AIBU to expect my daughter’s auntie to ensure she gets home safely at 3am?

Concert Square is less than a 2 minute walk to Hanover Street! It's also bloody heaving at 3am most nights! My dd frequently goes out to Concert Square and manages to safely get home (whilst intoxicated) every time.

I'm not sure I'd class Concert Square as "rough".

Lols, concert square is not a rough area of Liverpool 😂

I wouldn’t expect an 18yo to get a lift home after work unless the aunt lives really close to the niece.

How? You don't drive.

If she's old enough to work, she is old enough to get herself home by Uber

Personally I would hate the thought of my 18 yr old granddaughter trying to find her way home safely after finishing work at 3 a.m.

When I was 18 I worked a second job in the evening at a Top Rank dance hall in the south of England and management made sure every staff member (& there were lots of us youngsters) were supplied with a taxi home.
That was in the late 1960’s & they had a duty of care to ensure all staff had a safe way of getting home because we finished work in the early hours of the morning.

OP - I hope your dtr finds a method of getting herself home safely. No matter their age, as a parent we will always worry about our children’s safety.

With respect to, you can’t drive, so you wouldn’t.

There must be other people working at the pub. Can she make an arrangement with someone to walk her to the taxi rank/ Uber stop.

If it was a one off I may expect the auntie to give a lift, but not for regular, scheduled shifts.

She's an employer though Im not sure most employers arrange their staff's commute, thats on the member of staff to support

There are some clubs or pubs that do taxis home, thats not across the board, many businesses simply cant afford that

You cannot drive though!

This is like saying you'd give a kidney to someone when you know you're not a match.

Your 18 year old daughter accepted a job without so much as checking that she'd be given a lift home.

And this apparently is all her aunt's fault?

I can see where she gets her entitlement from.

My DC friends works in a bar until 3am and this still happens if they cannot drive themselves.

OP your DD needs to look at booking a taxi, use a registered company such as Alpha. I'm sure if it's close enough to walk home it'll be less than a tenner. I know it's a lot but it'll keep her safer.

What does her dad say?

DS works in a pub kitchen. Before he was able to drive, he was dependent on one of us dropping him off and picking up. The manager would always wait for us to arrive rather than leaving DS standing on his own in a dark and remote car park which is common courtesy and something we appreciated him doing. I would expect in this scenario that the manager sees the staff members safely into a taxi. Not pay for the taxis.

‘But I would give her daughter a lift home’

NO, you wouldn’t, because you can’t drive.

It’s so easy to promise imaginary things: isn’t it?

I think your daughter should find herself a different job. One she can get to and home again on her own.

Even if aunty paid for a taxi, it still wouldn't solve ops issue with dd not being able to be picked up at the pub due to no traffic area.

Op, if your daughter isn't happy with the arrangement, then she needs to decline the job

It’s not unusual in my experience. The employer didn’t usually pay for them but staff who lived in the same area would share taxis.

You don’t drive and I’m guessing also don’t work a night shift, so you can’t say what you would do.

you can uber to your daughter though and collect her.

@Littlek0406 are you close by, could you collect her?

If not, then have the argument with your Ex. No young lady should be out walking alone at 3am. Maybe your Ex can pick her up. Some men just need to told of the dangers to see them.

Exactly. I am really surprised you’d think she’s responsible for getting another albeit young adult home because they’re related. If it bothers you that
much, you can go and get your dd.

I haven’t been to Liverpool. I am presuming the streets may still be busy at that time of night.

Does the aunt live on the premises?

She's an employee. She is expected to get herself to and from work.
Her aunty May well have a drink while she's working so camtvseive anyway!it's unfair expected someone who has finished a long late shift to them have to drive afterwards

No you wouldn't because you can't drive!

I would give her daughter a lift home!

You keep saying this, but you don't actually drive.

You are.

If you want your daughter to get home from work, you can get an Uber and meet her at the end of a shift.

I must be way behind the times but when I worked in pubs the landlord saw the bar staff into a paid for taxi after every night shift.

@Littlek0406 Never "assume" people are going to do something for you without discussing it first. Also don't say you would have given your niece a ride had the tables been turned because you can't drive so that would never have happened. How about you take an uber to get your daughter? Or she tries to find another job?

You can get an uber to meet her at 3am. You’re not paying to run, insure and put petrol in a car, so it should be fine. Don’t assume that other people should pay to transport you or your relatives to and from work.