Husband pees on seat, rim and floor, says its normal

"Sometimes there is small bits of poo on the floor and he says that is also normal and that all men have issues with aim etc and the poo is a mistake..."

Issues with aim? Is he standing up to shit? I couldn't live with this

I've been married 15 years and I have never had to wipe up wee off the seat - or the FLOOR!!! I also have a teenage boy! So no... this ain't it.

Oh fuck this. Get him a magnifying glass and chain it to the toilet so that he can use it to aim his penis, the one he cant see without glasses on.
Better still put it in a pot on top of the toilet with a message on it.
" Do not remove from toilet as husband cant see his penis without it and pisses on the floor"
It stays until he keeps the floor and seat clean.

It is not normal AT ALL. It’s gross and he’s pathetic for thinking that other men are doing what he’s doing. He should be embarrassed that he can’t use a toilet properly at his age. (I guess the occasional drip on the rim - not the seat - is probably inevitable but he should clean it up immediately.)

He needs to sit down to piss. Both my teenage son and DH sit down. I am not cleaning up piss for anyone.

Yeah, that's bullshit. If his eyesight was so bad he can't even see where he's pissing, he wouldn't be able to do ANYTHING without his glasses on. If he's walking around doing other stuff without his specs, he can definitely see to have a slash.

None of the men in my life have routinely done this. It's not remotely normal. Maybe they might get a little drip on the seat or something occasionally? But a normal bloke would wipe it up instead of leaving someone else to do it.

Honestly, I cannot imagine living with some grubby bastard who a) couldn't control his own piss and b) expected his wife and daughter to clean it up. Utterly gross.

I have absolutely no idea how he's managing to get shit on the floor!

DH says not normal. HTH.

Absolutely not normal?’! That’s disgusting!

Hello OP's DH.

Adding up sons/stepsons, fathers/FILs, partners and husbands, housemates, visiting family etc I have lived with a LOT of men. Some of them don't have perfect vision.

None have ever left shit on the floor. Very occasionally, 1 or 2 of them have left the odd droplet of wee. The difference between them and you is that when it was brought to their attention, they were mortified and undertook to do better in future. They didn't double down and act like it's not a problem.

TLDR you are filthy and feral, and you have no respect for your wife and daughter.

He sounds disgusting. Peeing on the floor and toilet seat is bad enough,but just leaving it and expecting someone else to clear it up is breathtakingly arrogant.

Obviously not enough if she's continuing to have to clean up after this vile man.

Honestly it's the most disgusting thing I've read on here in a long time and I really hope you're trolling.

Well tell him this mumsnetter has a DH who is 68 and he has never left the bathroom in that state for me and DD to find. Also, when it comes to dividing household chores, DH usually does the bathrooms and makes a damn good job of it.

Your DH sounds like a dirty, lazy bastard.

Not normal at all. My DH of 20 years has never left the bathroom in a mess.

Having a crap aim is one thing, not wiping it up is grim. Doesn't this completely put you off any intimacy? If he's not wiping piss and shit off the floor I wouldn't be confident he's wiping his arse either. 😩

And yet you still married him and had a child.

Did this not come up when dating? Living together?

It's not normal. Piss and shit go in the toilet, then flushed. Any marks cleaned and flushed again.

Why the fuck does he think pissing everywhere is normal. It most certainly is not

Ew definitely not normal, and absolutely lazy and grim leaving it for someone else to clean up.

Then he needs to put his glasses on to go to the toilet and he needs to put more effort in to focusing on aim and cleaning himself. May be he needs to google how if he’s always been like this. Does his mother say he’s always done this? How did his toilet training go as a kid? Did he do this in your honeymoon? If it’s a new thing, what does he think is the cause?

Regardless of his ability to toilet like an adult, he can clean the toilet.

I've seen it be necessary to post a sign in public loos to 'please leave this toilet clean for the next person who uses it.' is he really suggesting that it's ok to leave no.1s and 2.s for the next person (i.e. you or dad) to clean up. Does he see you as his skivvies?

It sounds like he makes more mess than my 3 year old and even he is encouraged to attempt to clean up after himself.

I have never and would never clean up after someone at the toilet unless they are my own small child.

LTB.
Completely, 100% revolting.

I would imagine if a person doesn’t leave a relationship when they, and their dd, have to clean up an able bodied persons shit, and check if that’s normal, reading this thread won’t make a lot of difference.

I sometimes forget my glasses, but it doesn’t mean I piss and shit on the floor.

He told you to ask mn if it is normal for a man to ask teenager girld to clean up shit he smeared on the floor?

Just asked my 21 year old DS and he said ‘is her husband taking the piss, of course it’s not normal, the dirty bugger.

If his aim is that bad, then he needs to sit down and use his hand to point his dick into the toilet bowl. He needs to use tissue to dab the end so no urine goes on the seat or floor. As for getting Pooh on the floor - how does the dirty fucker even manage that if he is sat on the toilet. Just tell him to wipe his arse properly.

You and your poor daughter should not be cleaning up after him. What is he - a
4 year old? Every single time, send him back to clean his piss and shit. If it’s not spotless - keep sending him back until it is.