My mum has thrown away over £150 worth of makeup and medication

From what you've said, I'd be really cautious around her in future, not just with belongings but your feelings too.

The fact that she found your gross bin experience amusing, argh it makes me shudder. Plus you only got the bag out in the first place to kindly offer her an antihistamine. I've taken a real dislike to your mum.

You’ve never left anything behind before? Particularly at your own parents house? Sure 🙄

She has already looked and found it all covered in bin liquid.

See I find that a really odd thing to do. Why do you pile things on the counter to launch into the bin when you could just… put them in the bin rather than on the counter?

I voted YANBU because it’s bizarre behaviour to just throw it out, surely any normal person would text to let you know you’d left it and arrange where to leave it so that you could pick it up.

But the more I read on in this thread that the rubbish hasn’t been collected and yet you are refusing to look in the rubbish - YABU. Even if you still want to replace the pouch after you find it, the contents of it should still be fine. And yet you accuse your parents of being carefree with their belongings?! They may be, but clearly so are you.

Oh that’d annoy me intensely and there is no way in hell I’d be rummaging around the rubbish bin for makeup items .
Just ugh 😣 no .
if they’d gone in the recycling ♻️ I’d chance it .
my husband once accidentally knocked my makeup bag , some items fell into the toilet and I told him he was paying for the replacements as there was not a chance in hell I was using a mascara and eyeliner that’d gone in the loo ( they were good brands too )

I must say though, I’m still reeling in incredulity at the Apple Watch story… 😧 I can’t even afford a knock off Smart watch from Aldi for my child, let alone an Apple Watch and people are buying them to save a walk back to security in an Airport?! Good lord. How the other half live. Mystifying.

No reasonable person throws away another person's belongings. My Mother did stuff like this once or twicw, she would never replace or recompense, so I would just cut her off for a few months- it was the only way to get the message through, if she asked me to visist , or do something for her I would say no, I'm working extra shifts to pay for the stuff you threw away , eventually she got the message.

If you won’t ask her to replace them and you won’t retrieve them from the bin, then what on earth have you posted for?

If I accidentally broke a friend’s vase, or spilt my drink on someone’s rug, I would offer to repair or replace. It doesn’t matter if someone has done something ‘accidentally’. What a strange mentality. Your mother is either spiteful or unwell.

Absolutely gobsmacked at some of the comments on here, OP. You have done nothing wrong. Your mother sounds nuts.

If I threw away something belonging to my DD my immediate response would be to apologise and buy her a replacement. It's the right thing to do.

And if I were you now, I would be petty enough to find something your mother cared about and chuck it away.

I'd just send her a message with a link to replace all the items, OP and ignore her until she's replaced everything. It's bonkers behaviour. They obviously have more money than sense.

I didn't mean to ask what you've been doing for 3 days. I meant how did it not go home with you?

I don't need a further explanation but it does still seem as though you left it there by accident yourself, but are blaming your mum entirely for the problem.

FWIW I would be annoyed too, especially if I felt the other person doesn't care about the impact on you. But still, I'd give it some time and space, not least because hot weather makes us all feel more cranky.

My guess is that your mum is annoyed with aspects of your behaviour in this incident too, and it might be easier to listen to each other and clear the air after a break from thinking about it

Not read the whole thread but have you bought all of the lipsticks recently? Because lipsticks have an expiry date anyway and having build up your lip collection over 2 years is surely well beyond their expiry date anyway?

In fact, worse that that is that the OP's mother was amused. 😡

I would be so so upset if this happened to me, particularly as it’s stuff you’ve bought over time! Of course she should replace it, you shouldn’t even have to ask!

But it wasn't an accident, was it. It was a careless and unthinking deliberate action.

And in any case accident or not she should still make it up to you! Stick to your guns @nostyleandnoclothes

That is really strange behaviour. If my daughter left something at my house, no way would I throw it. The fact she must have known it was yours makes it even weirder. A simple text or phone call to you telling you that you had left it there was all it needed. But, to just chuck it away is spiteful. Yes, she should replace all the items. It might make her think twice next time and act like a normal person would when someone leaves an item of theirs in her house.

Lucky you. My spare keys have been missing for months and I think….

Oh look, op's mother has joined the thread 😁.

No it does NOT look like a genuine error. This wasn't a small scrap of something, it was a whole bag of medicines and make-up. No way someone could throw it away by mistake!

@nostyleandnoclothes does she have form for this sort of thing?

I know that my mother is similar - I wouldn't dare leave anything important at her house (it just wouldn't still be there next time I went). Not malicious exactly, it's more as if her brain identifies the item as "not mine" and prompts her to "put it somewhere safe" and then forget about it 🙄

I would definitely ask her to replace the items. She has to take responsibility for her actions.

I’m sorry, but have you never left something somewhere? I have and guess what, the person calls or messages me and say, “Hey Waiting, you left your sunglasses!”

Or someone leaves something at mine, I message and let them know and then put it in a safe place until item can be returned. I’ll bet there are a total of 0 posters who have never accidentally left something somewhere on this thread.

@LizzieSiddal

noone abides to that rule. I’ve got lipsticks I’ve had for years, they are fine

Honestly can’t believe some of the replies on this thread blaming OP. On what planet do you not take responsibility for a mistake that ends up costing someone else? You accidentally bump someone’s car, you own up and cough up. You accidentally spill on someone’s clothes and stain them - you pay for dry cleaning or replace. You lose something belonging to someone - you replace it. You bin somebody’s stuff (accidentally?) you replace it.

OP I don’t understand why you’re getting such a hard time. Thankfully there are still a good chunk of posters who see sense. Sorry you ended up going through the disgusting bin. You should not have had to do that.