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AIBU to let my children use all inclusive on a group holiday?

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AIvSC · 12/07/2026 21:45

Against my better judgement I agreed to a group holiday. Mixture of family and friends all know each other well. All have children ranging from baby-16

My BIL organised it but we all booked separately.

He sent a link to an all inclusive resort and that's what I and half of the group booked.

BIL and the half booked the same hotel but self catering.

It was £600 more for AI- which as we are here for 8 days works out as less than £20 per person per day (four of us)

First night was fine as we all went out for dinner but today has been hell.

We have had a pool day and my kids have been able to get snacks/drinks/etc as they like but to purchase it all is quite expensive.

We've just come back from dinner- which was 'free' for us but not for them and were told it wasn't fair if our kids used the AI.

I asked why they didn't book the AI and they said they didn't like AI- but they were at dinner having the same food as us.

I don't want to be say to our kids that they can't use the AI but equally don't want to fall out. I enquired how much it would cost to upgrade to AI and it was 2200€ per family.

OP posts:
dapsnotplimsolls · 13/07/2026 09:33

TheCurious0range · 13/07/2026 09:31

😂 I can't even remember what that was meant to be! Fucks definitely drinks, no idea about faints!

Interesting that you presumably type 'fucks' more often than 'drinks' ... 😎

Chaarlene · 13/07/2026 09:32

My favourite non-commital phrase is 'thanks, I'll bear that in mind'. Meaning - Even though I am not doing what you want, I did hear what you asked.

I don't know how it works at AI (do you have different coloured wristbands or something? But - could you have a small compromise in the snack/drink stakes? Eg: get the slushies (you don't want) and let the non-AI kids have it? Because, actually, those drinks have been allocated for you whether you want it or not. If you leave them by your sunbeds or whateves, no one is going to police which kid is slurping which slushie.

godmum56 · 13/07/2026 09:32

"However maybe your kids could come to sit with you while eating ice cream/ snacks?"
not sure what the point of that would be?

diddl · 13/07/2026 09:31

Nousernameideaaga · 13/07/2026 09:29

So I’ve run it past ChatGPT and still no clue 🤣

Free drinks? Fanta, coke ….?

I thought breakfast!

TheCurious0range · 13/07/2026 09:31

dapsnotplimsolls · 13/07/2026 09:16

The what now? 😁

😂 I can't even remember what that was meant to be! Fucks definitely drinks, no idea about faints!

pizzaHeart · 13/07/2026 09:29

I wonder if upgrade is more costly for BIL’s family because it’s an upgrade from SC to AI whereas OP wasn’t even considering SC , her upgrade was from full board to AI.

I wouldn’t restrict snacks and drinks for your kids ( unless YOU wanted to do it for health reasons). However maybe your kids could come to sit with you while eating ice cream/ snacks? Not for drinks of course.

Nousernameideaaga · 13/07/2026 09:29

dapsnotplimsolls · 13/07/2026 09:24

I can't stop chuckling. Logically, it's something about drinks but ... ?!

So I’ve run it past ChatGPT and still no clue 🤣

Free drinks? Fanta, coke ….?

pictoosh · 13/07/2026 09:28

Housebashing · 13/07/2026 09:05

Oh my god, no it’s not forbidden is it?

Call the police 🙀

tread carefully if i was you because the certain type that you are snitching on is also the type that might knock your teeth out

Edited

Bit harsh.

I wouldn't risk it either...and tbh, it's not about moral fibre so much as a fear of getting caught and being asked to leave. The McChancers. Mortifying.

TrainyWainy · 13/07/2026 09:27

Daleksatemyshed · 13/07/2026 07:59

Your BIL chose to take the cheapest option possible, now his kids are upset and his answer is to upset yours as well? I expect he feels bad he's DC upset but he doesn't get to assuage his guilt by spoiling it for you too.

Probably wasn't even the cheapest. Even if they're eating out most evenings, £20 per person per day is a great deal for 2 meals plus drinks and snacks. I suspect a lot of us with kids find that's more where the value is, especially if your DC are still young enough to eat off children's menus. But I guess if they've not done AI before they may not have realised that, or done any research.

OP, I appreciate the 2200 Euros for the whole family to upgrade is out of their budget, is it worth them seeing how much it'd be for just the kids? The adults are presumably the more expensive per head.

latetothefisting · 13/07/2026 09:26

I voted yabu only because you were being unreasonable to even consider it/tel him you would think about it rather than laughing in his face!

dapsnotplimsolls · 13/07/2026 09:24

Nousernameideaaga · 13/07/2026 09:23

Think it’s just you and me finding it funny 🤦‍♀️

I can't stop chuckling. Logically, it's something about drinks but ... ?!

godmum56 · 13/07/2026 09:23

Housebashing · 13/07/2026 09:21

Everybody’s experience is irrelevant if we’re not all in the moment there and then I’ve had a little look to see what threads you’ve posted on and it seems that you’ve passed on to irrelevant experience too
We are all just feathers floating in the wind of life on the Internet intergalactic journey

goodness, I have a stalker

Nousernameideaaga · 13/07/2026 09:23

dapsnotplimsolls · 13/07/2026 09:19

I know, I can't work it out either 😁

Think it’s just you and me finding it funny 🤦‍♀️

Housebashing · 13/07/2026 09:21

godmum56 · 13/07/2026 09:19

were you at the same place at the same time as the OP is? Brcause if you are not then your experience is irrelevant.

Everybody’s experience is irrelevant if we’re not all in the moment there and then I’ve had a little look to see what threads you’ve posted on and it seems that you’ve passed on to irrelevant experience too
We are all just feathers floating in the wind of life on the Internet intergalactic journey

Gengha · 13/07/2026 09:21

Why would you do anything other than ignore them, perhaps laugh and then continue using the facilities you paid for? YABU for even giving them a moment of your headspace

dapsnotplimsolls · 13/07/2026 09:19

Nousernameideaaga · 13/07/2026 09:18

Omg I almost died laughing 🤣🤣

plus I can’t work out what poster actually meant.

and if they actually meant it , what is a faint fuck?

I know, I can't work it out either 😁

godmum56 · 13/07/2026 09:19

Housebashing · 13/07/2026 08:40

Are your kids not getting stuff from the all-inclusive for everybody? Is that the problem? They’re just getting it from themselves and then everybody else is kind of having to pay because every all-inclusive resort I’ve ever been to? I could’ve got drinks for the entire place and nobody would’ve batted an eyelid they don’t check to see how many you’re having or who you’re giving them to.
Would it hurt for you to let their kids have an ice cream or a drink?

were you at the same place at the same time as the OP is? Brcause if you are not then your experience is irrelevant.

Nousernameideaaga · 13/07/2026 09:18

dapsnotplimsolls · 13/07/2026 09:16

The what now? 😁

Omg I almost died laughing 🤣🤣

plus I can’t work out what poster actually meant.

and if they actually meant it , what is a faint fuck?

Housebashing · 13/07/2026 09:18

dapsnotplimsolls · 13/07/2026 09:16

The what now? 😁

What she’s saying is, she pays for all inclusive and sometimes she uses it and sometimes she doesn’t
So for the Hotel concerned it would be swings roundabouts on the one hand we have this poster who was paid for all inclusive and isn’t using it
And then on the other hand we have the original poster who could use some of the unused product paid for by this lady to give her brother-in-law’s kid some frozen water
It’s fucking genius !

dapsnotplimsolls · 13/07/2026 09:16

TheCurious0range · 13/07/2026 09:11

To be honest we are often out some days and some evenings on holiday but since we had DS we book AI regardless, it's worth it for the faint fucks, snacks, lunches when you are in resort as it often works out good value compared to paying. We used to do SC pre DC or breakfast only but never spent the day at the hotel , children love pool days! YANBU

The what now? 😁

Wheresthebeach · 13/07/2026 09:15

How unbelievably selfish of him. Tell him this is why you booked AI and your kids will use it as they want. Nobody gets to police their drinks etc. he needs to pay for his kids drinks without complaint. Jeeze.

Housebashing · 13/07/2026 09:12

Doteycat · 13/07/2026 09:11

I guess this is why some people are thieves and some people are not.

I know right? Even on 100% profit they’d be making a fortune if they charge a pound for the frozen water but no they decide to steal from hard-working families held captive on site for holidays.
Bastards

TheCurious0range · 13/07/2026 09:11

To be honest we are often out some days and some evenings on holiday but since we had DS we book AI regardless, it's worth it for the faint fucks, snacks, lunches when you are in resort as it often works out good value compared to paying. We used to do SC pre DC or breakfast only but never spent the day at the hotel , children love pool days! YANBU

Doteycat · 13/07/2026 09:11

Housebashing · 13/07/2026 09:08

I just can’t get excited about a kid having an extra bit of frozen water for free as opposed to the actual theft of charging a fiver for it

I guess this is why some people are thieves and some people are not.

Housebashing · 13/07/2026 09:08

RoseBlueuet · 13/07/2026 09:07

It is clear you view AI as a free for all. Doesn't make you any less of a thief.

I just can’t get excited about a kid having an extra bit of frozen water for free as opposed to the actual theft of charging a fiver for it