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My mum has thrown away over £150 worth of makeup and medication

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nostyleandnoclothes · 12/07/2026 21:06

I have a small pouch that I carry around with me everyday. It’s got a lot of medication in it (antihistamines, painkillers, stomach medicine), as well as 5 lip sticks and 4 lip liners. In total it comes to over £150 worth of stuff in a space NK small pounce (which is expensive in itself!).

I was at my mum’s on Thursday night when she complained about her having bad hay fever. I pulled out the pouch and handed it to her, and although I thought I’d put it back in my bag I must’ve left it on the side. I realised tonight it’s missing as I’ve gone through my bag ahead of work tomorrow and she’s admitted that she has thrown it away.

AIBU to say she should replace it? Both the makeup and medication she’s thrown away?

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DogSnufflySnout · 12/07/2026 21:32

MagneticSquirrel · 12/07/2026 21:13

It was an accident - there must have been a reason she put it in the bin or
else she’s losing the plot. Sounds like genuine error. I don’t think asking her to pay for it is very nice at all and is petty.

If you have that many lipsticks / liners in one handbag then presumably you have a lot of makeup at home anyway so it’s not a big deal?

That’s hardly the point, though, is it?

It is irrelevant how many lip products OP had, or their actual cost - the fact is, they belonged to OP, she had bought them with her own money, and her DM has just slung them out as if they were rubbish.

I wouldn’t believe it, if I was told it was “an accident” either. You know what’s yours in your own house, and if you’ve borrowed something, you put it to one side ready to give back to their owner.
Id be bloody livid, tbh, OP.
Id want the stuff replacing, too.

Just change the DM threw my stuff out to ‘My friend / cousin / cleaner threw my stuff out…’ It makes a different story. People would certainly think it should be replaced, then!

weavingrugs · 12/07/2026 21:31

I find this sort of thing intriguing (sorry OP).
Just the idea that people have so much stuff that they simply scoop up a random thing in their home, in this case a beauty bag and chuck it away without a second thought .
Not once thinking, let me have a look inside, I wonder what I’ve left in here, or even I can’t remember buying this. No, just lob it straight in the bin!

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nostyleandnoclothes · 12/07/2026 21:31

Nousernameideaaga · 12/07/2026 21:27

That’s good.

i only brought it up because i worry about my own daughter sometimes as GP’s seem very quick to dish out tablets these days in after thirty second phone calls. But she’s an adult so it’s her choice.

If yours is all over the counter standard first aid stuff, that’s prob not the reason then.

As a mum, I would replace

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I mean I have the double strength ibuprofen I was sent home from hospital with last year, but it’s just 400mg, so the same as two normal tablets 😂 but in my head it works better on period cramps 😂

I just think she’s genuinely a bit careless about things and doesn’t see the big deal

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Nousernameideaaga · 12/07/2026 21:27

nostyleandnoclothes · 12/07/2026 21:23

I don’t think so? It’s all really big standard stuff I just carry around with me just in case - paracetamol, ibuprofen, hay fever tablets. Nothing too hardcore!

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That’s good.

i only brought it up because i worry about my own daughter sometimes as GP’s seem very quick to dish out tablets these days in after thirty second phone calls. But she’s an adult so it’s her choice.

If yours is all over the counter standard first aid stuff, that’s prob not the reason then.

As a mum, I would replace

Pollyanna87 · 12/07/2026 21:25

likelysuspect · 12/07/2026 21:22

How is it bizarre, unless you're suggesting she did it on purpose?

Ive done it plenty of times, you're clearing up and something goes in the bin by mistake.

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It’s not normal to frequently accidentally throw things away. I can’t think of a single instance where I’ve ever done it.

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nostyleandnoclothes · 12/07/2026 21:23

Nousernameideaaga · 12/07/2026 21:21

Is it possible she is worried about the medication you are taking? And deliberately got rid?

I don’t think so? It’s all really big standard stuff I just carry around with me just in case - paracetamol, ibuprofen, hay fever tablets. Nothing too hardcore!

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likelysuspect · 12/07/2026 21:22

parietal · 12/07/2026 21:10

That is very bizarre behaviour on her part. Why wouldn’t she text and tell you that you left it? Or put it aside for you?

How is it bizarre, unless you're suggesting she did it on purpose?

Ive done it plenty of times, you're clearing up and something goes in the bin by mistake.

Nousernameideaaga · 12/07/2026 21:21

Is it possible she is worried about the medication you are taking? And deliberately got rid?

Edenmum2 · 12/07/2026 21:21

nostyleandnoclothes · 12/07/2026 21:19

I just don’t really want to dig through heat baked rubbish when she’s the one who threw it out, and she definitely won’t do that!

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Yeah it’s grim, for sure, and you have every right to be pissed. But that’s what I would do.

Bonkers1966 · 12/07/2026 21:20

Keep bringing it up as an example of why she should be tested for dementia. Then start talking about assisted living. Have a brochure sent to her. Talk about annoying 😠

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nostyleandnoclothes · 12/07/2026 21:19

Edenmum2 · 12/07/2026 21:17

I would defo be looking in the bin if I knew they were still in there. Everything in there is self contained

I just don’t really want to dig through heat baked rubbish when she’s the one who threw it out, and she definitely won’t do that!

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nostyleandnoclothes · 12/07/2026 21:19

Thundertoast · 12/07/2026 21:17

Surely you can go check the bin and make a bit of an assessment on whats survived, I wouldnt just write the whole lot off. If the pouch is closed its probably fine, if a bit melty.
But seriously... surely this is a decent sized pouch, that isnt hers. If it was her own id get accidentally putting it in the bin as it all blurs into one, but its very unusual an alarm bell didnt go off at an unfamiliar object?

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They’re genuinely so carefree with their belongings it’s a bit worrying. Things like my dad has previously left an Apple Watch at security in the airport, and while browsing duty free realised he’s done it. Instead of going back for it, he grabbed a new one because it’s “easier”!!!

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AnonymityAnonymity · 12/07/2026 21:19

I would be really upset about this OP.
It actually sounds like a really vindictive thing to do.
And yes she should be offering to replace everything. You shouldn't need to ask her to.

Edenmum2 · 12/07/2026 21:17

I would defo be looking in the bin if I knew they were still in there. Everything in there is self contained

Thundertoast · 12/07/2026 21:17

Surely you can go check the bin and make a bit of an assessment on whats survived, I wouldnt just write the whole lot off. If the pouch is closed its probably fine, if a bit melty.
But seriously... surely this is a decent sized pouch, that isnt hers. If it was her own id get accidentally putting it in the bin as it all blurs into one, but its very unusual an alarm bell didnt go off at an unfamiliar object?

TheAnnoyingSatsuma · 12/07/2026 21:17

Has her rubbish been collected? If not get yourself round there with a pair of rubber gloves and see what’s retrievable.

NoSausage · 12/07/2026 21:17

Just reply "no worries, just pop £150 on a giftcard and we'll say no more about it 🤣"

Thst way you're giving her the chance to show good grace and replace it in a way that is low effort to her but you're making your expectations of replacement clear.

And if she does just sort it out then you can move on without drama. The ball will be in her court.

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nostyleandnoclothes · 12/07/2026 21:16

TheChosenTwo · 12/07/2026 21:13

I think if you’ve bought 9 lip products from space nk you might be massively underestimating the value of what’s been binned 🫣
worth an ask if they can be retrieved though; lipsticks are self contained in their own packaging plus they’ve been in an additional zipped bag - it might be okay?!
I mean I’m not sure I’d bother myself but it’s bothering you so why not ask?
It’s odd behaviour though if she just binned it!

It’s just really pissed me off to be honest! Her and my dad are quite wealthy so able to be quite care free with their belongings. I’m not and each purchase has been really considered and careful for me

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BuffaloCauliflower · 12/07/2026 21:16

Then yes send her the links and ask her to replace them

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nostyleandnoclothes · 12/07/2026 21:15

MagneticSquirrel · 12/07/2026 21:13

It was an accident - there must have been a reason she put it in the bin or
else she’s losing the plot. Sounds like genuine error. I don’t think asking her to pay for it is very nice at all and is petty.

If you have that many lipsticks / liners in one handbag then presumably you have a lot of makeup at home anyway so it’s not a big deal?

It’s a collection I’ve built up over the last couple of years. They’re pretty much all my main lip products so not the easiest for me to replace from my makeup at home

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QuizzlyBears · 12/07/2026 21:14

It’s bizarre from her but if you’re really concerned then I’d at least be looking to see what could be retrieved.

gamerchick · 12/07/2026 21:14

MagneticSquirrel · 12/07/2026 21:13

It was an accident - there must have been a reason she put it in the bin or
else she’s losing the plot. Sounds like genuine error. I don’t think asking her to pay for it is very nice at all and is petty.

If you have that many lipsticks / liners in one handbag then presumably you have a lot of makeup at home anyway so it’s not a big deal?

Make her be more careful in future though.

TheChosenTwo · 12/07/2026 21:13

I think if you’ve bought 9 lip products from space nk you might be massively underestimating the value of what’s been binned 🫣
worth an ask if they can be retrieved though; lipsticks are self contained in their own packaging plus they’ve been in an additional zipped bag - it might be okay?!
I mean I’m not sure I’d bother myself but it’s bothering you so why not ask?
It’s odd behaviour though if she just binned it!

gamerchick · 12/07/2026 21:13

Send her links to everything that's gone and tell her to get ordering.

Your bag will probably still be alright though. Just go and get it.

MagneticSquirrel · 12/07/2026 21:13

It was an accident - there must have been a reason she put it in the bin or
else she’s losing the plot. Sounds like genuine error. I don’t think asking her to pay for it is very nice at all and is petty.

If you have that many lipsticks / liners in one handbag then presumably you have a lot of makeup at home anyway so it’s not a big deal?