My mum has thrown away over £150 worth of makeup and medication

I just can't get my head round this, I'm kind of obsessed with sorting my litter and recycling as well as the things in my house. I think your DM is very odd OP and even more strange not to be apologetic about it. Sounds like in your future you'll have to keep all your belongings strapped to you at all times and not let them out of your sight!

I think it is fear of clutter, personally.

She sounds like an arsehole. Yes i'd bill her.

I'm agog at all these ppl who sweep everything into a bin without even looking at it. Seems to be a somewhat common habit going by this thread. Is it fear of clutter? Or just absentmindedness?

Agree! It's reminding me of the episode of Sex and the City where Carrie's former friend reproaches her for her 'spending choices' after making her leave her expensive shoes at the door of her home where they are stolen. How very vain and shallow we women are if we dare to treat ourselves, eh?

OP's Mum sounds like the sort of person to throw away a child's toys/comics because "you're too old for them now".

I haven't read the whole thread as its pretty bonkers! Id be absolutely peed off if I left something at my mums and she just threw it away. The again, my mum would always ring or text to say ive left XYZ at hers and id either say throw it away or ill come pick it up on X day. Its a non issue that you leave something at your parents house. Unless its massive and taking up loads of space. A bloody make up bag. Just courtesy to check isn't it. Same as id never throw anything of my mums away should she leave anything at mine.

Id absolutely want my parents to replace it. Sounds like yours wont though as they seem to have a lack of respect for other people's items.

Is that you, OP's Mum? They would in your house anyway.

Yassss!

At the end of the day it’s clear on this thread that some women have issue with other women treating themselves. Which is INTERNALISED MISOGYNY

@nostyleandnoclothes this thread is bonkers!

I have a whole collection of lipsticks, possibly 70+ different colours. Some cheap, some dear. I treat myself whenever I bloody well like!

Re your mum binning your pouch. This is also bonkers. If my mum did this I would not be happy. It does not make sense. Why not just put it aside until your next visit? Or shock horror, call you and tell you that you’ve left it at hers?

I am also a mum and would never ever chuck one of my DC possessions, that they had clearly left by accident, in the bin without checking first. It was hardly taking up acres of space was it? And if I did, I would gladly rake through my own bin to retrieve a lost item. Indeed, I have done so on many occasions.

And thinking back about 50 years, my mum accidentally put my retainers in the bin on Xmas day (I wrapped them in a napkin, so my fault). We lived in a flat, and our rubbish was put down a chute into a communal bin at least six feet tall. My mum bin dived headfirst into that communal bin to retrieve my retainers. What a woman! Super Mum 👑

The medication is irrelevant. It could have been a recent prescription in the bag. In no way in the OPs post did she say the medication was 2 years old. Theres a lot of reaching in these answers 🙄🤦‍♂️😂

Again,that's down to the OP,IF she chooses,to throw away,and IF she wants to. NOT the mother.

Very strange / careless of your mum to just throw it away.
But if you’ve built this collection up over a couple of years I don’t think this it’s ridiculous to say some of the stuff may be past its best anyway.
Guidelines say lipsticks last 1-2 years after opening, and I wouldn’t be surprised if some medications have a shorter shelf life than that. Stuff may have needed replacing anyway.

YES! 🙌 A voice of reason!

Exactly! I keep coming back to this thread amazed by how obtuse some people are being! Yes of course it's a good idea to try not to leave possessions behind, but can't we all be a bit nice to each other? Especially to family members!

I just cannot imagine a scenario where my mum visits my house, gets a makeup bag out to give me some medication (which is a nice thing to do!), leaves the bag on my worktop and I just chuck it away. And if I saw a nice makeup bag in my kitchen and couldn't remember where it had come from, I'd ask anyone who'd visited if they were missing it. If it remained a mystery I'd give it to a charity shop (minus the used lipsticks of course). Surely this is what most normal people would do.

@petermaddog

maybe if you’ve got more money than sense…

Fair comment 😄I was just pointing out it'd be a more likely outcome in that particular scenario, rather than in OP's.

True... but you would hope that OP's mum wouldn't suspect her of being a potential terrorist... especially considering that she willingly consumed (legal everyday) drugs supplied by her!

if they are more than 6 month old should be removed anyway

You didn’t read the updates then I take it… OP’s mum has a habit of throwing her possessions away. Also, if it were a true accident, she would’ve at least expressed some remorse, rather than be laughing at her going through the bins.

That's not how I read it. It sounds like it was an accident, not done with malice - as in OMG, I think I chucked that in the bin. Careless, maybe, but the OP left it there. Generally, you are responsible for your own stuff (not when you've lent it to someone or situations like that).

Mate, come on... I've had items found and returned to me by complete strangers; my local Facebook group is full of people trying to locate the owners of lost items, sometimes ones with no monetary value. If complete strangers can go out of their way to show such kindness to a stranger, you ought to be able to trust your OWN MOTHER, who supposedly loves you, to not throw your things in the bin. It's not even like OP was expecting her mother to return the pouch to her, just to not throw it in the bin (and throwing it in the bin was a deliberate act, because she remembered doing it). Putting it aside is the kind and considerate thing to do. Why wouldn't you be kind and considerate to your own daughter?? Are these the people who post in support groups saying they have no idea why their children cut off contact with them?

It isn’t normal to forget your handbag. It’s probably the only thing she carries when out so would know when she leaves a place she hasn’t got it

Nowadays I suspect if it was found at an airport or a station it'd be suspected of being a terrorist device and detonated in a controlled explosion...