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Original poster

Husband pees on seat, rim and floor, says its normal

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Julytrees · 12/07/2026 20:03

As the title says. And me and my 16 y o daughter wipe it up as we don’t want to sit on it or have it touch our legs or feet (if splashed on the floor) and it’s not water as it’s yellow.
Sometimes there is small bits of poo on the floor and he says that is also normal and that all men have issues with aim etc and the poo is a mistake...
We clean it as we share a bathroom and we prefer it clean.
He asked me to post here and says he is a standard man when it comes to this. He’s 53.

IABU - for flagging it
NBU - for flagging it

OP posts:
Randomlygeneratedname · 12/07/2026 20:45

CustardySergeant · 12/07/2026 20:42

2% have voted that YABU for flagging it! WTF?

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I voted NBU but I had to read the options about 5 times because I'm tired. I assume others have done the same.

Original poster
Julytrees · 12/07/2026 20:44

BudgetBuster · 12/07/2026 20:41

But why do you tolerate it... and why don't you both respect your daughter?

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I am extremely upset about the effect on her.

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CustardySergeant · 12/07/2026 20:42

2% have voted that YABU for flagging it! WTF?

Saz12 · 12/07/2026 20:41

Its not normal in my house.

If he cant aim, or cant without splashing, then he should sit down to pee.

He tgen needs to clean up after hinself.

BudgetBuster · 12/07/2026 20:41

Julytrees · 12/07/2026 20:38

We have argued many times about it. He said “post on Mumsnet”

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But why do you tolerate it... and why don't you both respect your daughter?

ilovesooty · 12/07/2026 20:38

BreakingBroken · 12/07/2026 20:25

As a retired nurse; this is not at all unusual.
Lots of little factors contribute to the problem; weight, length of the penis, hydration, age as it relates to prosate health.
Stool, that again not unusual due to hair in the area.
What helps, prostate check, weight management so he can see his stream. Fluids, hydrated but not too much.
Wet wipes for cleaning the bottom works better than TP, bidet attachment also very helpful.

None of that would stop him cleaning up after himself.

Original poster
Julytrees · 12/07/2026 20:38

arethereanyleftatall · 12/07/2026 20:35

If the op and her husband have to ask strangers if it’s normal that his teenager daughter cleans up his shit and piss; it’s a bit of a concern what else is going on in their house.

We have argued many times about it. He said “post on Mumsnet”

OP posts:
BudgetBuster · 12/07/2026 20:38

Julytrees · 12/07/2026 20:05

He doesn’t make us clean it, it’s just like that in the morning sometimes

If he hasn't cleaned it... he's making you clean it. And worse.. he's making his 16 year old DD clean it?

I'd honestly have his bags packed so flipping fast.

Clara27 · 12/07/2026 20:38

He sounds utterly disgusting. He wants you to post about it why? Is he trying to justify leaving his mess behind him? In no world is that acceptable behaviour from an able bodied person. Is he your daughter’s father? What way have you explained this to her?

Munchyseeds2 · 12/07/2026 20:35

It's never been normal in our house!
Yuk!

Pinkflamingo10 · 12/07/2026 20:35

If this is a real story -he is gross 🤮
and I live with my husband and three sons

arethereanyleftatall · 12/07/2026 20:35

If the op and her husband have to ask strangers if it’s normal that his teenager daughter cleans up his shit and piss; it’s a bit of a concern what else is going on in their house.

LastoneYawning · 12/07/2026 20:33

Julytrees · 12/07/2026 20:27

It is mainly on the rim (as the seat is left up) but he flushes with the lid open so I see it and wipe it as when I sit down the wee touches my thigh from the side of the rim.

He asked me to post this as he says most men do sprinkle and get it on toilet or floor.

Am not making this up!!

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My teenage son doesn’t. Never has. Apart from may be a few occasions when very little.

Randomlygeneratedname · 12/07/2026 20:33

My 2 year old boy can manage to not do this when he uses the toilet, why doesn't HE wipe it up? I can't imagine a world where I would leave a toilet in a mess and then expect my 16 year old child (future me speaking) to clean it up.

I honestly could not live like this.

CustardySergeant · 12/07/2026 20:33

My husband has never done this in the 51 years I've known him. Not once. He's 80 this year.

ChildrenOfTheQuorn · 12/07/2026 20:32

What on earth is wrong with you that you're not marching him in there to clean it himself? Instead you let your daughter clean up the man's toilet mess!? You're as irresponsible as he is.

LastoneYawning · 12/07/2026 20:32

Julytrees · 12/07/2026 20:27

It is mainly on the rim (as the seat is left up) but he flushes with the lid open so I see it and wipe it as when I sit down the wee touches my thigh from the side of the rim.

He asked me to post this as he says most men do sprinkle and get it on toilet or floor.

Am not making this up!!

Edited

If he misses then he needs to sit down to pee. He needs to double check he has left it clean before he leaves the bathroom. Leave a cleaning spray by the toilet - a quick squirt of that and a wipe with toilet paper, then flush it away and all fresh for the next person.

I couldn’t live with the poo situation. If he is able bodied he should either learn to not soil or stay and clean it up before he leaves.

Sex with a man who left me his poo to clean up would NEVER happen 🤢

arethereanyleftatall · 12/07/2026 20:31

Julytrees · 12/07/2026 20:27

It is mainly on the rim (as the seat is left up) but he flushes with the lid open so I see it and wipe it as when I sit down the wee touches my thigh from the side of the rim.

He asked me to post this as he says most men do sprinkle and get it on toilet or floor.

Am not making this up!!

Edited

What everyone is telling you is, that’s fine if you miss, BUT YOU CLEAN UP YOUR OWN PISS. Even if it’s in the middle of the night.

Original poster
Julytrees · 12/07/2026 20:31

BreakingBroken · 12/07/2026 20:25

As a retired nurse; this is not at all unusual.
Lots of little factors contribute to the problem; weight, length of the penis, hydration, age as it relates to prosate health.
Stool, that again not unusual due to hair in the area.
What helps, prostate check, weight management so he can see his stream. Fluids, hydrated but not too much.
Wet wipes for cleaning the bottom works better than TP, bidet attachment also very helpful.

He’s healthy though

OP posts:
catsarethefuture · 12/07/2026 20:30

And you willingly share a bed with him?

Besidemyselfwithworry · 12/07/2026 20:29

Twattergy · 12/07/2026 20:06

I live with two men and neither do this. Its disgusting frankly and lazy.

I agree
and I wouldn’t put up with it
he’d be out
disgusting and un-necessary

Original poster
Julytrees · 12/07/2026 20:27

It is mainly on the rim (as the seat is left up) but he flushes with the lid open so I see it and wipe it as when I sit down the wee touches my thigh from the side of the rim.

He asked me to post this as he says most men do sprinkle and get it on toilet or floor.

Am not making this up!!

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arethereanyleftatall · 12/07/2026 20:27

Julytrees · 12/07/2026 20:05

He doesn’t make us clean it, it’s just like that in the morning sometimes

Well if he’s not cleaning it straight after, then he is ‘making you clean it’ given females sit down unless you want to sit in his piss? You don’t really have any choice but to clean it do you?

LastoneYawning · 12/07/2026 20:26

BreakingBroken · 12/07/2026 20:25

As a retired nurse; this is not at all unusual.
Lots of little factors contribute to the problem; weight, length of the penis, hydration, age as it relates to prosate health.
Stool, that again not unusual due to hair in the area.
What helps, prostate check, weight management so he can see his stream. Fluids, hydrated but not too much.
Wet wipes for cleaning the bottom works better than TP, bidet attachment also very helpful.

But wet wipes should NOT be flushed of course.

LastoneYawning · 12/07/2026 20:26

Including family I have lived with six males, including my teenage son and not one of them did this. My son has NEVER done this, even in the early days of toilet training.