My mum has thrown away over £150 worth of makeup and medication

I didn't know this. Our council definitely does not offer a weekly food waste collection.

We've got grey/black for general, blue for paper and cardboard, brown for tins and glass and green for garden waste and that's it.

As far as I know they haven't issued any scheduled updates to change this.

Anything that's been in with food waste for 3 days in this heat will be crawling with maggots! Our food waste was! I don't blame OP for not wanting to dig around for it.

Hopefully. Rootling through bins is something I have had to do several times and it isn't that bad, unless someone has put uneaten fish in there, unwrapped.

I know this isn’t the point of the thread (and BTW I’m on your side), but all English councils must offer weekly food waste collection - it’s been law since Match this year.

I think it's absolutely appalling of your mother that, in her opinion, because she threw it away by accident, she doesn't need to replace it!
First of all, I agree with the posters saying that since she remembers throwing it away, it wasn't by accident, was it? It was clearly deliberate.
Secondly, even if it was really accidental, why on earth wouldn't she want to replace it? Insist even. I can't imagine treating anyone like that, let alone my daughter, who I love.

Like so many of these posts, it's lacking in information, which makes a good answer difficult.
The most glaring omission is: Did she throw it away deliberately, and, if so, WHY?
If I were you, I wouldn't start a fight about it, but I might casually say, "How about replacing it all?" More importantly, if she did it on purpose, you need a more serious discussion about property and boundaries and such.

So she wasn’t looking but she definitely knows that she’s binned it?! That’s odd! 🤨

Weird situation. I absolutely would offer to get it out of the bin and clean it if I had ‘accidentally’ chucked it away so I think it’s weird she’s not offering to do that. Failing that if I were you I would at least give it a go myself, it might be salvageable after a good wipe down.

You're being precious. Wear a face mask and rubber gloves.

TBH, everyone's behaviour sounds fairly normal to me... but I'm from a neurodivergent family.

Buying replacement stuff rather than looking for the original Apple watch or missing phone? Totally valid way of avoiding the executive function required to go hunting around.

Binning everything to get the cleaning dealt with? Again, normal way of just about managing to appear normal.

Collecting and hoarding a ridiculous amount of lipsticks which are pretty much the same to anyone else but subtly different to you?

Again, it would happen in my family.

Ask your Mum to retrieve it seeing that she threw it in the bin.
If she says no then empty the bin on her kitchen floor and find your stuff.
Maybe then she'll think twice about chucking stuff away without checking.

You are both weird.

Annoyingly, my DH has done this kind of thing on occasion. He doesn't think and doesn't see the problem. I just go through the bin. Most things will be ok especially if in a bag.

It doesn’t make sense that they won’t replace it for you when they do things like this. ⬆️

If you told them you couldn’t afford to replace it, they genuinely wouldn’t?

Just say, ‘Mum I know it was an accident but it will cost me £150 to replace it all and I don’t have that kind of money spare to spend on this, would you be able to help me replace it’

This is bizarre. Who throws away someone else's purse. What if it had had keys and drivers licence and cards. This is not OK. I absolutely would dig in the bin for 9 expensive lipsticks. Are you sure she's not nicked your collection.

Is her house really messy?

I can’t understand finding something someone left behind and binning it 😆

she should either fish it out of the bin or replace it.

Oh FFS. Just go and get it out of the bin. Batshit behaviour from both of you.

I know people who have no patience, skill or discretion whatsoever in tidying up, and they will literally just throw everything that they don't recognise or which doesn't normally live there into a black bin bag - and then be genuinely pleased with themselves for how efficiently they 'cleared up' and 'dealt with' all the 'mess'.

Whether it's actual rubbish, recycling or not rubbish at all, the whole lot goes into the same bag and slung straight into the (general waste) wheelie bin.

Is your DM one of these people, OP?

Your mum is being unreasonable not to try snd dig it out of the bin to be honest. I think mine would as she usually goes above and beyond, but sometimes she can randomly not want to do certain things do no guarantees! I would go over and look myself or forget it though in your position as it’s partly your fault for leaving it behind. I wouldn’t ask my mum to pay but would feel cross. Your mum probably didn’t appreciate the value of the contents and didn’t want it hanging around . Not saying I would chuck out my daughters makeup bag though.

OK then, it was an accident.

Can you just say to her, "I accept you didn't mean to throw it away, but if you won't replace it and I can't afford to; Can you go and fish it out of the bin Mum? And I can try to salvage it?"
Might be enough to guilt her into paying for replacement ?

I nowadays presumably food waste, which is the most likely thing to have gone really rancid over three days, will be in a separate food bin or at least in a tied up bin bag?