My mum has thrown away over £150 worth of makeup and medication

How did it get left there for 3 days in the first place? If you made a mistake by leaving it, and then she made another mistake by binning it, perhaps you are both a bit at fault?

I would dig the bag out of the bin myself, to assess the damage. I retrieved something from ours yesterday, after 2 days, because I changed my mind about something I decluttered. Our food waste, tins, plastic, paper and garden cuttings are all separate so the black bin is a bit outside-ishly dirty but after a good sanitising hand wash, I am not harmed at all!

It's not unreasonable to feel annoyed but mums are human and have foibles, and sometimes the lesson to learn is to take care of your own stuff and let them get on with their decluttering, and see how you feel in a week or so when the dust has settled.

Edit mistakenly sorry posted ages after writing! Glad you found it!

I’m glad you found it OP, I have a couple of times had to go through my bin for stuff I’ve accidentally misplaced and I agree it’s vile - I’m gaggjng even at the thought of it 😦

I think your Mum sounds very rude and thoughtless - giving her the benefit of the doubt she perhaps didn’t realise the value of stuff but even so most people’s response to throwing out someone’s stuff after a couple of days would be mortification, in my option.

Any posters saying you were at fault are being mean and probably jealous of your lipstick collection.

Your mum sounds really disrespectful and dismissive. I haven't quite read the full thread but why did she let you go through her bin when she could have just given you the money? She clearly did it on purpose and enjoyed seeing you upset.

But this is mumsnet where you should be happy to crawl through a festering cesspit to retrieve 50p. But do take a bar of soap with you to make sure you don't smell for even one second. It's no wonder there's so much abuse when self respect is so low.

You still pay for accidents you’re responsible for you know?

Oh God, even worse….

If you read the OP's posts you will see that she did in fact sort through the stinking rubbish and find her make up pouch which was, unsurprisingly, ruined.

Perhaps now is a good time to reflect on whether that is a good idea if you ever have anyone apart from yourself in your house…

My mom has been like this her whole life, she bins anything not in right place. When I was a teenager she came in my room while I was asleep picked up everything put it in a black bag then tipped it all over me. She probably puts cleanliness & tidiness above anything even her security. Think there is a level of OCD, I refuse to allow her to come in my house too messy for her. I am stage4 kidney disease & struggle with fatigue. I have a worry she is selling her house she may end up here until her property is done.

Unless it’s the size of a tic tac tin I just can’t imagine someone sweeping it into a bin bag without realising. And how much rubbish is on a worktop for someone to need to sweep it directly into a bag! Don’t most people have a bin and just put things in it as they go?!

Exactly my thoughts. I assumed the mother must have had an eyesight issue when I first read it but apparently not. Sweeping the whole worktop contents into a bag..the sodding cat would be in there and phones and all sorts!

You’re not that bothered then.

I went rifling through my kitchen bin with rubber gloves on to look for a £5. I found it at the bottom. It was disgusting and wet but could be used (was paper one).

I couldn’t (and still can’t) afford to lose £5 and certainly can’t afford to spend that much money on makeup! There’s no way I wouldn’t try and retrieve it!

She’s clearly done it by accident and I would never ever ever ask my mum to replace anything that expensive. The fact you’re even asking is bizarre

It was an accident most likely. I wouldn’t be forcing my mom to pay.

Jeez

rude aren’t you !

no wonder you are getting the replies people have posted

Seatbelt analogy was a bit OTT though

I have bought other lipsticks in between

Are you sure she hasn’t taken the bag and contents for herself?

Which would be why I didn’t compare the two. My point to the other poster was that just because they have been fine doing something ill-advised doesn’t make it a good idea.

Have a look at Space NK make up bags.

They are the size of a decent pencil case with firm-ish sides.
How any one could scoop it up is beyond me.

Have you never heard of confirmation bias before or something? Just because you’ve been fine doing something doesn’t make it safe or sensible to do.

Plus also op - you left it there 3 days. You didn’t get home and think the next day oh where is it - it was a few days till you missed it

I can see how that happened. I put stuff on the kitchen worktop to go in the bin, scoop the lot up and out it goes. It wouldn't occur to me to look for something someone had left. You do have some responsibility here - you left it.

Mumsnet is a strange place indeed. Just yesterday I was on a thread where a 19year old daughter had sold her mum’s dress (the mum had lent her daughter) on vinted but had immediately ordered a replacement and paid for express shipping so it arrived in time for a holiday. Posters were falling over themselves to say how awful the daughter was and how a replacement wasn’t a real apology, calling the daughter entitled, selfish, a madam and trying to prove there was malicious intent in the selling of the dress and that it couldn’t have been a misunderstanding.

Today, we have a younger woman whose mum has thrown away valuable possessions carelessly and lots of posters are putting the blame on OP for leaving it or saying she’s precious or blaming her for owning the stuff. People making up excuses for the mum and thinking OP should go and dig through waste. Also medication stored above a certain temperature compromises its safety. Baking medication amongst rotting food that’s generating heat whilst decomposing and is probably now maggot infested is not something I would like to do.

OP, if I had accidentally binned my daughter’s stuff, my immediate response would be remorse and an offer to replace. But I have a mother who would blame me for owning stuff and saying that I shouldn’t have stuff that I can’t afford to replace. I don’t think YABU - you lose or bin somebody’s stuff, you replace it.