My mum has thrown away over £150 worth of makeup and medication

OP, I would be absolutely raging. I'd be inclined to dump the contents of the bin in her bed or something. Or perhaps hide something you know she will need in the morning, such as her own makeup bag, or all her shoes, so she is seriously inconvenienced for at least one morning... it seems she is utterly oblivious to other people and the impact her actions have on others. What an utterly selfish, feckless individual. As someone else said, if it was a true accident, you could forgive it if she appeared in any way sorry, but to actually derive joy from the misfortune SHE caused you... Getting your own back somehow seems like the only way of getting her to understand.

OP. Good on you for trying to salvage the items.

I am very sorry the things are ruined. It might be worth wiping them down and leaving them somewhere cool for a day or so and coming back to them when you aren’t feeling so upset about it all. Just to see if anything might be still be saved.

Your update about your mum finding it funny makes me quite upset for you. Given you are sure she has no cognitive impairment, then I can only say she doesn’t sound a very nice person at all. I’d be so, so upset if I did this accidentally to anyone at all (let alone someone I was supposed to love and care about). I really feel for you.

Yes that’s very odd.

When one of my (adult) siblings left their retainer wrapped in tissue on the side it was thrown away by my dad and sibling had to pay to replace, but that was because it was quite literally disguised as rubbish so seemed fair that it was concluded to be their carelessness rather than my dads.

A pouch full of make up and tablets that your mum had used a day before could not reasonably be mistaken for rubbish and she should’ve made some attempt herself to retrieve it once she realised, and should pay for anything that has been ruined.

@Firegoddess
So your argument is OP should not bear the consequence of being careless with her own belongings by leaving them behind but her Mum should bear the consequence of being careless?
That’s not a very consistent position.

Not the same thing AT ALL. Leaving your (clearly not rubbish) possessions out on a table at your parents' house is perfectly normal, and doesn't even really count as careless.
Making the ACTIVE step of picking something up that does not belong to you, and throwing it in the bin, without even checking what it is, is not really simple carelessness, is it? It's not like accidentally knocking a glass over, the mother had to ACTIVELY take an action.

I don't understand your question. Whoever threw it away should be digging in the bin, whether that's your mum, your dad, or auntie Noreen.

At least thieves 'only' take your stuff away from you because they want it (or the money from selling it) for themselves.

You are just nothing to them; most of them don't actually derive pleasure from the 'hilarity' of the thought of you losing your stuff because of them.

Have you asked her? My mum would be MORTIFIED if she'd thrown something of mine away accidentally, and she'd drive down to the tip and rummage through everything there - you're saying yours won't even look in her bin?

I never understand when elderly people are absolutely stinking loaded and have fortunes in their bank accounts, yet seem to take immense joy in the knowledge that their adult children (also the parents to their own grandchildren) are always having to budget very carefully and struggle continually.

Do the concepts of love, kindness and family just completely pass them by?

Okay. She's being a bitch actually. I'd return the favour, and suggest that perhaps she needs to see a doctor..

I’m afraid I would lose it with her at that point! You’ve had to do that because you can’t afford to replace the things and she’s refusing to whilst laughing about it? She needs a reality check 😡

Glad you found it.

get online and reorder everything

she can pay for it.

she’s very odd.

😳 She thinks it’s funny?!! God I’m sorry OP, this whole situation is awful and your mum has shown a complete lack of care for you here 😞

So your parents are so blase with money they buy a new phone if they mislay it but your mum throws your stuff away and doesn't think she needs to replace it! That's really bizarre behaviour.
Of course she needs to replace it. You don't throw other people's stuff away and if you do it, even accidently, then you replace it.

She thinks it is funny!

I would be having little to do with her in future. It sounds like she is as careless with your feelings as your posessions.

Definite cognitive issues.

Sweeping stuff into a bin bag to clear a surface is one thing if you want to tidy up quickly but you leave the bin in a cupboard to come back to later to sort.

Putting the lot in the bin is definitely not normal

Not recognising a bag belongs to your dd after you have used it. Cognitive issues

Leaving handbag at someone’s house. Cognitive issues.

Exh started doing this sort of thing about 10 years ago in his late 50s

Although not diagnosed as going to the doctors would involve leaving the house and he doesn’t ever leave the house.
He hasn’t worked for years
He forgets everything within a few seconds so a conversation is impossible.

Oh Op 🤢🤢🤢 How horrid! Has your Mum agreed to replace it now?!!

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Okay, the DM cant be made to do it but any future cordial relationship would depend on the DM resolving the problem.

You’re welcome ☺️

Other people have actually used the thanks reaction on my post so clearly I’m not the only one annoyed despite your pass agg sarcasm 🙄

So she can replace it then, that would be the "easiest" option all around.

Thank you for your contribution, thread prefect.

Food waste that has sat in the heat for 3 days, rotting and liquifying or breeding maggots… I really think everyone on this thread saying they’d have no issues fishing it out and using those products on their lips is talking BS