Should I apologise to this mum?

Your assumption about girls being closer to their family as adults is outdated and often wrong these days.
Honestly you sound far to obsessed with the sex of your baby and what you think that means your relationship with him/her growing up. You do realise that she could be a daddy's girl or a tomboy who hates everything girly.
Also there's no guarantee that the sex was accurately observed by the ultrasound tec as they can and regularly get it wrong

Best thing for it, change Gyms. Beyond cringe the way you carried on!

I am 31 weeks pregnant with a girl - if you’d said all of this stuff to me I would’ve thought you’re incredibly superficial and shallow. I agree with the other PPs, you’re very strange.
The fact you could only relax when you found out you were having a girl is troubling, what would you have been like if you were having a boy? Poor kid…
ALL of my friends have had boys and at no point have I felt like I am smug or rubbing it in their face, their boys are beautiful and happy and that’s all that matters.

It was just a bit awkward because in the context that she does in fact have a boy, it would have been sad if she agreed with you and said "yes I do wish my son was a daughter", equally, it would have been awkward to challenge you and say "I have a boy and I think you're being unreasonable towards boys". I think she did the only polite neutral thing she could which was smile and nod. I don't think you have anything to apologise for. You are just excited about what's to come. My friend was similar and she's ended up with one of each now and she freely admits her preconceptions were completely false. Every kid is unique.

Try to stop over thinking

I have one amazing boy its obvious to anyone how amazing I think he is it’s and when I hear other parents talk about how wonderful their children are I just assume it’s because they feel the same way not because they are a boy or a girl but because their are their child/children

You might be overthinking this. My first was a boy, if someone would have been happy to be having a girl I wouldn't feel like they were rubbing it in my face. I'm perfectly happy with my children, regardless of their sex and I'm sure the vast majority of parents are. I did have a preference for a girl when I got pregnant but I was just over the moon to have a healthy baby, the sex didn't matter in the end.

You need an attitude check. Boys are brilliant. You aren’t ’rubbing her face in it’ because children are amazing no matter their sex. You need to look at your own skewed thinking though as it’s messed up, and if I was her I would be avoiding you. Don’t apologise, just leave her alone to decide if she wants to bother with you again.

So bored of the gender attitude and stereotyping we see.

😂😂😂 we’ve all been there with the smug “so happy about the sex” gushing.

Don’t apologise just don’t do it again and remind her you are actually a social normal human being but interacting normally.

FWIW I was the boy mum. A group of 4 of us and the others were all snag girl mums. They gushed. 2 went on to have a second child - both also girls.

Every single one of them had commented by the time they went to secondary school that they can’t believe how easy I’ve had it raising a boy. and wondering how come he was the easiest of the 6 of them!

Teenage girls then get worse 😂

You may naturally regret your smugness and she may naturally get her moment to smile.

Seriously though - enjoy the news. Nothing wrong with wanting a child of a particular sex - just tone it down a bit 😂

You're both weird.

Please just be grateful that you're able to conceive and birth babies.

You're pregnant, presumably your first? And you're just caught up in all the excitement that comes with that? Don't worry about all the 'chew' you're getting on here, people are misconstruing the incident with the other woman. You worry that you 'may' have come across as smug, not that you actually were! *and you're perfectly entitled to have a preference on the sex of your baby. People on here are actually the CF's for desperately trying to dampen your elation. Congratulations And I hope it all goes well!

My extended family are predominantly women. Not enough boys in my family in my opinion. I have lots of experience of teenage girls and there are tween girls coming up also. I honestly haven’t experienced the nightmare of teenage girls some allude to.

Boys / girls, neither one is better than the other. And behaviour outcome is not stereotypical.

I remember telling anyone who'd listen when I was pregnant that I hoped it was a girl because I couldn't face having two of my husband in the house. No one was offended at all, they just laughed as they know my husband! I suppose it's all about how you frame it.
I do have to say that I like to hear of people wanting girls. For millenia it has been the opposite and I'm glad a female child is now valued.

I know 2 people this happened to.

One was fine but the other, well, she was similar to the op. Looked at me with sympathy when talking about how she'll have one of each, kept harping on about how hard it must be emotionally to have 2 boys, asked if i was going to try for a third to get "my girl" (fuck no thats one of the main reasons I stopped at 2 just in case the third was a girl 😂).

Im not ashamed one bit to say I really enjoyed watching her sobbing into a colleagues arms (as colleague rolled her eyes at me over her shoulder) after her next scan revealed it was a boy 😂😂

I would just think you were a bit of a unhinged loony tunes and avoid you next time I seen you at the gym. For me, gym talk is basic politeness about the weather, I would not be interested in the slightest about you being pregnant.

What did your husband want? Statistically most men want boys and are more likely to leave the family unit if their offspring are solely female.
Maybe she will end up having the last laugh.

You sound like a prat. Those kinda thoughts should be inside thoughts. I mean let’s face it, your little girl a tom boy, loath the girly stuff ie shopping, clothes, pink shite, and one day could want to be a boy when she grows up!

As a mum of 4 boys, who are absolutely amazing adults now ...you are fucking weird. Please don't breed anymore, just in case you do have a boy and fuck him up for life with your disappointment

I’m a mum of 2 girls and it’s never crossed my mind to tell someone that’s what I was hoping for… I was secretly hoping for one of each, but the entire pregnancy I was focused on them being happy and healthy after having 2 miscarriages. Also I never got to excited until they arrived. Nobody has ever said to me they’re jealous of me having girls or that boys are better. I don’t understand this at all?

But in contrast to most on this thread I think if explaining yourself will take away your anxiety then do it. Just be very careful how you word it something like “sorry about wanging on about a girl yesterday, I’m really anxious and tired at the mo. Don’t know why I said that”. I am an over thinker so totally know how you feel.

But just look forward to having a healthy baby now and keep your gender preferences in your own head. You might get a girl who doesn’t want to do any of the girly stuff you had planned anyway. Health and happiness over everything else x

Come on OP, you can't really believe this generalisation is a fact 🤣 . It seems to be quite common for people to assume that daughters are born to serve the purpose of being their mother's BFF. This kind of pressure is what drives adult children away.

I think it might make it worse if you say anything else.
When you have a teenage daughter you’ll look back at this moment 😉

Both my sister and I moved overseas as adults, whereas our brother lives on the same street as our parents. Perhaps try to overcome your stereotyping and just parent the child you have for who they are, not for who you want them to be.

This. Having a girl isn't better than having a boy. I say this as someone who's got 2 of each. You just love and want the child you get.

@Cringecringecringecringe, my DGS was a girl at his first scan. At the second he was a boy.

You were not smug or rubbing her face in it. She is probably very happy with her healthy boy. She probably, infact definitely, has come accross such insular and ridiculous thoughts that girl children are wanted more than boy children.

Us " boy mums" are used to these ignorant ideas and we just ignore, and file you under "twit"

I have a boy and a girl.
I love them both equally, but my son is easy to talk to, thoughtful and I relax more around him.
One sex isn't better than the other....