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AIBU to let my children use all inclusive on a group holiday?

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AIvSC · 12/07/2026 21:45

Against my better judgement I agreed to a group holiday. Mixture of family and friends all know each other well. All have children ranging from baby-16

My BIL organised it but we all booked separately.

He sent a link to an all inclusive resort and that's what I and half of the group booked.

BIL and the half booked the same hotel but self catering.

It was £600 more for AI- which as we are here for 8 days works out as less than £20 per person per day (four of us)

First night was fine as we all went out for dinner but today has been hell.

We have had a pool day and my kids have been able to get snacks/drinks/etc as they like but to purchase it all is quite expensive.

We've just come back from dinner- which was 'free' for us but not for them and were told it wasn't fair if our kids used the AI.

I asked why they didn't book the AI and they said they didn't like AI- but they were at dinner having the same food as us.

I don't want to be say to our kids that they can't use the AI but equally don't want to fall out. I enquired how much it would cost to upgrade to AI and it was 2200€ per family.

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godmum56 · 12/07/2026 22:19

I had to read your OP twice because I couldn't believe it the first time. You are supposed to not let your kids have something that YOU have paid for? Really?

dicentra365 · 12/07/2026 22:18

'Tell them to fuck off and stop being such complete fucknuggets'.

I mean, this is the best response you're going to get - you should use it, or at least embrace the spirit of it.

BirdLandedonmyHead · 12/07/2026 22:18

Why chose an AI hotel if they dont like AI?

Bestfootforward11 · 12/07/2026 22:15

A completely unreasonable request. So they want your kids to not use the AI that you have already paid for and instead you pay for food/snacks etc again??!

Birdshitbridgegotme · 12/07/2026 22:13

I can’t believe the audacity of people!

Birdshitbridgegotme · 12/07/2026 22:11

What a cf he is! Use your AI that’s what you paid for. His kids, his problem! That’s what he gets for trying to do it cheaper.

ZenNudist · 12/07/2026 22:11

Why don't you suggest they go to shop get a load of drinks and snacks then their dc won't miss out by the pool. Then if we're them I'd be off for a lovely dinner around the resort rather than stuck to the hotel. I'd book a boat trip, go for a walk and grab drinks and ice cream. Just get the benefit of not being AI really.

britinnyc · 12/07/2026 22:10

What do they expect your kids to do, not eat because they didn’t pay for AI? I don’t get how their request can even be met, do they just mean snacks and drinks by the pool? Still that might be the most ridiculous request I have ever heard

Shinyandnew1 · 12/07/2026 22:10

I don’t understand. You’ve paid for your family-adults and children-to be all inclusive but they haven’t?

They want your children to not use the all inclusive food/drink because it’s not fair? Are they wanting you to not use it because that is unfair too?

AnAlpacaForChristmasPleaseSanta · 12/07/2026 22:08

BurnTheWholeThingDown · 12/07/2026 21:49

This is the most batshit insane thing I’ve read all day, and the competition has been stiff.

Tell them to fuck off and stop being such complete fucknuggets. Don’t give them any hint that this is at all an acceptable request. It’s not.

Fucknuggests 😂😂😂

SouthLondonMum22 · 12/07/2026 22:07

MalcomVexx · 12/07/2026 22:05

I knew that’d get some holier than thou comments. The world won’t end because some kids got some extra drinks or chips at a location built on western excess and gluttony.

The world won't end just because their parents haven't paid for AI either.

SouthLondonMum22 · 12/07/2026 22:06

MalcomVexx · 12/07/2026 21:56

On this occasion I’d be seeing if your kids can get some food and the treats available for their kids so they don’t miss out. Perhaps they assumed you’d be going out for meals and things so thought it wasn’t necessary. They should have discussed it but different people do different things on holiday. They will have to deal with the consequences of their actions.

They aren't missing out, it's just pay as you go as opposed to AI. They aren't AI and OP shouldn't be encouraging her kids to take extra food and treats that other people haven't paid for.

MalcomVexx · 12/07/2026 22:05

I knew that’d get some holier than thou comments. The world won’t end because some kids got some extra drinks or chips at a location built on western excess and gluttony.

SweepSqueaks · 12/07/2026 22:02

MalcomVexx · 12/07/2026 21:56

On this occasion I’d be seeing if your kids can get some food and the treats available for their kids so they don’t miss out. Perhaps they assumed you’d be going out for meals and things so thought it wasn’t necessary. They should have discussed it but different people do different things on holiday. They will have to deal with the consequences of their actions.

What! Why should her kids have to be responsible for sneaking food and drinks to people. And the other people ‘don’t like AI’ so they will not be pleased.

PinkNailPolish2026 · 12/07/2026 22:01

MalcomVexx · 12/07/2026 21:56

On this occasion I’d be seeing if your kids can get some food and the treats available for their kids so they don’t miss out. Perhaps they assumed you’d be going out for meals and things so thought it wasn’t necessary. They should have discussed it but different people do different things on holiday. They will have to deal with the consequences of their actions.

Absolutely not. The parents can put their hands in their pockets and either pay to be upgraded to AI or pay for snacks and drinks as they’re needed.

PrizedPickledPopcorn · 12/07/2026 22:01

Next step, they’ll pay AI for their kids and expect you to take them in for all the meals.

PrizedPickledPopcorn · 12/07/2026 22:00

MalcomVexx · 12/07/2026 21:56

On this occasion I’d be seeing if your kids can get some food and the treats available for their kids so they don’t miss out. Perhaps they assumed you’d be going out for meals and things so thought it wasn’t necessary. They should have discussed it but different people do different things on holiday. They will have to deal with the consequences of their actions.

So, teaching your kids to cheat?

PinkNailPolish2026 · 12/07/2026 21:59

What a cheeky buggar! Of course your children should use the AI you’ve paid for it. They’ll be expecting your children to get their children drinks/snacks next and the others who are all inclusive to get the adults drinks….

OhBettyCalmDown · 12/07/2026 21:59

MalcomVexx · 12/07/2026 21:56

On this occasion I’d be seeing if your kids can get some food and the treats available for their kids so they don’t miss out. Perhaps they assumed you’d be going out for meals and things so thought it wasn’t necessary. They should have discussed it but different people do different things on holiday. They will have to deal with the consequences of their actions.

That’s exactly how you get thrown out of an AI hotel.

PrizedPickledPopcorn · 12/07/2026 21:59

I think I’d look puzzled, ‘I don’t understand! We’ve already paid for it. What do you want us to do? We booked the link you sent us. Can you explain why our kids can’t have the stuff we’ve already paid for?’.

LIZS · 12/07/2026 21:57

Use what you have paid for. Bet they could upgrade if they so chose.

SouthLondonMum22 · 12/07/2026 21:56

Of course it's fair. You've paid for it and they are paying as they go.

MalcomVexx · 12/07/2026 21:56

On this occasion I’d be seeing if your kids can get some food and the treats available for their kids so they don’t miss out. Perhaps they assumed you’d be going out for meals and things so thought it wasn’t necessary. They should have discussed it but different people do different things on holiday. They will have to deal with the consequences of their actions.

GoodbyeZebedee · 12/07/2026 21:56

What do they expect your kids to do? Only get drunks when the self catered kids get them? That is absolutely nuts.

CinderellaGotOld · 12/07/2026 21:56

Is it just your kids that can’t use it or are they saying none of you should?! Either way, I would be telling them to do one