Should I apologise to this mum?

When I said I was having a boy, I was constantly told girls were awful by women.

It wound me up because it was half "consolation" that I didn't want or need, and half an insult to my sex (at all ages).

I’m lucky to have one of each and honestly, i do not get why you would prefer one over the other as they each bring their own delights and challenges. Most importantly, I hope your daughter is healthy and happy.

Give me a son any day over a daughter!

I have a friend who wanted a girl, and she treats her boy like an afterthought because she wanted another girl. And in that group, all my friends had girls first and had a little smug chat about how they were so pleased they were guaranteed a girl, and I have an only boy.

Whilst many PP on this thread have said they'd just raise their brows and think you were an idiot, there's every possibility that you've been able absolute twat to a woman who's sick to death of those comments.

Me, I was pleased to learn that I had a boy just because I found everyone guessing insufferable (and everyone guessed girl, so I was pleased to shove it in their faces!). He's an amazing child, and it's nothing to do with his sex, it's because he's a lovely little fellow.

I think I would find it weird that you have made a load of assumptions and projections as to what your baby will be like just because they have a vagina! Babies and children are their own people, they won’t necessarily act the way you think, like the things you think they should, or behave in gender specific ways.

You’re probably overthinking it, as a boy mum having a girl really didn’t appeal so if someone had said it to me I wouldn’t have batted an eyelid, I am and always will be glad I had a boy!!

What a stupid post, your honestly have handed your baby back???
I hate all of these threads saying how girls are harder work than boys, it’s rubbish and it’s normally said by someone who hasn’t patented a girl and seems to use this to prove how lucky they are to have sons.
I get gender disappointment is real but saying you’d hand a girl back is unbelievable.
And I say this as a boy and girl mum.

Don't apologise, it will only make things worse. She probably thinks you're an arsehole. Note to yourself - think before you speak next time. As a mother of 5 sons, I get tired of being asked if I kept trying for a girl. The answer is no, I'm very happy with my sons and very close to them as adults.

It certainly used to be. Not a good look either tbh.

Not all females are close to their mums. I'm certainly not! My sons are closer to me than their dads. My dp is closer to his mum than his dsis. Don't fall for that stereotype!

I doubt she cares, having a healthy child is a blessing.

Why do you think that all boy mums are disappointed and desperate to have girls? After being a mum for 22 yrs I think if I’d been handed a baby girl all those years ago, knowing what I know now, I’d have handed her straight back.

Having a girl is no walk in the park, I have two nieces and I’m one of three girls, they are so much more trouble than boys.

Like other posters have pointed out, she probably thought that you were as mad as a box of frogs.

Meh. I think on balance people (especially men - just look at their reactions on those gender reveal posts) want boys. However we were thrilled to be having a girl after three boys (not all mine), but didn’t go on about it. Unless you were making direct negative comments about boys then forget it.

I think it's really weird that you are thinking about this. It actually makes me think that you are smug that you are having a girl over a boy, and that girls are better for some strange reason??

You are very strange and I would give you a very wide berth.

I wouldn’t apologise; it would just make it worse if she did take offence. To be honest I wouldn’t have given it a second thought and have 2 boys. Never had any desire for a girl at all, but I appreciate it’s important to some people. I would just have thought you were someone who had a strong preference. It’s really not that unusual.

I have one of each and boys are way better, so she'll have the last (smug) laugh 😬😬😬😬😁

My mother was also obsessed with having a girl. She didn’t have another child because she got her girl first time. All I heard growing up was how daughters were best because daughters stay close to their family. We don’t speak now I’m an adult and we’re much closer to my in-laws.

Fair play Op
8 pages of frothing for barely a couple of posts
cracking return on investment

I would not mention it for now, but just try to redeem yourself by acting nice and normal ;-) in front of her going forward.
Hopefully you can get to know her better over time, and then once you’re feeling closer to her, you could always explain it then, in the context of “OMG I’m sorry I behaved like a weirdo when I met you… it was because I thought you had a girl as well, and I’m so sorry I seemed like I was implying it would be better to have a girl - I was a bit doolally with my pregnancy news”..

I'm a boy mum and I wouldn't be bothered. I would have liked one of each but I'm just happy I have my two sons (after going through IVF).

I would be a bit amused if you were OTT but I wouldn't be offended or jealous.

Dont say anything more.Im a boy mum and if someone was ecstatic about having a girl I wouldn't give a shit.

She probably thinks you are an idiot

You sound just as ridiculous as the OP.