AIBU to expect my daughter’s auntie to ensure she gets home safely at 3am?

Oh, it’s another post where the poster can’t drive, but IF she did, she would give everyone she knows a lift everywhere they wanted to go. Right.

This is a really good point.

OP, your DD needs to get an uber / taxi home, just like all the other people who work there and don't drive. You were wrong to just assume her Aunt would give her a lift after every shift.

Your sister or sister in law has given your 18 summer work (extremely difficult to get) and is presumably giving her valuable bar training.

You should be grateful and your DD should get an uber.

If you make it difficult for the auntie to employ your DD it’s really really easy for her to employ someone else instead.

My teenagers applied for about 40 jobs before getting summer work. How many did your DD apply for?

I think the fact that her boss is her Aunt is a red herring. She's an 18 year old with a job and should be treated the same as anyone else who works there.

yabu to expect auntie to give her a lift home from every single late shift it’s likely not practical and you can’t say what you would do in this situation, as it’s just theoretical.
if your daughter doesn’t want to uber home she should start applying for different jobs that aren’t late shift.

CF means cheeky fucker.

I'm sorry but it's easy to say you'd give her daughter a lift when you don't drive.

And why were you both 'under the illusion' she'd get a lift home?

Surely when accepting the job in the first place she would've discussed this?

If you don’t drive, and don’t work to 3am then you can hardly say what you would do if the tables were turned as it’s all hypothetical!

when she is at work then it’s not her Aunty, it’s her boss. Don’t blur the lines!

Surely it would then mean auntie would need to drop every member off staff off. Not fair to single out her niece for a life surely ?

'Families should look out for one another'.

So why is the OP not looking out for her own daughter?

Passing the responsibility onto someone else, is cheeky fuckery in the extreme.

No, in a town. I worked in a couple of pubs, and they both offered this, as did the social club my sister worked in. I just assumed it was the done thing.

Although now I've thought about it, I do recall working in a wine bar in Manchester city center and walking home from there. I can't remember if there was a staff taxi and I didn't use it through choice, or if it wasn't offered. A homeless lady I once bought a Big Issue from used to insist on walking me to the end of the street, which was both sweet and annoying, as I enjoyed the walk and time alone to decompress after a busy shift.

Totally get where you’re coming friend.
yes your daughter is 18. But that’s still a very young adult, I’d be fearful fir my daughter making her own way home at that time from
anywhere ( and she drives) so I too would want aunt to help with this tbh because families should look out for one another

You expect the aunt to give her a lift home because you would for her child without question... then why aren't you collecting your own child 'without question'! She's not a slave, she's being paid. I worked in a pub at 18 around my studies and it was no one else's responsibility to get me home - I drove.

Do you also expect her to give lifts to every employee? If not, why not? Why is it one rule for your daughter and not the others?

That's a good point.

Why are you not giving your daughter a lift home?

How strange that you think it's unusual not to offer this???

In all my 57 years (and many of them working in pubs) I have literally never come across it.

Do you live very rurally?

Then give your own daughter a lift home without question too.

we’re all assuming she’s working there @Littlek0406 , but you haven’t actually said if she is?

if she’s going socially then that’s definitely not her aunts responsibility.

But where is your daughter's responsibility to get herself home from the job she's chosen to do, knowing the time she'll be finishing?

My kids have worked in pubs, still do, never heard of that.

OP - if she wasn't working with her auntie, who would you be expecting to take her home?

My kids passed their driving test as soon as they could so that they could do this for themselves.

All the pubs worked in had staff taxis for those who didn't drive. Usually, there'd be 2 taxis booked at the end of each night, and staff would arrange for themselves who got in which taxi based on where they lived.

Does the aunt not offer this? It's very unusual for a pub, ime.

So she has a job at her auntie’s pub? Or is she going there to drink?

is her way home on aunties way or does it add a significant time on her journey?

doesn’t your dd drive?

She might find another job if she can't travel home?

If your DD worked in any other bar she'd be expected to get herself home. Why should it be any different just because her aunt runs/owns the place.

She could order a cab from the venue itself.