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Queuing to board?

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holachicatita · 12/07/2026 11:19

So.. currently waiting to board my flight and me and my husband have had a disagreement. Seats are already allocated but I still like to queue and get on the flight once the gates open. He likes to sit and wait until the last minute, looking down his nose at all the silly little people queuing. AIBU to start to queue once the gates open?

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ZanyPoet · 12/07/2026 13:47

TimeFlysWhenYoureHavingRum · 12/07/2026 13:46

Just book priority boarding.

half the plane has priority boarding, that never really helps

TimeFlysWhenYoureHavingRum · 12/07/2026 13:46

Just book priority boarding.

Evaka · 12/07/2026 13:46

Never queue and i fly a couple of times a month. Utter waste of time and energy.

DancingLions · 12/07/2026 13:44

The last time I didn't queue, I ended up in a tense situation with the couple behind. The man had put his coat and rucksack in the locker over my seat so I took them out and gave them to him saying the space was for cases (the lockers were full). The woman went to start on at me and he shushed her, obviously didn't want a scene. But its just awkward.

Its easier if you can get on earlier and get your stuff in. If I don't have stuff to go overhead I don't care.

Denim4ever · 12/07/2026 13:43

So they call you up in batches when you board. The advantage of queuing when it's your turn is the overheads aren't so full if you are using them. Also, you go queue when they ask you to obvs not just sit there

ZanyPoet · 12/07/2026 13:40

Brokene · 12/07/2026 13:35

This is also why I board as quickly as possible. My husband and I once paid to sit together and a family had just sat in an entire row and just refused to move. We (everyone who was booked in that row) were told my the cabin crew they couldn’t force them to move so we needed to take whatever was left. I also once booked the window in business class. Got on to find a man in it. He refused to move. Cabin crew told me just to take the aisle seat. I refused and sat in someone else’s window seat. It was chaos for a while because obviously the person whose seat I was in was complaining as well but they did finally remove the man from my seat and we all got the seats we wanted originally. So in my experience if don’t care where you sit then board last. If you want the seats you’ve booked then get on quickly.

that's a disgrace, why didn't the cabin crew do something, they were so unprofessional.

GertrudePerkinsPaperyThing · 12/07/2026 13:39

ERthree · 12/07/2026 13:21

Heathrow T3 B. Twice i have called this way, Start with the back rows and fill it forward.

Makes sense tbh! Then people aren’t pushing past others putting bags up etc

Brokene · 12/07/2026 13:35

faithfultoGeorgeMichael · 12/07/2026 12:15

I used to be like DH but I board last a few years ago and an aggressive man refused to move out of my seat. I was forced to sit in the centre of the back of economy when I'd booked and paid for a premium economy. Cabin Crew just let him do as he pleased. I got no £ back. Now I board early to make sure i get my seat.

This is also why I board as quickly as possible. My husband and I once paid to sit together and a family had just sat in an entire row and just refused to move. We (everyone who was booked in that row) were told my the cabin crew they couldn’t force them to move so we needed to take whatever was left. I also once booked the window in business class. Got on to find a man in it. He refused to move. Cabin crew told me just to take the aisle seat. I refused and sat in someone else’s window seat. It was chaos for a while because obviously the person whose seat I was in was complaining as well but they did finally remove the man from my seat and we all got the seats we wanted originally. So in my experience if don’t care where you sit then board last. If you want the seats you’ve booked then get on quickly.

AnonyMumAuDHD · 12/07/2026 13:29

Am in the same boat as you - DH always waits until everyone has faffed, but I like to get on, get settled in to my seat and be sure my bags are in the locker above. I just go ahead and get on. He’s an adult he can join when he wants and we’re not joined at the hip.

Mum2Fergus · 12/07/2026 13:25

You’re an adult, do what you want.

GeorgeMichaelsCat · 12/07/2026 13:24

Optimist1 · 12/07/2026 11:21

Those who board earlier have first dibs at the overhead lockers, so YANBU. I can't bear to have to stash my bag four rows back from my seat!

Me too. I've waited before and every fucker uses your overhead locker and sits elsewhere

Biker47 · 12/07/2026 13:24

If more people could figure out that you can usually lie your cabin case on it's side rather than laying it flat on in the overhead lockers, making more space for everyone else's bags, then I wouldn't need to queue while having assigned seating, but since many people are idiots, I'd rather just queue and not be left with nowhere to fit my bag.

ERthree · 12/07/2026 13:21

catmothertes1 · 12/07/2026 11:55

I've never been in an airport where they boarded people in order of seats and rows. Calling people with priority boarding first,yes. However calling other people individually,no.

Heathrow T3 B. Twice i have called this way, Start with the back rows and fill it forward.

mondaytosunday · 12/07/2026 13:20

I go up when they call my area. There’s no point standing there waiting. If everyone stands up at once it make it ridiculous the staff trying to have people board in a reasonable manner. I’m not waiting til last minute, just when they call my row group.

Thebinisrightthere · 12/07/2026 13:17

I'm always one of the last to board through choice. This year we do have priority boarding as we've paid for an extra bag each on board

Mygardenshedisfallingdown · 12/07/2026 13:11

It never fails to amaze me how people have to stand up when they are a minute or two from a bus stop then stagger if the bus has to brake suddenly. One elderly woman did this recently and nearly face planted the wind screen. She was screaming ans swearing at the driver. Wanted her name, she was going to sue the company.
Someone pointed out that she'd been sitting down then stood up when the bus stop was 2 minutes away. Bus was nearly empty and that cctv would show what happened was her own fault.
The driver asked her if she was okay, the reply was 'fuck you' and she got off the bus nearly leaving her walking stick behind.
Why do the idiots do it? Also walking down stairs on a moving bus. What's the rush?

Marycontrarygarden · 12/07/2026 13:07

ZanyPoet · 12/07/2026 12:48

you will have to queue at some point anyway unless you are front row. You can't just stroll in once everybody is already seated, so I'd rather go quickly inside, sit down and let people stand for ages in the aisle waiting for others to stop faffing and blocking the way.

It's a choice but neither is "wrong".

Someone has to start boarding at some point.

True

Yetone · 12/07/2026 13:01

catmothertes1 · 12/07/2026 12:52

I mostly fly Ryanair because they are the only ones who vaguely flight from where I live in Scotland (vaguely because 2 hours drive to airport) and vaguely to where I need to flight to in France and they never call by rows.

It is usually large long haul planes that call by row.

UhOhRatPoo · 12/07/2026 13:01

BringBackCatsEyes · 12/07/2026 12:54

Many people lose their heads when travelling - they get anxious. Where possible I let them do their own thing.

This is so true. I’ve worked in aviation claims for decades and the shift in behaviour when people cross the threshold of an airport still astonishes me. I’d love a psychologist to do a PhD on it one day.

The thread about the frozen breast milk is a case in point.

Chilly80 · 12/07/2026 13:00

I'm with your husband

Yetone · 12/07/2026 13:00

Sugarnspicenallthingsnaice · 12/07/2026 12:45

Depends.

If we've arrived early and had a good run through security etc, I'm often so sick of sitting around that I'll get up and queue just for something to do!

But there's a special place in hell for the twats who bunch up around the front of the queue and block everyone's way before their group is even called.

I think the industry calls them gate lice.

sohard · 12/07/2026 12:57

It depends on whether I have a suitcase that needs to go on the overhead lockers.

BringBackCatsEyes · 12/07/2026 12:54

Many people lose their heads when travelling - they get anxious. Where possible I let them do their own thing.

BillieWiper · 12/07/2026 12:53

I'd not queue knowing I had a booked seat. Only to try and commandeer a preferable one if it was first come first served. But even then the decent seats would no doubt be booked out by others. So I suppose it would only be to try ensure seats together if you didn't choose in advance?
Else I'm happy to be the last on the plane. And usually I am due to my chaotic travel brain!

catmothertes1 · 12/07/2026 12:52

Arlanymor · 12/07/2026 11:58

I didn't say individually. But every flight I have been on they have done priority and then 'Boarding rows A-E' and so on and so forth. It's never been a rugby scrum. With the exception of boarding planes with only eight seats and then it's done by weight!

I mostly fly Ryanair because they are the only ones who vaguely flight from where I live in Scotland (vaguely because 2 hours drive to airport) and vaguely to where I need to flight to in France and they never call by rows.

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