My mum has thrown away over £150 worth of makeup and medication

Sorry for this, but what a stupid, negligent, careless, disrespectful old duffer. Could she not see it was prescribed medication, and your own personal lippy stuff? That's a blatant, basic lack of respect for you and your property.

It certainly does in my county, separate food collections have never even been mentioned and neither does it happen where my parents live

Are you talking about England?

I’d be really annoyed but unless it has been taken away then it’s still there.

She should fish it out but if she won’t I’d be going over there and getting it out myself.
It might be a bit gross but it’s only food waste.

Most of it should be salvageable.

It sounds to me that she did it out of spite. Would she do this do you think? It just seems like a very strange thing to do - just throw a bag away packed with stuff? If she has no cognitive issues then she would have known it was yours.

I would be fuming but I would have definitely gone round to rummage through her bin to retrieve it and would have left all the rubbish out for her to put back again.

The law is that every council must separately collect food waste OR be putting plans in place to do so at some point in the future.

Many, many councils still fall under the second (somewhat vague) category.

I can't speak specifically for OP's DM, but in my experience, there's a very strong correlation between the people who indiscriminately bin everything that they don't see a need for in that moment and those who always put out their general waste wheelie bins with the lids wide open.

Often they will have recycling bins that they also use as general waste overflow - either because they don't understand how to separate rubbish or (much more often) they see themselves as far too special and important for all that. They may scoff at why should they sort their rubbish and not the 'lowly' bin men - because "that's what I pay my council tax for" etc.

FFS. I wish people would RTFT or at least OPs posts.

HER PARENTS DON’T HAVE A SEPARATE FOOD WASTE COLLECTION

Food doesn’t go in with landfill any more. I thought that was law nationwide.

I’d suspect they are hiding some cognitive decline. No one would throw away a makeup bag someone has left at their house otherwise.

Such rigid thinking from both of you.

If neither of you can stomach going through the bin to retrieve the (washable) pouch, is there anyone else who would be able to?
Bloody hell if you lived next door to me I'd nip round and bin dip it to save landfill.

Next, step out of daughter mode and switch on "adult". Calmly explain to your mum that the make up is expensive and meant a lot to you and ask if she'd be willing to pay for it to be replaced.
If she says no, then you have a choice to hold that grudge against her or to forgive her and move on.

It wasn't a mistake. She actively picked it up, identified it as rubbish (i.e. unwanted by her) and binned it, and happily left it in the bin as dealt with. Not a mistake.

You are being silly op. Get it out the bin, wipe down the lipstick cases and wash or replace the fabric pouch. It will be fine and most people would do this. You’re as bad as your parents - wasteful. And yes I would say this if your dad had binned it.

Bunch of tramps on here saying the OP should get it from the bin! WTF!?

I have a handbag pouch too and it has a few lipsticks in, tablets, plasters, blister plasters, scissors, nail file and all sorts of stuff that often comes in useful. People always asking me if I have a certain item in my 'pouch'.

Sidenote - who is throwing out lipsticks dead on from 12 months of purchase? Yeah, nobody. Another wtf from me.

Hope your mum pays up OP.

It’s really not. Rotting food that some of which will have liquified having sat for days in this heat, can easily penetrate a fabric pouch or its seams, and leak into / underneath the lipstick and lip liner lids. They aren’t sealed with airtight packaging or anything. Absolutely no way I’d be using those products. The medicines, maybe, because they are sealed in blister packs but those are cheap to replace anyway.

If your mum had checked the bin as soon as you realised it would have been right on the top surely, how much rubbish are they putting in there. Although if this is the way they 'tidy' (i.e by just throwing everything in the bin) then maybe it would have been a lot!

This is fascinating because all of it is utterly insane to me (to the point I would genuinely be concerned about my mums sanity had she done the same) so thanks for explaining the rationale. Also good point in linking OPs own unusual behaviour in with their parents.

OP you and your family seem to have the same very blinkered black and white way of thinking!

Nobody has said it's okay that your mum did this and everyone would agree that morally your mum should be the one to go digging through the bin (same if it had been your dad who had chucked it as you asked above).

People are only suggesting you do it because regardless of who did the chucking or whose fault it is you cant physically make them either go digging through it or repay you - the only thing you have actual control over is whether you go and look for it yourself. That's why people are focusing on suggesting that because railing against your parents wont achieve anything whereas taking positive action might.

Most people would do both - be annoyed at their mum for causing the issue while realising that being annoyed doesnt fix anything so taking action that might resolve the situation.

Yes, I'm amazed this isn't the norm. A chocolate wrapper or empty drink carton gets thrown away; but anything that could possibly be wanted is put aside and the owner asked next time or messaged to check.

Certainly something like OP's pouch which is very obviously not rubbish... just why would you even think that you might have put it in the bin, unless you have cognitive difficulties - other than maybe a momentary mind lapse, after which you would instantly remove it again.

It sounds like something that a toddler would be learning: that a bin isn't a safe storage cupboard for things that we might want later, but it's only for (often dirty and unpleasant) things that nobody will want or need again.

Hey daughter I accidentally threw your £150 cash in the bin a few days ago.
Hey mum please send me £150 because I cant be bothered to go and retrieve it from the bin.
This is basically what you're saying.

I am very much a hoick it out and wash it type person, but even I wouldn't consider doing that in this weather, from a mixed bin of rubbish with food and fluids in, for things I was then going to swallow or put on my lips. Disconnect between my logical brain thinking its fine, and my illogical brain going 😱, so I sympathise OP.
Do you think she would be more likely to replace your items if you just said can you send me x amount to cover the cost and that's all the input she needs? I'm wondering if a list of replacement articles is too much of a faff for her? I really think she should be taking responsibility for the loss, it was her hay fever you were trying to help her with, and her carelessness in throwing it away. I don't think that's trumps your 'carelessness' in not putting it away because who would have genuinely thought they would have needed to be that on ball as it was likely to go in the bin if you took your eyes off it?

I thought most make up had a use by date of 12 months?? Am I wrong in this?

Ooh you just reminded me of what my nanny used to say "If we all took more care then accidents wouldn't happen"

True accidents happen in the absence of carelessness and are unforseeable. This is carelessness.

Very odd behaviour. You shouldn't even have to ask her to pay you. She should have offered straight away. Some people....

You routinely carry 9 lipsticks and an assortment of medication with you?
(I know that’s not the point, but, what else is in your pouch?)

If you wanted to be pathetic and petty yes

your mums was a mistake

you can try and fix it

you cba