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AIBU to expect my daughter’s auntie to ensure she gets home safely at 3am?

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Littlek0406 · 12/07/2026 12:17

My DD who has just turned 18 is expected to get home by herself and her Auntie run pub. I’m talking about 3 o’clock finishes, in a national chain of pubs, in a rough area in city Centre Liverpool.

I was expecting her Auntie to drop her off when she had 3 o’clock finishes, but no she’s expected to walk up and get an Uber. I would give her daughter a lift home without a question.

I can’t say anything because myself and her father are split up and it would end up being a massive argument. I would be saying as a father, she should be dropping her off 😡

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Whaleandsnail6 · 12/07/2026 13:14

Yabu.

Its very easy to say you would happily give lifts when you can't actually be expected to

Your dd has a choice and doesn't have to take aunty's job if she doesn't like the getting home.

BitOutOfPractice · 12/07/2026 13:14

I cannot imagine a world in which I I would let either of my nieces get home alone in these circumstances, no matter what their age.

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Littlek0406 · 12/07/2026 13:14

@millymollymoomoo
Thank you 🌸 families are supposed to look out for one another, finally someone who agrees with me!

I’m not a cheeky fucker at all, but I would give her daughter a lift home!

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Lentilcakes · 12/07/2026 13:13

I’d be paying for her Uber in lieu of being able to pick her up. I don’t drive either for the same reason as you (luckily DH does) and if I was in this situation it’s what I’d do.

ThunderThunderThunderThunderCats · 12/07/2026 13:11

Cosyblankets · 12/07/2026 13:09

I'm from near Liverpool and I think I probably know where you mean but there's no way I would be assuming someone would be giving me a lift home at that time of the night / morning.

Where? Because I'm struggling to place anywhere in town that's classed as rough now. The closest I can think of is Matthew Street area, but I wouldn't even class that as rough, and it's less than a 2 minute walk to get to the road.

LOCOJDS · 12/07/2026 13:11

WhateverMate · 12/07/2026 13:02

Because the aunt has a pub to run and probably doesn't want to be walking down the road to wait for the Uber after a long shift.

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I meant stay in the pub with the Aunty until the uber arrives.

ThunderThunderThunderThunderCats · 12/07/2026 13:09

ThreadGuardDog · 12/07/2026 13:08

Lots of areas in the city centre are traffic free.

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They are, but you don't have to walk far to get to a road. And at 3am on a weekend it'll be heaving with people. She'd be in no danger.

Cosyblankets · 12/07/2026 13:09

I'm from near Liverpool and I think I probably know where you mean but there's no way I would be assuming someone would be giving me a lift home at that time of the night / morning.

ThreadGuardDog · 12/07/2026 13:08

Chickadiddy · 12/07/2026 12:22

Where does she have to walk to to get the Uber?
Can she not book one to come to the door of the pub?

Lots of areas in the city centre are traffic free.

LiveLuvLaugh · 12/07/2026 13:04

I assume your ex’s sister did the favour by giving your DD the job in the first place. Unless she has to drive near your house get home herself it’s not reasonable to expect her to give your DD a lift. If this job isn’t working out for your DD because she can’t get home without walking to a place where she can pick up an Uber could she find a different job?

SweepSqueaks · 12/07/2026 13:03

WhateverMate · 12/07/2026 12:58

It's like when people say if they had a spare bedroom they'd give it to the homeless lol.

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It is. When I came back from living in Australia I used to carry a print out of the application process in my bag so that when people told me that they thought I was mad for coming back I could get them out and start asking for their details to fill them in. Turns out that people didn’t want to leave their extended family, good careers or decent schools to emit after all.

paaaj · 12/07/2026 13:03

SweepSqueaks · 12/07/2026 13:00

Then get an uber at 2.30am to the pub and then escort your dd home.

Use the money you are saving from not giving your niece lifts.

This is the solution OP. You’re saying you’d have no issues with the cost and extra time of dropping someone off if you could drive. So uber to your dd and then go home.

ImPamDoove · 12/07/2026 13:02

‘Auntie’ makes it sound like she’s a small child.

WhateverMate · 12/07/2026 13:02

LOCOJDS · 12/07/2026 12:56

why can't she stay with the Aunty until an uber arrives. I wouldn't expect her to walk to get an uber at 3am

Because the aunt has a pub to run and probably doesn't want to be walking down the road to wait for the Uber after a long shift.

ClarasSisters · 12/07/2026 13:02

Littlek0406 · 12/07/2026 12:42

@AgnesX @Chickadiddy @Frequency @hereforthelolz @PhilosophicalCheeseSandwich @PollyBell @ShetlandishMum @SweepSqueaks @SweepSqueaks @WhateverMate @Yetanotherone12

My DD can’t drive, I can’t drive because I’ve got Epilepsy.

She gets given her shifts by Auntie she doesn’t choose them shift.

She wouldn’t mind staying on I’m getting a lift to my auntie.

We were just under the illusion that her auntie would give her a lift home, as I would for her daughter if I drove.

And I don’t understand what CF means, but I’m thinking it’s not a nice thing to say.

So you made an assumption but it didn't occur to either you or your daughter to check?

ThunderThunderThunderThunderCats · 12/07/2026 13:02

What part of Liverpool City Centre (don't know anywhere in town that's rough now), @Littlek0406 ? You also don't have to walk very far from any pub in town in order to reach an accessible road to get an Uber. Plus Ubers and taxis are a dime a dozen in the early hours in town! My dd has been getting herself home from Edge Lane in Ubers in the early hours whenever she's on a late shift. Not seeing the problem TBH.

mamajong · 12/07/2026 13:01

Yabu. Its normal to look for and get a job that you can get to or from and consider the logistics up front, especially as an adult but even for a weekend job. DD has a bar job and if I am free I can occasionally take and pick her but usually she gets a bus there and a cab home if she finishes late. You can track cabs now so no need to hang around outside until they arrive, and she carries a rape alarm as an extra precaution. She should have had the conversation about travel arrangements before starting rather than make assumptions. Her aunt probably has post close stuff to do and/or doesn't want to cause issues with other staff by giving her niece special treatment.

SweepSqueaks · 12/07/2026 13:00

Then get an uber at 2.30am to the pub and then escort your dd home.

Use the money you are saving from not giving your niece lifts.

WhateverMate · 12/07/2026 12:58

Shinyandnew1 · 12/07/2026 12:55

Oh, it’s another post where the poster can’t drive, but IF she did, she would give everyone she knows a lift everywhere they wanted to go. Right.

It's like when people say if they had a spare bedroom they'd give it to the homeless lol.

Shinyandnew1 · 12/07/2026 12:57

No, I wouldn’t expect the person running a pub to give people who work there lifts home, whether they were 18 or 65. They are responsible for getting there and back themselves or they don’t do the job.

Maybe she should find herself a different job.

Happytaytos · 12/07/2026 12:57

Unless the aunty lives next door to you then YABU.

You don't drive so you have no idea what it's like giving lifts...

Powerbungalow · 12/07/2026 12:57

Littlek0406 · 12/07/2026 12:42

@AgnesX @Chickadiddy @Frequency @hereforthelolz @PhilosophicalCheeseSandwich @PollyBell @ShetlandishMum @SweepSqueaks @SweepSqueaks @WhateverMate @Yetanotherone12

My DD can’t drive, I can’t drive because I’ve got Epilepsy.

She gets given her shifts by Auntie she doesn’t choose them shift.

She wouldn’t mind staying on I’m getting a lift to my auntie.

We were just under the illusion that her auntie would give her a lift home, as I would for her daughter if I drove.

And I don’t understand what CF means, but I’m thinking it’s not a nice thing to say.

But you would not give her dd a lift because you can't drive....?

LOCOJDS · 12/07/2026 12:56

why can't she stay with the Aunty until an uber arrives. I wouldn't expect her to walk to get an uber at 3am

Wayk · 12/07/2026 12:56

I have a good idea where you are talking about. We were there recently and it can be rough.

Even if auntie walked or got someone to walk your daughter to the uber. I too wouldn’t be comfortable.

She be better off looking for a job somewhere like browns or similar near John Lewis.

Itsthewoluff · 12/07/2026 12:55

It’s easy to say I would, but when it’s actually you being inconvenienced giving lifts, it gets a bit tiresome.