Should I apologise to this mum?

Every single mother with only ds I know have all admitted they would have loved a dd too.

I love my ds dearly but would have also loved a dd.

I often get asked if I’ll try for a dd. My answer is no as I’m a single parent, hopefully I get a DGD.

It’s taboo to admit on mumsnet but in the majority of cases I know, my family included, paternal grandmothers always get the short straw.

Why would you assume you’re rubbing her face in not having a girl? She just thought you are a strange person for going on like that not because she’s consumed with jealousy that you got a girl and she didn’t.

Wow OP, I would just have thought you sounded like a right weirdo and wondered whether you were OK, whether the pregnancy was getting to you or you’d had previous losses or something.
Boys are brilliant, I have three. I’m sure girls are brilliant too. I’m absolutely certain gym mum isn’t jealous of you so don’t worry!
Chill our a bit and enjoy the rest of your pregnancy and your lovely daughter when she arrives.

The more you say the worse it gets so I would stop digging!

😂😂you want to say sorry to her because you think she's jealous that your having a girl and she drew the short straw by having a boy.
Mumsnetworld gets stranger by the day 😂

Wow just wow. With an attitude like that I’d think I’d want to stay well clear of you now. You’ve not even been fortunate enough to have a healthy baby yet and you’ve decided you’ve got the superior gender and you can “relax”. How incredible rude and thoughtless. I hope you also think twice about rubbing your pregnancy in the nose of others who might themselves wish they could have children, but can’t. I’d stay well clear and rethink how thoughtless you are.

I have a ds and add, it never occurred to me to prefer one over the other. My only concern was finding out they were ok. We didn't want to find out if we were having a girl or a boy with either pregnancies.
I really don't understand you at all. You sound very weird and I'd avoid you and think what a strange weirdo

I have one of each and would’ve thought you were a weirdo. Hate all this boy stuff/girl stuff nonsense. Children are individuals and each have their own personalities, interests, strengths and weaknesses. Your attitude is pretty disrespectful and you risk projecting this nonsense onto your daughter who may be nothing like you imagine her to be.

Bloody hell...way too harsh.

What makes you think girls are closer to their families as adults?! Do you have statistics to reference or is that your own bias? The only faux pas is your overt gender stereotyping.

“I desperately wanted a girl and honestly would have kept going until I got one”

what the hell would you have done with the boys?!

🤣🤣🤣

What an awful thing to say about your daughter

It’s a personal thing. Not all mums want to be girl mums and vice versa. I only really wanted boys but would have been happy with a girl but it genuinely wasn’t a big deal. Hopefully she was just happy for you. Oh and Congratulations!

You didn’t sound smug you just sounded like a right twat. I wonder if the other mum has stopped laughing yet!

You also sound like you are going to be an absolutely terrible mother. I feel sorry for your poor baby, she didn’t ask for you as a mum and she deserves better. She will be an individual, her own person. She doesn’t have to conform to your idea of what a girl should be. And as for the idea that girls are closer to their mums than boys, what a ridiculous outdated stereotype. I imagine your daughter will be no contact with you by the time she’s 18 unless you can seriously reflect on your attitude and make some changes fast.

Nope - you are definitely being weird.

When I was pregnant I was absolutely convinced I was having a girl, it was long before scans became available that indicated what sex the baby would be.
I bought quite a few babygirl clothes and looked forwards to being the proud mum of a daughter. Then, when the baby was born and the midwife announced... "It's a boy" – it felt so right. He is now a beautiful big strong strapping man.

Moral, as long as your baby is well, be thankful and happy, and NEVER presume one will be more loved than the other.

lol. My DH is much closer to his family than I am to mine. Both very loving and normal families, but he speaks to his mum every day and I speak to mine once a month. We live 20 minutes from his mum and an hour from mine.

You might find that that smugness suits you less well in 20 years.

I’m a bit worried it might have come across as a bit smug to a boy mum and like I was rubbing her face in it

Why? Do you think every boy mum wishes they’d had a girl? Don’t be so silly, forget the conversation and move on

I’d also think she was a twat as I only have boys and am so fed up of bitchy comments about oh having a girl means they will always be close to you, boys always choose their in laws when they get older etc etc, I’d hate to be the boys side when they have children and on and on.

The problematic comment was ‘relax for the rest of pregnancy’
it goes beyond a perfectly acceptable excitement, and moves in to an active fear and disappointment in having a boy, which is unpleasant

i love my 2 nieces beyond reason, I don’t like any of the teenage girls are a nightmare comments

to actively not enjoy pregnancy until confirmed you are having a girl is a direct and deliberate negativity towards boys, not a healthy approach to pregnancy

Jesus fucking Christ. You sound like an absolute delight.

I’d already think OP is a weirdo and not someone I’d want to socialize with or have around my boys tbh as she obviously thinks female children are somehow superior 😆
If she then apologized for rubbing my face in her having a girl I’d think she was really weird, rude and a bitch.
just leave this woman alone OP! Your weirdness isn’t the ladies fault. If she avoids you at the social stuff you know why.

I hope you never tell your daughter this. You’re as bad as the OP is