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AIBU to expect my daughter’s auntie to ensure she gets home safely at 3am?

208 replies

Littlek0406 · 12/07/2026 12:17

My DD who has just turned 18 is expected to get home by herself and her Auntie run pub. I’m talking about 3 o’clock finishes, in a national chain of pubs, in a rough area in city Centre Liverpool.

I was expecting her Auntie to drop her off when she had 3 o’clock finishes, but no she’s expected to walk up and get an Uber. I would give her daughter a lift home without a question.

I can’t say anything because myself and her father are split up and it would end up being a massive argument. I would be saying as a father, she should be dropping her off 😡

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Chickadiddy · 12/07/2026 12:22

Where does she have to walk to to get the Uber?
Can she not book one to come to the door of the pub?

PotteringAlonggotkickedoutandhadtoreregister · 12/07/2026 12:22

If it’s her aunt’s pub presumably she’s still working even after your daughter has finished!

If you are that concerned, you need to go and get her yourself.

WhateverMate · 12/07/2026 12:22

Her aunt is not responsible for her being unable to drive, and yet choosing to do a job with a late finish in the middle of a busy city centre.

Why does being divorced mean you can't have a conversation with her aunt though?

Not that I think you should have a conversation as you'd come across as a CF in my opinion.

Sirzy · 12/07/2026 12:22

Why can’t she just get an uber at the end of her shift? Unless the aunty was driving passed your house on her way home I wouldn’t expect her to give a lift.

PollyBell · 12/07/2026 12:21

She is 18 you can't expect anything

PhilosophicalCheeseSandwich · 12/07/2026 12:21

Was there an arrangement that lifts home would be given?

SweepSqueaks · 12/07/2026 12:20

Is she getting a proper wage for this job? Maybe her auntie has other things to do when the pub shuts. Usually in a pub, a lot of the staff go home ten of fifteen minutes after closing but there is still a lot of work to be done that somebody has to do.

Why does your dd have to walk to get an uber? Can’t it come right to the pub?

FeelingALittleWoozyHere · 12/07/2026 12:20

Walk up where? Can she not get an uber directly from the pub? How would she get home if she was on a night out? At 18 she is an adult and should be capable of getting herself home really