My mum has thrown away over £150 worth of makeup and medication

I don't understand the thinking that she shouldn't replace it because it was an accident. If I damaged someone's property, I'd expect to make it right by either repairing or replacing it. There's no reason why she shouldn't either retrieve it or replace it.

I’d ask her to go through the bin to get it back. I’m sure she can wash the make up bag!

Seems like a ludicrous hill to die on.

Put on a pair of rubber gloves or disposable plasoc gloves. Go and dig your bag out and wipe off the lipsticks etc if any liquid has seeped in. Quite unlikely.

Well don’t them. But you can’t begrudge your parents for being wealthy. It sounds like this about a lot more than a few lipsticks…

I’d also be right in the bin!!!

@OverOrUnderprotective

have you even read the thread!? Op thinks her mother should go through the rubbish becuase she was the one who stupidly binned it! So why shouldn’t it be her?

the 9 lip products has totally blown some peoples minds, OP. They think you should just have the same Rimmel lipstick you’ve had for the last 20 years and anything else is vain and lavish and a waste of family money.

Oh. That makes sense. Thanks.

YABU OP - Aside from the fact that it’s your mother and I feel we’re supposed to be kind and give to them rather than take in their old age, I’d be concerned about my mother’s wellbeing if she did something like that. My mother’s a sweeper, but she’d never throw away anything like that. Unless she has a history of being nasty to you deliberately/passive aggressive, this doesn’t sound right to me.

I have a lipstick and 4 lip balms, I think.

I’m still struggling to understand why you think you need to carry around 5 lipsticks. Can you fill me in? Maybe I should too.

Seems a bit weird. Has she definitely thrown it away? I can see how a person might sweep a packet of medicine away (sort of) but not a whole bag of items- that involves picking it up and chucking it.

Needless to say as they are 'wealthy' then yes I would ask her politely to please consider replacing the makeup, as it was expensive and you are a bit disappointed by the whole thing. She's not exempt from rectifying a careless mistake just because she's your DM.

I would be mortified...I'd have been out as soon as I could trying to find them, or offering to pay. Being blasé with her possessions is one thing. With someone else's is really shabby behaviour.

Just be blunt "£150 is more than I can easily spend replacing the items. Please either retrieve them from the bin or replace them."
It wasn't an accident it was carelessness, and they are not the same.

I would say though OP, my grubbiness standards are pretty low and even I'm not sure I'd want tablets I consume or make up on my face after they spent 3 days in a bin. The make up especially would have lost any glamour.

Op is getting a bashing becuse she asked the question ‘Aibu to say my mother should pay to replace this stuff?’

that’s why everyone is pointing out the myriad other options beyond billing her own mother for items that are still on her own mother’s property.

It wasn't any 'accident'. She either threw it out deliberately or liked it and kept it for herself. Any normal person, after doing such a thing accidentally, would be mortified and would either replace it or at least would dig it out of the bin, especially for their own daughter. I'd replace it, personally; I definitely wouldn't dig 3 days' worth of food waste, nor would I want to use such 'bin products'.

She sounds like a bit of a bitch. Without the 'bit' part. I'd tell her exactly this <<<. And would stop visits until she rectifies the situation. She's taking the piss.

If you had thrown someones belongings in the bin then wouldn't you go out and open up the bin and retrieve it? Instead of saying oh sorry I chucked £150 worth of your belongings in the bin but i'm not going to do anything about it, if you want it then come and rake the bins yourself..

How dare she be so careless with someone elses belongings. I'd tell her that you can't afford to throw that kind of money away and could she please replace it.

Leeds City Council also doesn't offer food waste collection. However, our non recyclable waste is incinerated not sent to landfill, so I don't know if that makes a difference.

Op why do you expect your mum to replace it when you could just look through the bin and retrieve it? Just wear gloves. I can't believe you'd expect your mum to go through the rubbish rather than you whoever's fault it is.

It's weird how careless she is but I think it's pretty weird as well that you are insisting on blaming your mum and wanting her to somehow fix it for you rather than doing anything yourself about it

I just looked up my local council because I hadn't heard of this law and they've been exempt until 2040.

Quite a few other councils have also been offered exemptions with similar or shorter time frames.

TBF, she could think she probably threw it away if it was amongst a number of other things she was planning to dump. It is rather a strange approach to keeping things tidy, but people can be strange.

I’m imagining your mum at her dressing table using all your ‘binned’ stuff and laughing manically. 🤣

She can't know for sure she has done that.....unless she did bin it deliberately.

It may be the law, but my council hasn't got round to it yet. I think they hope to do it next year.