueelleker · 14/07/2026 09:33

SpaceRaccoon · 13/07/2026 16:23

And when OP is spotted by staff and asked to leave the resort, then what? Because it's against the T&Cs, and it's stealing.

That's why people who try to pay for only one person in a group at an all-you-can-eat buffet get chucked out.

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